money over friendship

@rotloi2 (321)
Malaysia
January 14, 2013 6:43am CST
we are in the same college but I have graduated before all of them. We have misunderstanding about this money issue. We rented a room. when I demanded my deposit of $300 ,they screw it .should i just leave the $300 behind for friendship ? they don even give me penny or spend me something...
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@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
14 Jan 13
Sorry to hear that they are doing this to you. I think you should try and get your money. Don't let something like this go because they will start to think they can do this over and over again. Which is not fair at all to you. They need to be responsible or there actions really are going to destroy the friendship.
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• Kiryat Ata, Israel
14 Jan 13
Did you consider that if he takes away his 300$, his friends will have to pay it since they all live in the same apartment so far. They will have to split the 300$ between them and they maybe think he can still stay with them as a friend until his contract is over. They are students and they don't have a lot of money, students usually study and if they work, they don't work a lot. Maybe he can stay with them and help them in their studies and have fun doing so, he will look for a job and they will be able to help him too if they have time...It will be a lot more expansive if he leaves them and find his own apartment and pay rent...it is more expansive than living with partners.
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@djohalo2 (27)
• Netherlands
14 Jan 13
There is this issue about money and friends, and my opinion is that friends always go over money. Obviously this doesn't mean that I should spend a lot of money on my friends, but if you had to choose between money or friends I would go for friends. And in your situation I can easily say that those guys aren't "real" friends, because money is now part of the situation and suddenly they aren't helping you know. So my piece of advice is that those guys are not good friends, so try to get your $300 and ask them why they did such a thing.
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• United States
14 Jan 13
I completely agree with you. It is awful that they would do this. And they aren't true friends. When they try and pull this over like that. And once they know they can get away with it they will keep trying. I hope that the money will be paid back.
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@stringer321 (2924)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
14 Jan 13
If you finished college before them, there is a chance you are a good student, am I right ? Your average is high and you will have many jobs opportunities. I would try to stay friend with those friends, keep in touch and let go of those 300$ , get a job and maybe you will be so rich and you will be able to help them find jobs too. Maybe your friendship will help you in the future a lot more than the 300$ they don't give you back. Think about it. You will maybe one day make something together and help each other and joke about the 300$ that you didn't take for leaving the college too soon. You paid your price for being a better student (I hope you didn't drop out).
• Philippines
14 Jan 13
for me i think you friends didnt value your friendship because of what they did... its much better of you get your $300 and ask them why their doing those things to you. after talking to them and hearing their answers you will know if you still want to be friends with them or not. hope my comment helps you.
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@shahmi (81)
• Sri Lanka
14 Jan 13
Hey Friend, I think you also can understand that they are not real friends. I think you leave your friendship for $300
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@Kane121 (43)
14 Jan 13
My rule one in life , I am the most important person to me. Do not let your friends hurt you. I have faced those screw-guys and I got rid of them.
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• India
15 Jan 13
Friendship and money should never cross each other.Demand them to give your money back If they were your friends they would have given you the money. It would be good of you if you give them some time period so that they could graduate out of college and get the money back from owner and give back
@rotloi2 (321)
• Malaysia
24 Jan 13
I have given them very short period of time due to intervention by older adult. they finally agreed to pay me.. i have taken the money of mine
@ZoeJoy (1395)
• United States
14 Jan 13
It is always best to get everything in writing when dealing with money - even among family and friends. One time, I borrowed some money from a friend. Then I paid her back with a check. Months later, she said I had not paid her back. I went back in my bank account's records and showed her where my bank had withdrawn the check that I had given her. Thank goodness, I had paid her back with a check. So it just showed me that even among friends, it is best to leave some evidence or record about any money issues between me and my friends or family.
@rotloi2 (321)
• Malaysia
24 Jan 13
this is a good mean that proof is always there in order to convince my friend they owe me instead using our memory.
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
14 Jan 13
I would leave them but will not say a word. Maybe someday they will realize their mistake so it is better to leave them without saying any hurtful words.
@rotloi2 (321)
• Malaysia
24 Jan 13
words hurting will surely lose a friend eventhough felt sorry .. in my culture, words is pain and reponsible... your choice to leave without hurting them with words is greatest decision
@squallming (1776)
• Malaysia
27 Mar 13
When it comes to money, most people will show their true self. Most people would do anything for money. In your case, they should have returned the deposit to you without another thought as it is your money and everyone will get back their deposit anyway. Perhaps you can go and meet with the room owner. Get your deposit from the room owner instead. Otherwise, you have to choose whether you want to lose your $300 or lose your so called friends who do not want to return your deposit.
• Marikina, Philippines
27 Mar 13
Friends should help one another. They must contribute money too, but if they do no have money yet, you must understand them too. Hmmmm... it is better to talk it over. It is very difficult if we're just broke our friendship because of money. Everything has its solution to a problem.
@KrauseHome (35292)
• United States
22 Jan 13
Personally that is always a problem when renting a room, or renting one together is one person not always wanting to pay their share, and never thinking it of an issue when they don't and will make you always the one to blame and try to feel Sorry for them. Ran into it many times over the yrs. Personally if there is a way out of this situation you might be best off as this will continue to be the norm, and you don't want to get stuck in a trap financially you cannot get out of.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
It is always hard to get by people when money is involved. That is really one thing that I try so hard not to be involved with a friend. Coz I know that when money gets in the way of friendship, it is hard to rebuild the broken bridge again. $300 is a lot of money. And they should have given you that. But why do you think they didn't give it back to you?
@Otanetix (509)
• United States
17 Jan 13
Well, I would say it depends. I would usually say pick friends over money. But this situation is more complicated. If it was money owed to you by another person instead of your friends, then it's a different story. However, because it's your friend that owes you the money, they should fulfill their obligation to the rent. If they don't do it, they are taking advantage of you. True friends don't back out of an obligation and try to get special treatment with the "because we are friends" speech and then not doing their part. I honestly would not consider those people my friends if they try to take advantage of the situation like that on a regular basis.