..is it necessary to say everywhere?
By subhojit10
@subhojit10 (7375)
India
March 3, 2013 7:17am CST
Hey guys, i have heard people saying that they like being honest, straightforward and hence whatever comes to their mind and heart they say it as it is. I believe that it is not bad being honest or saying the truth n even i prefer being honest n truthful as much as possible, but don't u think guys that there are certain things that should never be said no matter how honest n truthful u are?
I am not talking about telling lies but i am mean by saying that there r certain things that needs to b kept in mind n should not be said so that we keep our sweet relationship with others. I have always felt that i should speak wherever i am supposed to n just because I love being honest i should speak out every things is something i do not prefer. Recently something happened with me that hurt me directly to my heart but anyways that is pointless to discuss here.
So what r your thoughts about this guys? Do u think we should speak out every thing without thinking for even once? Please do share your thoughts!
5 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
3 Mar 13
Honesty is the best policy, so they say. But being brutally frank can cause relationships to falter. I think that we just need to keep in mind that there are things that are left unsaid.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
Let's just say that there are just a number of people who feel great being able to express themselves openly without thinking if they could actually hurt another person. Coz what they only want is to relay the information that the person shoukd know about. Call them insensitive, but that is just how it is for some.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
4 Mar 13
Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yes my friend, your words really touched my soul. Honesty is the best policy but not always. As u have mentioned, relationships r bound to be affected if we become over frankly with someone. Why dont people understand this thing, i am not able to understand till now.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
6 Mar 13
Yes u are right, no doubt these people feel great after expressing their heart and i also salute this behavior of those people but i think somewhere down the heart they should realize that not everything said by them would augur well for a relationship. There are certain things that we should compromise in life and this is the right time to do it.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
3 Mar 13
HOnesty is a great thing, and I believe that everyone deserves to know the truth. But it all depends on the situation and the people involved. Sometimes, some people cannot handle the truth and the very love that we have for them is the same reason why we cannot exactly come out and reveal the truth to them, especially if it is something that will greatly hurt them.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
4 Mar 13
Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right my friend, everyone deserves to know the truth but there r certain things that are better if left unsaid for they might create a serious scar on someone;s life. Truth is always bitter but it should be said seeing the circumstances.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
6 Mar 13
@Kashidanga1971-
Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, it is our responsibility to maintain decency as much as possible so that we do not affect a relationship adversely. It is not that we are forced to do so but sometimes for someone's happiness we have to take this step.
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@Kashidanga1971 (1354)
• Bangladesh
4 Mar 13
In order to maintain decency or huminty I even pretend of having not seen any ugly matter, let alone speaking out of them. Actually maintaining good relation some times makes us helplessly dumb any way.
@subterfuge54 (207)
• Philippines
3 Mar 13
Yeah, I agree with you. It is indeed great to be honest. But there are things better left unsaid so as not to ruin everything. The thing is you should choose your battles wisely. I mean you should think it through whether it really is necessary to say or not because as they say, the truth may hurt but it can set you free.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
4 Mar 13
Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, being honest is not bad as long as our words n actions r not hurting anyone. This is because our words n actions might not even a second to break someone from within. We should always use our conscience before speaking something.
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
it is really good to be honest but what i am opposing is that, if your words would hurt someone or will degrade your dignity; so i can say that, it is better for you to keep it. for me, not all of what you think and not all of what you know and wanted to share about yourself is a good topic or to be opened with anyone or someone. that is why we have the right to remain silent. well, doing it will depends on how it is really necessary for you to tell. just be careful. because not all of the words came from your mouth would set you free. if it is nonesense, just try to zip mouth and keep your thought within you. sort of things like that. if there are things that need to be outburst well, that is the time for your to open and to be honest if you think that it can help us.
thanks for sharing this topic with us :)
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
4 Mar 13
Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, words once said can never be returned back so we have to be aware of each n every word we say. As u have mentioned, we should never speak any such things that might degrade anyone's dignity as it might not affect us but in the process we might lose our dear ones.
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@litvillegas (1274)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
Hello
Yes, I believe the words that you mentioned above. Honesty is still the best policy but there are a lot of things that need to be considered. Like for example talking without realizing may cause harm. We have to think first before opening our mouth.
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Thanks for sharing!
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Thanks for sharing!@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
4 Mar 13
Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, there are certain things that we need to take care while speaking, just because we r honest does not mean that we would speak out anything that comes to our mind, in that case we r forgetting that there r people who still care love and crave for us.
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