What will you do if..............???
By MHernandez
@MHernandez (218)
South Korea
February 22, 2013 3:48am CST
What will you do if you were block by a sister-in-law without knowing the reason??????
I have this sister-in-law (my brother's wife)...
We didn't like her at first because of her noy-so-good-attitude....even her family, friends and people who know her well would tell us about her negative attitudes!
She's aware that we don't like her but in spite of that we tried our best to accept her and be close to her, on the other hand never she makes an effort to be accepted in the family,,, in short she's aloof...and ungrateful,,, whenever they need help we're always on the rescue but she never says thank you.........(They even owe me a big amount of money)...I never ask them to pay for....
There's one incident where I could not control myself anymore so I confronted her I was the only one had the courage to did that...but I talked to her about it over and over I apologize and explain why , still I feel that she really planted resentment on me...I know it..
last year, She and my brother had an argument,,it almost lead them to be separated..my brother even told mt mother that he's losing his love for her..but of course we don't want it to happen because we're thinking about their children...(we all knew that being in broken family gives greater impact to one's life and growth)
to make it short, I posts some qoutes about family,about forgiveness in my fb account,, I did it purposely and I think she read them and that could be the reason why she blocked me in fb....
If you were in my shoe ...how would you confront her???????
I really want to bring it to her......for me I'm willing to make peace with her any time but I don't know about her...what do you think ...
your opinion will be a big help!!!
Thanks in advance!! happy weekend my fellow mylotters!!
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4 responses
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Feb 13
I think I might just extend the olive branch one more time. I'd let her know that I am there, and that I have nothing against her, and that if she is willing to make another try, I am too. And then I would leave it with her to decide what she wants to do.
@MHernandez (218)
• South Korea
23 Feb 13
I already did my part but I'm just a human who gets tired ,too
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
22 Feb 13
If I were you, I would stop right there. I mean, you've done your part. You have been kind to her and you tried to make amends. If she wants to continue being resentful and still play these childish games then that's up to her. You can only do so much for her, the rest has to come from her. You are not her keeper. Yes, you love your brother and their kids but she has to learn these things on her own or she will never grow up. Besides, it's just facebook. No need to confront her over it. If she wants to be childish about it, let her. Don't let it affect you. You have your own life to live, she's got her own crap to clean up. You have to make her realize that your world doesn't revolve around her and that you have better things to do than to meddle in their affairs.
@MHernandez (218)
• South Korea
23 Feb 13
I thought of that, too,,,,, but of course she's already a part of the family,,,it's really difficult to deal with her..... I just want a harmonious relationship with everybody!!
@ctryhnny (3460)
• United States
22 Feb 13
It sounds like this woman needs to grow up and enter the adult world! So much of this kind of thing happens and we just have to forget about it and go on with our lives. I have almost the same problem only I'm the one who deleted the evil person from my fb friends. I wouldn't confront her it's only facebook and I think we take too much to heart on there. It's gone from a fun place to be to a place that causes problems in the family just by speaking our minds.
@MHernandez (218)
• South Korea
23 Feb 13
I'm not evil to be deleted by her!! She may talk to me if she doesn't like something,,, but anyway difficult people are really hard to deal with and it's a challenge, though.
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
22 Feb 13
well, I do not know that much about her to give any idea, I think it is not fair to judge from one side only, maybe something hurt her in the life that she react like that, and maybe if she will feel that you and surronder love her she will be better in relationship.
@MHernandez (218)
• South Korea
23 Feb 13
I think you're and I really wish I could do that! it's really a challenge to deal with difficult people... honestly, I got into conflicts but afterwards I became closer to them ,,but with I find it oh! really a great challenge,,, sometimes I would think of ignoring her,,, but how can I,,,she's a part of family already???
May god Bless us both!!
