Am I Paranoid??

@CarraC (69)
Canada
January 30, 2013 9:45am CST
So I told my boyfriend that someone messaged me from a fake facebook account accusing him of cheating with them, then I put up a facebook status to show my disgust at the fake message just so he could believe me. I went through his phone (which I know I should not do) and saw a BBM message (was not extreme, a flirty message) that pushed me to plot a lie. Am I wrong for wanting to find out if that BBM message had a meaning or I should have just ignored the message and move on like everything is ok?....He swears that he is not cheating, I have no proof that he is and I honestly don't feel that he is, but a little plan to find out his intentions is not that bad, is it??
5 responses
Jenny1015
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
31 Jan 13
I'd feel the same way as you did. I would find out ways on how to prove if indeed my partner was telling the truth or not. I mean, why would anyone send you a message like that if there wasn't any proof about it? Well, let's just say that somebody is mad at him, but making up stories like that is not the way it's supposed to be. But then, don;t do something major. Just be watchful instead.
Always smiling
@allknowing (130292)
• India
31 Jan 13
The proof lies in the treatment your partner or boyfriend would give to you. One needs no other proof. If he is indifferent, gives excuses, stays away these are telltale signs that all is not well but certainly not prying!
fourjems
@fourjems (11)
• Philippines
24 Feb 13
I'd do the same thing if I were in your shoes. As the saying goes, if there's a smoke there's a fire. Your boyfriend may have done something mischievous and that's for you to find out. If you've proven it is not, then chill out.
Always smiling
@allknowing (130292)
• India
31 Jan 13
"Little knowledge is dangerous" and more so when it is got by dubious means as you have You indeed are paranoid. Proof is his attitude and the way he treats you. If you are satisfied with that it is impossible that he would waste time doing what your paranoid nature is accusing him of! Relax and enjoy your boyfriend's presence in your life.
lsjapdoit
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
31 Jan 13
What you did is okay. I guess your boyfriend wouldn't mind if he knows that it makes you feel better.
Milley
@Milley (1)
• China
31 Jan 13
a little plan to find out his intention of course is not that bad, if he is honest, then you won't doubt him , if he is telling a lie, you can also save you from a horrible world