A friend or a lover?

I admire your decision.Being intimate to a guy is not safe.Most of them turn up to be flirts.Try to see if he wants to accept you as his wife.Even if he is ready,refuse to have physical relations with him until he marries you.I know many girls who gave in to temptations and had to face troubles.However you can treat him as your friend.Nothing more than that.

wow.. such a great discipline. this is good to know and will surely help a lot of those who have read this. Be stable and be firm... yes, not to love out of pity.. love out of love.

I had a few friends who liked me and wanted to be more than friends as they'd say. I am often thought of snob and picky just because I know what I want in a guy and none of them fit those qualities. If it doesn't feel right and you are being honest, people respect you more for it. I just don't like being labelled picky.

I think you did the right thing. He seems to only want one thing from you and that is to get you in bed. After he does succeed he probably won't show any more interest in you. If you don't feel the attraction he has for you reciprocated do not pursue a romantic relationship. I hope you can keep him as a friend even after saying you just want to remain friends. I hope it is not too awkward for you. I got so sick of close guy friends falling in love with me that I told one guy over video chat Please don't fall in love with me. It may have been a bit premature and perhaps a little hurtful but at least I was being honest with him and myself. In my case, I need to be physically attracted to someone if I want them to be my lover or boyfriend. Without the spark how are you to make fire?

You are wise enough to decline his proposal. Having a date in a hotel is something fishy. He wants romance and I think it is not right at the moment. If he really wants to win you and be his , then he must marry you first. I think he just asking you to be his boyfriend for his own interest. He wants an intimate relationship. If he really loves you, he will wait for you if you are already ready for that intimacy he is wishing.

Relationship consist of friendship and intimacy. If you are not anticipating intimacy, then better remain as friends. Before you get into relationship, you should be aware first of the consequences you are getting when you get into. They say expect the worst and the best.

Its good that you let him know how you feel and he knows how you feel. Most people wouldn't and just string them along messing around with their feelings. But staying as friends would be the best route to go and so you made a good decision.

I think you are a wise person and mature as you seem to realize what you exactly want in a relationship. The way you are avoiding any intimate relationship with this friend shows that you are not ready for any intimate relationship which is good because intimate relationship should not happen because somebody pushing you. You don't have to confuse whether he is your lover or friend because he is a friend in your heart. It is so gentlemen of him that he respects your decision to agree with you to be your "bff". Follow your heart, it will always say which is true...

You might feel that now but who knows what could happen in the future. You might start liking him for more than a friend. But as of now I think you have to make sure that he understands that you don't want to be in a different kind of relationship with him and that he has to accept that or else you're going to have a hard time staying friends. I think he really has feelings for you so you have to give him time to get over you or get his head straight about how he should act towards you. It can get annoying when feelings like these go in between friendships. but hey. best of luck! :D

Make sure he understands that you only want that and that you don't want to have a romantic relationship with him. Make it very clear. There is nothing worse than getting your hopes up and then finding out that the person you're falling in love with doesn't feel the same way. If you see that he keeps wanting more, it might be time to break up all contact with him. I know from experience its very hard to be "just friends" with a person, when one of the two wants the relationship to turn into something more than just friendship.

Hi i too have friends(girls and boys) as we are all of the same type i too would've thought of building a relationship but dng this isn't right as i think since we are friends as we come to know deeper about ourselves(all the characters in us)when behave in thinking of romance is very bad and not a true friends way of approach,friends should always be friends or in a relationship filled with pure care and love,not just for comforting ur romantic feelings..good luck.

Love will be very far in front of a good friendship. Both seems to be same sometimes but they are very different each other. Keeping friendship with a lover is a wise thing. Many girls likes friendship rather than loving with. Love stops somewhere after long days passes, but never ends a good friendship. I always maintain only friendship with all of my girl friends. Till now i have't any sort of problem with the friends as well as lovers.

You two are obviously not married, so some kind of romance thing is out, at least in my conviction. Play safe.

I think that if you are not ready yet, you should not have something with him because it is just going to screw it over. You should take time to figure out what you really want! I know it can be hard somethimes. Be close with him (as friend) maybe it will help you figure out the way you really feel!

I think better to build a friendship relationship if there is something that both of the partners have misunderstanding. It's not bad to have a friend relationship after the break up...