be your children's comforter

I think that what the parent's reaction was a bit harsh. I tell my kids everytime that I am not expecting straight A's if they really could not do it, but at least passing marks. Money is so hard to find these days and I could not afford them to fail. I just want to have fun in learning. Well their grades are really not that bad and I do help them a lot to be good with school works coz I let myself get involve with it.

I couldn't agree with you more. My child is lucky enough to get in a really good school with low teacher to child ratio. The tuition fee is higher than average though but education is never a waste of money in our eyes (husband and I). Although, we always remind our child that if his grades fell he will transfer to another school. We do not push our child to study all the time. We actually urge him to play with his classmates after school for an hour because school is not just about books, it's also about socialization. We set limits on tv and play time so that he'll have a good foundation for discipline. I help him with his assignments and teach him how to think as opposed to 'what to think'. Our son is not the #1 student in class. He doesn't get the highest scores. But for us, seeing our son get sad if he misses a day of school when he's sick is enough. It means that our son enjoys school and learning. Whenever he makes a mistake, we help him think of the solution to correct his mistake. I was brought up by parents who are so fond of looking for mistakes. I grew up insecure and so scared to take risks. So now I'm doing different with my child.

most parents want their child to excel in school but some seem to set the bar too high and if the child doesn't do well, they are disappointed. i find that some parents tend to want to live their life through their child or think that a bad grade is a reflection on them. hubby and i have always told our daughters that as long as they try their best, we are happy. our oldest daughter didn't always do well in school (seems that school just isn't for some kids) and our youngest daughter is quite smart and generally does well. it just depends on the child and i agree with you, it is important to praise them not only in school, but in life in general. this is where they get their self esteem from.

changing the side of the discussion: How about the preliminary incident before taking the exams? Wasn't this considerable to the side of the parents. Let say, despite of the fact that they provided their daughters support and everything, and yet instead of studying the daughter joined to all kinds of party, did not study, phoned for the entire day, and do a lot of negligence that cause her not to get good score.. what if the daughter instead of attending the review classes, spent time to the mall and with the friend HAVING A GOOD TIME since she knows that she will pass anyway? Then the parents are not to be blamed here because comforting her will tell her and convey the message that "what she did were all right, and alright", it is okay to go to an examinations that will make the biggest impact on their college life and yet she was too complacent. Just siding the parents for a change. LOL

Your nice, really in dealing a child positive response must be given priority to encourage him, however we can't do nothing they are not of our interest it's their private life but I adhere to your opinion. I do hope there are still many people who understand the feeling of a child, most specially when it come to education.