How to deal with judgmental people?
By Brooke
@o2bnocn (2992)
United States
February 24, 2013 11:45am CST
Recently I have felt like everyone can be so judgmental. I'm not sure why. Nothing has changed in my life that drastically. I am not the only one that feels this way, because there have been other people that have expressed their feelings as well. I know a few people that have already made comments that they are tired of judgmental people, not talking about me but other people. I have learned that one of the best things to do is to ignore the comments, and don't share so much information with these people or people in general.
It's like the saying "Walk a mile in my shoes and then you can judge me". Well who really walks a mile in someone else's shoes? Unless you are borrowing their shoes to go for a walk or run! 
No one really understands what other people are going through, until they go through it themselves. Even then people deal with situations and emotions differently. Even if it seems like the same situation, the other person might have had it worse..or easier. 
There are not many situations that are the exact same, so I don't know why people are so judgmental.
No one really understands what other people are going through, until they go through it themselves. Even then people deal with situations and emotions differently. Even if it seems like the same situation, the other person might have had it worse..or easier.
There are not many situations that are the exact same, so I don't know why people are so judgmental.9 responses
@babyeve (1048)
• Seychelles
26 Feb 13
Tell me bout it. I have got a friend who's like that and it is rather annoying. She is always trying to prove that she is the best. She is self-centered and always think that her way of doing things is much better than others. She wants to do all the talking and she is always finding faults of others, just so that she will get all the attention she wants. I think like you said, it must be jealousy that makes somebody like that.
@o2bnocn (2992)
• United States
4 Mar 13
Jealousy can affect people so negatively. I’m just now realizing that I think of my friends act mad at me whenever she is jealous of some type of activity I have in my life. She’s not really that judgmental, but she tends to ignore me a lot, and make smart mouth remarks. It’s sometimes difficult dealing with judgmental people, and its best to ignore the comments. I think one of the best things we can do is to realize that it doesn't matter what they think, only what we think. Some people will never be happy with your actions.
@kourdapya (924)
• Philippines
25 Feb 13
If you would listen to everything that people has to say, people around you who does not even care, you will never be happy. If what they say bothers you a lot, you will never have some peace of mind. We can never please everyone. Most of the time, even if we have done our best, still there are people who will judge you and find faults in what you do. So ignore them. Don't listen to what they say. Choose your battle. I guess that's it.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
24 Feb 13
when one knows that certain person is judgmental, one acts accordingly to that judgment. it seems easy to pass judgment on others because that makes our responses and behaviors predictable and acceptable. at least for us and others. although we hear about suspending our judgment until such time that we have sufficient evidence, but we have to have basis for our actions. and that is where judgment comes in, whether too early or not.
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
25 Feb 13
Yes there are a lot of people in the world are so judgmental,and I think the best way to deal with this kind of people is just ignore them and their comments.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
24 Feb 13
Wherever we go, there will always be judgmental people by the very same token that there will also be people who will listen without judging. It's just the way it goes, we cannot entirely avoid these people. I have to agree that the best way to deal with them is to ignore them and be wary of who to trust. You will gain nothing if you waste your time setting them straight; you would rather spend your time doing what you do best and spending time with people who are worthy of it.
@priyaxxx85 (108)
• India
3 Mar 13
That's true. The best way is to ignore these people. I mean who gives them the right to judge you. I simply stay away from judgmental people. They can be such a sore. I don't entertain any comments or thoughts about my life from others.
@o2bnocn (2992)
• United States
4 Mar 13
Sometimes it is best to not entertain others with your life. It makes it hard when it is exciting and you want to share with others. What’s the point though if they are only going to judge you? There are people who will be supportive no matter what, and then there are others that will only be supportive when it is something they approve of. It’s hard when people are negative. We already have negativity in our lives without people casting judgment. There is no need for judgment, and sometimes we should just keep to ourselves when we know that the people will cast judgment upon us.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
24 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well there are certain people who are too judgemental and no doubt they have rights to express their emotions feelings and opinions but they have should present in such a way that it does not turn off others.
What say?
@MissBlack (356)
• United States
24 Feb 13
I used to be that way until I stopped and listened to what others were saying. I know a few people who have to have a negative opinion about everything that comes their way to the point where it is annoying and I don't deal with them. It made me stop and think was I really talking and behaving like that? It is so unbecoming. Now, I just ignore it simply because its the way things are. People are going to always have something to say about something no matter what. 9 times out of 10, its going to be petty or negative.
@o2bnocn (2992)
• United States
25 Feb 13
Well sometimes it rubs off on other people. I know that when my friend can be dramatic, it can start to make me act a little dramatic or respond in a dramatic way. When people judge me, there may be times when I start to judge them. I guess it something we should all think about. It really makes a difference in how we treat other people.
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
24 Feb 13
people dont have the right to judge other people its just rude and it is wrong to do i am sure that they are not perfect them selfs
