On deciding your own space: Do you like having roommates?

Philippines
January 7, 2013 1:25pm CST
Back in College, I did had my experience living away from my family and have had lived in a dormitory for a couple of months. During my first weeks, it was quite home sickening but then as the months had progress, I did manage to cope up living alone. Every weekend I do come home from my family and they do also visit me once in a while at the dorm. Lucky that the space I got when I was still in College was quite cozy, it was packed because the usual dorms in my country have no private space, you need to share bathrooms, kitchen etc. lucky that I had stayed in a dorm which was big and most likely private. I had my own bathroom, my own kitchen, my little living room and bed in one whole room, rather than the typical dorm in my country which is a room, and common bathroom and kitchen. My classmates that were also living at dorms were envy that I had lived in a private somewhat “condo” like dormitory. Because they find it hard to adjust on living with roommates as opposed to my situation, where I don’t have any roommates and I live alone. If given the chance to have your own space for schooling, do you prefer having roommates? Or do you like to live alone? , personally I rather go living alone rather than sharing my own space with others. Somehow, living with roommates can be annoying most especially when you can’t get along with them. Please share your thoughts…
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
But of course I want to choose a dorm or a condo type unit for my own. I am not a loner but I prefer a peaceful place to live. I am also very meticulous when it comes to my personal things- and I am an organized person as well. I want my things in proper places always- and please..hands off
@Renhard (3480)
• Jamaica
7 Jan 13
That's also what I am afraid of at times. I feel that person might trouble might things. I do want the experience but I don't want to have to suffer any consequences. Do you get what I mean?
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
@jaiho2009: Sometimes, you just want to have an own space wherein you don't feel worry that your things will get messed up just because of your roommate. Thanks for your response.
@Mavic123456 (7931)
• Thailand
27 Jan 13
No I don't like to have a roommate all the more roommates. First I don't like to be bothered with what I am in the house. If I want to walk around the house whatever I look it will be okay because I have no room mate. I like living alone, it is quieter, if I don't like to sweep the floor because I prioritize mylot no problem. If I want to do yoga, no problem no one will look at my odd and funny positions.. I can think better. I like being along, if I need to talk to someone I can chat with my family. so still no problem.
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
I get what you are feeling, most especially when you like some little privacy and you can't hold such privacy because you know your roomies will go over noticing you actions, that's quite intimidating at times. Thanks for your response...
@maximax8 (27048)
13 Jan 13
When I was a live at college I liked to live in my own room on my own. I didn't want to share a dorm with other female students. I was happy to stay in backpacker dorms when I was on my travels however. The further education time is from age 16 to 18 years old. From age 16 to 17 years old I had a study bedroom overlooking the River Thames. I stayed there in term time and went home at the weekends plus in the college holidays. For my second year I lived in study bedroom at a halls of residence in South London. Many of the other students living there were older than me and were studying at universities in London. At university in my early twenties I liked having my own space too. In year two coming home in December from the Netherlands study placement I had a challenging time finding anywhere to live near to the university. I found somewhere in the end. On the teaching practices far away I had to live near the school. I asked around and found some great places for the weeks then. The schools near the university were Welsh speaking. We had to travel further away to get to English speaking schools.
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
Thank you for sharing your experience in terms of having your own space, we do have different experiences back then when we were schooling and at the same time far away from our loved ones. Have a great day.
• India
8 Jan 13
Hi heaytheblogger. When we are young then it is better to live in room with room mates rather than being alone. But when we grow up we require privacy and like to have the things the way we want to. So that is why most of us prefer to have private rooms rather than having a room mate. Even I am like you and have same opinion. But I was not lucky to meet my parents so often. It used to be like twice in a year.. Anyways have a nice day... ~=SuperShames=~
• Philippines
9 Jan 13
Sometimes, having roommates at a very young age is good because you know you can get along most especially that you are on the same wavelength because of your age gap. but yeah you are right, when it tends to get older, we opt to go on our private lives. Thanks for your response...
• China
8 Jan 13
When i was in the university, I have 5 roommates, we got along with each other very well, just like sisters. Although privact space is essential, the friendship is also important. I like the feeling to live together and go out together with our laugh and gossip.
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
somehow living with roommates that you can get along with stirs up genuine friendship. Thanks for your response.
• Indonesia
8 Jan 13
When I went to college, I never have a roommate. I was always alone in the room. But if I have a roomate,I will lose my privacy of course. If My roommate is good person, I think its ok for me, we can share and chat overnight. But if I have bad roommate, Everytime bothering us and annoying us. I better not to have a roommate. Inthe end, I still choose not to have a roommate.
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
somehow, it's hard to pick whether or not you got a good or bad roommate that's why other opt to go living privately. Thanks for your response.
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
I had several roommates back in college and it was an interesting experience that needed some getting used to. There were some good and bad lessons about it. Like you'll learn how to share and also how to fight and make up. It's a nice experience that you can relate to in the real world once you work after college.
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Somehow adjusted is pretty much needed most especially when it's your first time to go living with other people. and like you said, yes it may have good or bad times. but in the end, the experience is most important because you learn most from it. Thanks for sharing.
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Well, I haven't tried living with someone sleeping in my room (apart from my husband) because I value my privacy so much. Way back in college, I have rented my own room, no room mates! It is just not comfy for me having another person in the bedroom.
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Sometimes, that's what keeps us preferring living alone rather than being with someone else because we'd like to keep a distance in terms of keeping things in private. Thanks for your response.
@Janebaby (47)
• China
8 Jan 13
Actually,if there is a chance to choose, i prefer to live alone rather than live with others. I can not stand that while i am going to sieep ,the other is talking or making noise.
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
HAHA! This somehow true, usually when you have roommates and they keep big noises it's hard to put a good sleep. Thanks for your response.
• India
8 Jan 13
Hi friend, good to know that you got a chance to live alone, i don't have any problem in sharing my room with my friends if it is necessary, otherwise i will prefer to stay alone. As you mentioned sharing our room with others may give some unwanted issues. But, if it is necessary we must face it
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
True, if there is no other choice, then so be it. but somehow glad that i was able to pull off living with myself, and thanks to my Dad and Sister who find the place that i stayed during my College years. Thanks for your share.
@ARIES1973 (9494)
• Legaspi, Philippines
8 Jan 13
If I would have a choice, I want to be alone in my room. However, so sad I don't have a choice. That's what my daughter told me when we are planning to renovate the house, "pity my mom, she cannot have her own room. She will always share with dad." Well, anyway sometimes having a roommate can also be fun especially if youhave the same likes and preferences. Have a nice day!
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Somehow, it you meet their interests and you have the same value in terms of keeping the place well organized it's a fun experience. Thanks for your response.
• United States
8 Jan 13
I've had roommates in my first year of college. The rent is a lot cheaper so it's great. I'm a private person so I thought it might be a little troublesome to share a room with others but actually I didn't seem them a lot. I went home every other weekend and my roommates were also gone a lot for trips and visiting home so we had a lot of personal space. Ideally I would like to live alone but because of money, I usually end up living with other people. It's not too bad.
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Glad that you had a great experience living with other people. however, if i am in such situation, i think i can't bare living with others since i am so much private and prefer living alone if i am away from home. Thanks for your response.
@marguicha (82945)
• Chile
8 Jan 13
I have briefly lived with people other than my closest family and have never liked the experience. I love to travel with friends, but living an everyday life with them is not nice for me. I am too picky as cleanness does and many people just won`t bother.
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Sometimes, it's quite hard to cope up with other's most especially if they really don't mind their mess in the house, sometimes if you are too meticulous most especially in your rooms it's somehow disturbing to clean someone else's mess. Thanks for your share.
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
I know that some would want to live with friends coz they feel that they could hang out together all the time and be study buddies. But I prefer to have my own space. It's not that I am selfish with my things. I am just trying to avoid inconveniences, disagreements or arguments if I would be living with somebody else. Besides, I want peace and quiet when I am studying. I am not that introvert, but I'd rather to be in a quiet place than be surrounded all the time with friends.
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
True, it really depends on the person if he/she prefers to go living alone or living with other people. Thanks for your response.
@Renhard (3480)
• Jamaica
7 Jan 13
I am going to college september of this year and I am looking forward to living on campus and away from family for once in my lifetime. I really need a time for change to be away from all this mess. It is getting to me. I do like company and it would be quite fun to have a roommmate, but if I had the options to choose whether I will live alone or not, I prefer to live alone. Living alone means less problems, especially when is study time. During time to hang with friends you can still do so by visiting but I would prefer to have a place for myself. Not to say I couldn't managed staying with a roommate, cause I can. If it is mandatory that I have a roommate, I still wouldn't have a problem. I just hope we both can get along fine without any problems. Just hope we both understand each other and hope that they know when it is time to idle or study. College is for studying it with be cruel if you messed up such chances because of someone living with you; failing those exams because you can't get quietness while in the dorm or you can't get any sleep because your roommate is talking late and loud on the phone would be brutal. There are so many disadvantages when it comes on to room mates but there are also advantages. If you have a good roommate, especially if you both do the same courses you can help each other to study. It would build your knowledge dramatically. So I feel it is safe to say it is really dependent on many things, but at the end of it all I prefer to be safe than sorry; I prefer to live alone.
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
True, there can be pros and cons on living with a roommate however, it's your decision if you can stand living with someone else, or you rather want to live alone. Thanks for your response.