She just gave up

Canada
January 9, 2013 5:13pm CST
My grandmother was diagnosed with cancer in her stomach. She was on treatment for about a year. She decided that she was ready to go and refused any more treatments. She was in her early seventies. I understand her point and we discussed it openly for a while. It was her choice even though I did not agree. I'm not the one suffering so I can't argue with her. She passed away and I really miss her. Would you of argued with her and forced treatment on her.
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@marguicha (102148)
• Chile
11 Jan 13
I think that sometimes the greatest act of love we can do is to let go. I don{t believe in extending life more that what it was meant to be. That, for me, is just another act of our pride.
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@jalucia (1435)
• United States
10 Jan 13
I would have taken your standpoint. I would not have wanted to lose her, at all. But on the other hand, you can't force something on somebody that they are uncomfortable with and you are not walking in their shoes. I am very, very sorry for your loss. I would have just told her how much I love her and how much she means to me. And I would continue to tell her that to this day.
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
It is hard to know that our love one is sick and has the possibility to die because of it. What more could be painful than hearing her say that she is giving up her life? That is somehow nerve-wrecking! But I do understand that sick people might become hopeless when they knew about their prognosis. So what should weigh more- being in debt with the medical bill or to have you loved one stay longer? But if the patient is already giving up and you see no progress with the treatment, I think that eventhough it would hurt us so much, we just have to let her go.
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@Bhebelen14 (5206)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
I understand how you feel, my grandmother who past away few years ago also decided to refused any treatment instead let her go because she want to rest and be with my grandfather. Although it hard to accept and let her go but we respected her decision. We never argued with her instead we make her feel comfortable and do our best to express our love to her. I think in this situation we better not to argue or forced our old relatives or anyone to undergo any treatment if they don't want too we just need to respect their decision.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
10 Jan 13
I would have wanted to argue for my own selfish reasons of not wanting to lose them but I wouldn't do it... Your right when you said you weren't the one suffering. I would have thought about that too. And if someone has truly had enough, just let them be in peace is how I feel about it...
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• United States
9 Jan 13
NO way I would never do such a thing to a loved one I think if they are ready to go let them go. I would not watch them do this because I don't ever want to remember this for the rest of my days. so,I would wish them the best and leave.
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