I Love Him

@MaylaJay (349)
January 8, 2013 4:05pm CST
So, I'm in a semi-typical situation here. I love this guy and I told him I liked him and he said he likes me too. BUT (hate that word) he doesn't want to start a long distance relationship because they "never work". I told him that they only don't work because the couple goes in believing that it won't work. He is still convinced there's no way it can happen. Here's the question: do you think long distance can work?
4 responses
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
8 Jan 13
If you want something to work, you can make it work. You can't make it work if he doesn't know that you love him. You have to let him know and then take it from there. Both parties must want the relationship to work. It won't work if only one partner wants to work on the relationship. Good luck with your friend.
@MaylaJay (349)
9 Jan 13
I'm afraid it wouldn't be fair for me to put that on him. If he's not comfortable, then I don't want to push it. Then again I'm tired of excuses: I want him to man up.
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
9 Jan 13
I totally get that. Seems like it would be the least he could do. Maybe he's just scared.
@MaylaJay (349)
9 Jan 13
I suppose it's always come back to fear.
• India
28 Mar 17
You need to make him understand. And more importantly, you need to make him understand one thing that there is no harm in trying. I mean, what do you have to lose, right? Give it a shot. If it doesn't work, you both will still be happy that at least you tried. And, if it works, then Bingo! ;-)
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
9 Jan 13
That all depends on how the couple will take care of their relationship. If both have the same sentiments on how to build a strong relationship no matter how far the distance is between them, then it will always work.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
12 Jan 13
If a guy doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, then he's just not that into you. We say it's complicated; it's not complicated. If he wanted to be with you, he would do it in the right way. Because otherwise, if he is doesn't accept you the way you want the both of you to be together, even if he says he does like you, your relationship (whatever it is) is not going to be in a way that will make you happy. Guys who want to make you happy will do it in the right way, no buts no ifs, no moral baggage attached. I'm sorry if this isn't what you want to hear, this is just my opinion, take care, good luck.