to be a son or a daughter

China
February 4, 2013 10:44pm CST
these days I felt quite frustrated cuase of having a son or a girl. for me actually, it doesn't any matter whether I will be a father of a boy of a girl. however, for my parents, they long for a grandson rather a granddaughter. while for my wife , she prefers a girl. Time and time again, all my family will be uncomfortable about this affairs and made me unhappy. so guys, have you ever met this kind of suituation and if you were I, how could you deal with it?
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6 responses
@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Apr 13
In fact I think today the people's thoughts have changed a lot. It really doesn't matter whether you will have a daughter or son. It is important that your baby is healthy. Even some people prefer to have daughters since they behave better and you don't have to worry about them so much since usually boys will have more pressure when they grow up. Since boys are responsible for their families. I think you haven't had a child yet. So don't worry about it so much and let it be. Since you can't choose to have a boy or girl.
• China
29 Apr 13
Hello youless. I agree with you that most of people today have now changed their traditional ideas about having a boy or a girl. You are absolutely right that it is more important to enjoy a good health for their children. To give birth to a boy or a girl is not what we can control. So just let it be. It is a blessing to us to have a baby whateve gender it is.
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
29 Apr 13
If it were the in the sixties or seventies, I don't think that people would care so much about having a boy or a girl because that was not a time when one-child policy was ever made. But ever since this policy was carried out, parents prefer to have a son instead of a girl out of the reason that a boy can carry on his surname. But to foreigners, I don't think that it matters much as they don't have this policy, but they may give birth to their children as they wish. Does it sound reasonable to you to some degree, please?
@maximax8 (28247)
• United Kingdom
10 Mar 13
Before I had my children I wished to have a baby girl and then a baby boy a couple of years later. My mom has seven grandchildren now four grandsons and three grand daughters now. I had my oldest son when I was 22 years old, my younger son that is disabled when I was 34 years old and my daughter when I was 36 years old. So I got my daughter eventually. I wouldn't have felt happy if I hadn't been able to get my little girl. The best thing to hope for when pregnant is a healthy baby. Whether is it a baby girl or baby boy doesn't really matter. It is a shame your parents greatly prefer to have a baby grandson rather than a granddaughter. You might be able to talk about with your parents how lovely both genders of baby are. Good luck.
@krzyme (4)
10 Mar 13
just be a good father if your baby is a boy or girl.
@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
9 Mar 13
Hello Conquer I hope that you and your family are fine. I wouldn´t hear at them, it´s up to you and the health of your baby. Set limits to your family. Don´t get mad, having an angel at home is a great blessings, don´t let anybody steel your happiness. I didn´t mind the gender of our babies, I just wanted them healthy. Blessings to you and your family Conquer... dainy
@kprofgames (3018)
• United States
14 Feb 13
Well you can't CHOOSE to have one or that other really right? So I'm not understanding any added pressure on you or your wife to have one gendered baby or another.