1st time traveling alone?
By ap0calyptic
@ap0calyptic (921)
Slovenia
February 22, 2013 3:07pm CST
i have a plan for travel to Turkey to see my boyfriend from a long distance relationship for the 1st time, but im kinda very uncomfortable going anywhere alone, even in my city i usually take mom with me, i just feel better having someone to be able to talk to,i dont go out other than run errands too, does any have same problem and how do you overcome it? I cant let this plan fall apart after i get the ticket, or let my fear control me..i didnt tell him about it as i know he would be hurt, hes been living a year and a half to see me and i cant do this to him. Also i got another fear, i got a kind of dysphagia, that fear of choking on food thats why i cut out all meat after i experienced almost choking on it few years ago and i was treated for depression after dads death and im veaning off pills now, but when i eat i still think how it goes down and sometimes id hack it back and im terified of being there and sth happening, i dont even dare to eat when home alone, thats how much it affects me and he will want to go to a restaurant, or eat out, i dont know how to deal with it. Im all stressed with those issues, guys, please advise me.
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@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
22 Feb 13
You are very brave to be traveling to Turkey by yourself. I don't know exactly the distance it is from you to there but as long as your boyfriend is picking you up at the airport you should be ok. I travel alone alot sometimes taking three planes to get to my destination. So I just bring magazine or book to read to keep me busy and try to sleep on the plane. As for your eating problem (which I didn't know there was such a thing) I would just eat small bites of food and try your best to put it out of your mind.I know its probably easier said then done. If I were you I would discuss this problem with your boyfriend so he understands your fear of eating. Just be careful, pray and have alot of fun!
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@ap0calyptic (921)
• Slovenia
23 Feb 13
Thank you, but I wouldn't call myself brave if I come here ask fellow mylotters for some tips :D I am a little, but not so much, but I'm trying my best :)
The distance is about 1400 kilimeters, so much or not much? depends on how you take it.
yes, as I already said he is, thats what I try to keep in mind, but its also our 1st time seeing each other so there's more tension, like also thinking if he will like me as much as he does now, he says he loves me, but when we meet...I'm still a bit worried.
Yes, I was also thinking of a book since flight is about 2 hours long and its my first time travelling with an airplane, not only that I'm going alone, but I kinda got fear of heights too, so I'm not sure if uts better I seat at the window or away from it? Its also to take into consideration theres my nausea, my stomach is so sensitive a few bumps will send me directly into misery, so what to do in case if I get nauseous, can those pills help if you got stomach like that?
And is there many bumps with plane? Bumps that get me nauseous are the ones you experience with a car, when it goes downhill or turns fast, thats the ones that get me, but I don't know how much similar if any is that at the airplane?
Yeah there's existing such a problem actually medically called is called phagohobia, but I don't know if I have that, Ijust know I had acid reflux in the past and it led to dysphagia.
Yes it definitely is easier said tha done, but thanks, I try :)
I have intention to talk to him about it before I depart yes, but I'm a bit worried how he would take it, because I don't wanna make it look to him like I'm searching excuses not to come, he can misunderstand fast.
@BabyCheetah (1911)
• Australia
23 Feb 13
I travel alone but I am almost always met at the airport by a friend so I'm never alone in another country. There are places I want to travel to like Turkey but I dont' want to go alone which holds me back.
In regards to the food I can't really give advice because to me it is highly unlikely you are going to choke on it. Just cut your pieces of food small, chew it and just swallow. I'm hoping you will be too distracted to really be thinking about your food and will just eat on autopilot. Try not to think about it if you can 
@ap0calyptic (921)
• Slovenia
23 Feb 13
thats great, its almost like me meeting him there, but for us its 1st time meating in real, so you can see apart from worried described above I have also that to deal with :D
I know that feeling when you don't wanna go alone, but its my 1st travel anywhere alone and with airplane, so I told myself if I won't find the courage now...then Ill never, I have to overcome this fear.
Yes, I've heard that many times, but telling that to your brain is a totally different story when youre like hooked into processing every swallow in your head imagining how and if it will go down okay.
Thanks a lot, I also hope I'll put that worry aside when I'm there and be more occupied by other stuff :]
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Feb 13
I hope he is at least meeting you at the airport. Just keep in mind what's on the other end (ie him), and don't worry about it.
@ap0calyptic (921)
• Slovenia
23 Feb 13
YES, He will at the airport, I try to think that yeah, but there's big, i hope i dont get lost :D
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
23 Feb 13
Im the same way here. I traveled several times to usa from mexico over the years. 3600 miles by bus or car. I id it once alone. I didnt like it at all. I also , like you prefer someone with me.
@inopiratum_a_medio12 (877)
•
23 Feb 13
Traveling alone can be fun also you can plan so many things in your mind and also know yourself well on how to handle things alone when traveling just keep in mind the purpose of traveling alone yo might also as well be a good start to appreciate things when going alone, maybe it will not be the first time you'll travel alone. Happy trip!
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
23 Feb 13
Your best choice is to stay in a self catering apartment in Turkey. Then you can shop at the local supermarkets and make your own meals to suit you. You can eat alone in the apartment if you like. You could explain to your boyfriend that you want to eat alone and not visit a restaurant with him. You could say to him you are vegetarian meaning you don't eat meat. I advise taking some snacks from home in your luggage.
You will hope begin to feel more comfortable traveling alone. Once you ticket is booked I wish that you will look forward to the day of your departure. In my younger days I loved traveling on my own. These days I travel with my two young children. Good luck.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
23 Feb 13
a pleasant day ap0calyptic,
at my end here, i never experienced yet traveling alone. although i am looking forward that day to happen, as i find it exciting though i will feel a bit nervous if that time comes. nevertheless, i am really looking forward to that day.
@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
23 Feb 13
Does your mom knows about his plan of yours. I think you should bring this to her notice and after her permission you should go to meet your boyfriend.
I hope and pray that everything goes well with you and you would have a happy and safe journey.
Happy my lotting.
@desiree91 (515)
• Malaysia
23 Feb 13
If traveling alone bothers you so much, you should tell your boyfriend how you truly feel and let him understand your fears. Of course, you have to be careful with the intonation of your voice and the selection of words because your boyfriend may misinterpret what you're trying to say. I just think it's important that you let him know how you feel, even if you decide to go ahead with the trip. Communication in every relationship is important. Let your boyfriend understand what you're going through and all the risks you're willing to take in order to spend quality time with him in Turkey.
As for the fear of choking, I can't possibly help you with that. I see others have offered you some tips you can have a go at. When I was little, I was so afraid of swallowing pills with water. It took me the longest time to muster up courage. I think as I grow up I learn that it's all about courage. You have to find a way to be courageous, only you know how to best handle your fear. Find your courage, and never give up.
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
23 Feb 13
well first take the time to search out the area your going online know every thing you can about it including crime in that area go vist a travel agent see if they have any thing on it as well I wish you the best of luck on your trip and I do hope that this man is every thing you want and more if you stress out take a few deep breaths close your eyes and goto a happy place in you mind but i would also tell your man how your feeling so he knows what is going on with you you dont want to start off the wrong way be safe be well
@LoKoMoMe (511)
• Belize
23 Feb 13
its a bit quite problem, all you need to have is much confidence to yourself, a power in you body and in your heart to fight all of your surroundings..
always to bring think positive all the time so that you can travel alone with luck of confidence with yourself.. and much careful what you eat, dont eat like hard meat, or hard food that can cause you for choking. that's all i can suggest. thanks
@volcano8060 (12)
• China
23 Feb 13
i have the same emotional experience and i am afraid of staying in hotel alone. i am not accustomed to travel without my wife's accompanying.
