About lonely

@Zoe520 (61)
China
February 19, 2013 8:44pm CST
Because of my BF broke up with me ,i feel lonely all the time.When i listen music,watch movie,have a meal ,sleep in the night and even walk on the road,i miss him very much .i hate this situation of miss him usually.Once important person in your life disappeared competely ,do you know the feeling?and it's so diffcult to convince myself get used to the life without him anymore. i don't konw how many days should take before i forget him thoroughgoing ...
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@chiyosan (30198)
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
hi Zoe, Sorry to hear that you have broken up with him already. I hope you will get better soon. Although you may be feeling sad right now, like the hurt and the pain won't stop... know that you will get through this anyhow. only time is your aid and it is the only thing that can help you forget all about what has happened between you and your boyfriend. If you want to forget from time to time, i can only help you with the things i did when i was in the situation myself. so what happened was i also felt like hell broke lose and that i just want to just sulk, cry and let my eyes dry out. =( You know what helped me? it helped me when i have spent a lot of times at work that i was kept busy (at least i won't be thinking of him for a few hours when i do my work, it helped me that i have ask friends to go out with me during weekends on places where we have never gone - so i would not have to remember him and our dates together. it helped that i have removed him in my cellular phone, and it helped that i do not log in to facebook because it helped me to not expect and wait for any messages or activity he has done in the site. =) I am sure you will be able to go through this successfully. You would even be surprised as to how strong you are, and why did you even think that you will never be over this.... You will be over him sooner that you think.
@Zoe520 (61)
• China
20 Feb 13
thanks for your reply. you are a strong and postive girl.i need to study your postive attitude when you be hurt. every time i thought of him ,i sulk,cry and can't figured out why he left me . in this city,i have no friends,all my friend live in other city, once i want to leave the city and begin my life,make a fresh start.but i can't because i don't want to give up my present job. If there is a best friend company me,maybe i will feel better and won't be so lonely.every friends i know in the city,all of them are my ex's friend.and lose him,i lose them too. Another reason,i don't want leave the city is that i cherish every moments i spent with him in this city .and if i leave,maybe we will have no chance to see again,although i know.even met,it's impossible to get back to the past. i'm confused and don't know how to do.
@chiyosan (30198)
• Philippines
18 Mar 13
Hi Zoe, I am glad you are feeling well now and has come to realized that you do need to move on and know that pain is inevitable, it will happen as we are always exposed to many different things and people in our lives all the time. The important thing is that we should be careful not to go back to the ways and the people who hurt us. We should move forward and know that we do deserve better. :D
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
Been there.. done that. I know how it feels but keep in mind that everything happens for a reason. If you are really for each other, LOVE WILL FIND IT'S WAY BACK. :) Cheer up!
@Zoe520 (61)
• China
20 Feb 13
Love will find it's way back,i like the sentence.thank you!!
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
oppss sorry.. "Love will find its way back." I mistakenly put something lol You're welcome :)
@Janebaby (47)
• China
20 Feb 13
Dear,I sm sorry to hear that. Before I met my hubby,I loved a man deeply, I thought I can not lose him,I thought I can not live normally without him.However, when he hurt me,when I felt depressed and desperate with him ,I choose strong and tolerance.Now my hubby treat me very good and care of me gently.The miserable experence make me cherish current my husband much more.
@Zoe520 (61)
• China
20 Feb 13
Dear Jane,thanks for your share and wish you and your hubby happiness forever. i hope i can meet a person love me and i love most like you met your hubby.
• China
20 Feb 13
Hello, Zoe. How are you. well, i just want to say that love is not the only thing we live for. although i feel your sorrow.It hurts when you think about the time you spent together. It hurts when you think about him and anything relates about him. anyway, be nice to yourself.you just need time to calm yourself.it will be better,
@Zoe520 (61)
• China
20 Feb 13
thank you,it's right,i just need time to calm myself and everything will be better~
• South Korea
20 Feb 13
Hi Zoe!, sorry to hear that! oH , I don't what had hapenned to you and your ex and I know how it feels but have you ever ask yourself, until when do you plan to feel that way?? I know it's hard to forget someone you used to love and hangout with,,especially when the guy has done nothing bad to you or I mean he has been so good to you...(which is based from my own experience)... but hey!!! there's still life to enjoy !!! Instead of staying at one corner of your house thinking about him, and the things you two did before, why don't you go out hang out with your friends or engage yourself to doing some activities like jogging, hiking, or things that ineterest you!! you'll never know you might meet someone again,,, better thatn him... It's a matter of choice, girl!! So, do you choose?????? to be in that dark corner or get some light and start a new??/
@Zoe520 (61)
• China
20 Feb 13
i choose get some light and start a new fresh,fighting~~ thanks for your advise,i need time to calm myself.
@subhojit10 (7381)
• India
20 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i can understand your situation very well and i know how u must be feeling after the break up. it is true that u must be missing your boyfriend very much and it would be hard to forget all those moments spent with him but then how many days will u pain yourself by thinking about such things? it will take some time but give your best to forget every thing. What say?
@Zoe520 (61)
• China
20 Feb 13
yes,thanks for your understanding.and i can't forget all the moments spent with him,and it's make me painful.but i'm trying to forget him all the time and start my own life.
• India
13 Mar 13
Thanks for this discussion, i can feel how depressed you feel now, but remember 'time is the best healer'; soon you can forget; your effort is needed.
@Janebaby (47)
• China
22 Feb 13
Are you better,now? I had be experienced that,so I can understand your situation very much. Do not be an idiot,the man who bear to brake up with you is not worth you to miss.You will meet a better man love you sincerely and spend the whole time together.He will never leave you alone whatever you do,because he cares you.Braking up is not a rare thing,it happens at every corner and every day, not just happens on you.So be stronger and tolerance.He gave up you because his ignorance.
@hushgal (57)
• Kenya
20 Feb 13
Tough journey you are going through right now, sorry; remember you are wasting your precious time thinking about him while he is having fun moving on with his life. Try to alienate the gifts and items that make you nostalgic, and replace with your most cherished ones, such as photos, music, paintings etc. Closure is also important when you want to get past a relationship that swept you off your feet. Face and admit that your ex is over you, and lay strategies of occupying yourself with a hobby; friends and community work. share your pain with a trusted friend and get it off your chest. you will be surprised you are a very strong person and after you heal, are confident and happy, a new love will find you.
@Aja103654 (5654)
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
I must admit, I don't miss my ex boyfriends at all. I just got used to them being gone that is all and I am happy with myself anyway. You must really love him and not ready to let go at all, because you still have those feelings of loneliness without him. How did you broke up?
@toniganzon (55281)
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
I think everybody went through the same thing at one point in their life. Been there as well. I tried to keep myself busy all the time so as not to recall memories with an ex. It hurst like hell to be alone, so i spent most of my time with friends and talking to other people. I diverted my attention to certain hobbies to keep my body and mind busy. It's not easy but you'll get there. Only time can heal the wound. Be patient.
@tyleremy (170)
• China
20 Feb 13
Hi zoe! thanks for sharing your life.Once you plan to end a relationship, you don't ever back for it's gonna make you suffer more.You need friends to talk you out.I know it is cruel but you have to admit that life could be much tougher, you have to stronger to face loneliness.It takes time,zoe and you would be fine later.
• India
20 Feb 13
I am sorry to hear that but Try to make yourself busy of something to control thinking about him. everything will be fine with time. there was a time for me that I lost the one I love and that time was too difficult but with time things became alright.
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
You are indirectly telling us that you have no other activities in life. The reason why you kept remembering him is your mind is idle. Why not keep yourself busy of useful things to do. There will be many boys that will be coming to your life just do your best in every endeavor you want to participate remember your obligation to your self to your family and things you want to acquire in the future.
@bluesea3 (167)
• Indonesia
20 Feb 13
with my respect, could you answer "what is your life for?" or "what is your life about?" There is a sentence which is talk "there is balance, dark-bright, night-daylight, full-empty". Love is about heart, like we know, every baby was created with heart and brain at first of all vital organs. It's about the balance of yours, please try to take a long breath. Talk to your self to make empty of your heart pain and dependencies. Try to full up your mind about healing and better life. Imagine it, try to realize it on your heart. Take a bow.. Cheers up..
• India
20 Feb 13
i feel lonely if i didn't talk to my girlfriend or see her on any day. i can understand your feeling , we know how we feel when the person we love is missing at this moment with us. In each and every situation we remember the person we miss the person a lot. we wish that the person should be beside us at this moment while listening to music watching movie etc. time is a healer , we need to concentrate on something else so that we can forget the person for sometime. but some situations make us to think of the person then those will be sweet memories. be happy always