..dad n mom were not in talking terms once..

India
February 22, 2013 10:54pm CST
hey guys, i was very disappointed and confused once when my parents were not in talking terms with each other that i had to resolve with much difficulty. It so happened that my father had been to a party and was supposed to return early at 10pm. I n my mother were waiting for him till 2am and he did not return till then. we were tensed as the situation is very bad at my place especially if u are outside at night. We got negative thoughts in our mind and suddenly my father called up at 2am and said that he just completed his dinner at 2pm as there was a dance function going on in the party that took a lot of time for completion. he reached home at 2.30am n what followed was a huge argument between my parents regarding late homecoming. The argument was so heated that i had to interfere in between and asked them to sleep as it was very late. The very next day, my dad did not have his breakfast prepared by my mom and left for his office. he did not even come for the lunch in order to avoid seeing her. he came at 8pm and had dinner at home and slept straightaway. This continued for nearly 3-4 days and they even did not have a word with each other. They were not looking at each other also. i was very very tensed due to this. i was constantly trying to strike a conversation but it did not work. then the very next day, i planned to take them to a mall and it was at this time that they started talking to each other n slowly the gap was filled up and every thing returned to normalcy. Believe me guys, it was such a difficult phase for me that i cannot put into words. Thank God, i reunited my parents otherwise i do not know what would have happened. What are your thoughts about this guys? u had any such experience? What u would have done in my place? Please share your thoughts!
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
23 Feb 13
My mom and dad rarely get into an argument. When they do it is usually about my dad's driving. Nothing really serious that I am aware of. Although there was one particular incident that they had a fight. I was already married then. My dad used to be working abroad, but when he stopped working in Oman, he started teaching in a university which is far from our house. He spends most the time in their hometown coz it is where the university was located. My mom is also a workaholic. And being in a government office with a high position, a lot is expected from her. So she would be going to work even on Saturdays. I think their argument was about my mom being always at work when my dad comes home from the province. Of course, he expects her to be with him to catch up. I was not in their home when they fought. It was only dad who called me up before leaving again and told me what happened. I cried. Very much hurt. But I just told him that he really needed to find another job that was closer to home. And he did.
• India
24 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Well that is great to hear that your parents rarely get into any arguments and i think whenever they do, it really hurt the children as they can never see two beautiful person on earth fighting for no reasons. Yeah u did the right thing by asking him to find a job closer to to home. What happened next? What say?
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
25 Feb 13
For a few years, he became the Executive Assistant at the Department of Science and Technology. But when he retired, he still was into research and most of it were done in the province, again. And also he is active with symposiums and conferences and alot of schools have been calling him up to take a slot and teach the students. So he still comes to the province but not that often anymore.
• India
26 Feb 13
Oh that is great to hear that your father is being flooded with a lot of offers but still i think he should take it one at a time. As u said he should also think about the possible location so that he gives more time to his family otherwise most of his commitments would take much of his time from him daily schedule.
@desiree91 (515)
• Malaysia
23 Feb 13
I've had worse experience than you do. My parents fought all the time when I was a kid and now they are separated. They are like strangers. Coming from a broken home affects me a lot. I can see that you are luckier than many broken homes out there. I am glad that your parents are still together because judging by your reaction, if anything worse happens, it would have hurt you so much more.
• India
24 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Yes u r absolutely right, i was really shocked and hurt by the way the things turned ugly that day. But as u have said i feel extremely bad for u, as u had faced such situation several times when u were a kid and i know u must be longing to see them together and getting love from both of them equally. What say?
• Greece
23 Feb 13
Where parents are concerned the best thing to remind yourself is that they have been together for a long time and know one another inside out. So if there is a row, even one that takes several days to settle down, then it is just a matter of keeping your head down and letting them get on with it. It is unwise to take sides and better to say nothing. It is very selfish of parents to air their differences when children, or young people, are around but I guess because you were waiting with your mother for your father to come home you were already involved. Hopefully your parents have taken note of how their quarrel affected you and this will not happen again.
• India
24 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Well yes u are absolutely right, in my case it was not about taking anyone's side. as i have mentioned in the discussion that i was waiting with my mom for my dad to come home and had i not interfered that day the argument would have gone to a different level. i do not understand why people say that when parents fight then children should not interfere, i firmly believe that if children r matured and intelligent enough then they can also sort out the differences between their parents. What say?