the ex and me

Mexico
March 4, 2013 9:11am CST
I have had a chat about my ex love here before after a long talk here in my home last night I am confused once more. Here is what is going on yes I pay the bills that I charge to our sears card and I pay his and his family charge too but he feels he does not have to pay me for what I have already paid.I have a charge to his parents account for the bed and frigidaire and I have said if you dont pay me the money that is owed as I pay both I was going to remove payment from the bill I owe his parents do I have the right to do that I am so conflicted right now and I still love this person with all my heart
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6 responses
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
4 Mar 13
Sounds to me like you were used and abused. And even after the seperation its stilling going on. Need to put your foot down and make some rules.
• Mexico
4 Mar 13
well as it stands now I have told him that I am going to take away from money I owe his parents for bills that I owe every month I cant think of any other way to get my money back
• Mexico
4 Mar 13
Seems to me that should have been done from the start. Good luck.
• Mexico
4 Mar 13
would it be right of me to take away money from the bill i owe the parents as i am paying there other bills
@artemeis (4070)
• China
5 Mar 13
I think you need to be firm here. Money matters should always be upfront and if he is not going to be responsible on his end, then there's really no point going on. Tell him that he will be receiving his bills at his own address from this incident onward. I believe that the both of you would have already worked on who is paying for what and if he is shirking his responsibilities then he will need to be brought up to date.
• Mexico
5 Mar 13
thank you for your thoughts he as of last night still refuses to take care of his debt and i just flat told him to not come to my home again
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
Well if this money matters cannot be settled, what other differences you might have that can be settled so far? In a relationship, when money becomes the issue, I do not believe its worth continuing. Like someone said in this thread, you have to be firm about your concerns. If no one is going to give way, this cannot be settled anymore.
@patnopy (721)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
it sounds like she barrow a money that she need to repay it back but as you say you still love him and she look that she don't want to repay that again then why not forget that paper oh i mean money but it is still a pieces of paper that have many use... just tell him that repay it when ever you like to pay it or not, if she pay at least you see him once again and if not at least you helped the one you love and still good heart and the eyes of hes parent
• Mexico
4 Mar 13
I thank you for your reply as I have said I pay for our sears bill every month when I get paid yes we still love each other but we have issues that need to be worked out and we are trying but what I would like to find out as I am paying in full the payment due and I owe his family money as well should I take the money they owe me off what I owe them as they are not paying for me for what they owe
@patnopy (721)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
so and that case you want them repay the money
• United States
4 Mar 13
I don't know where you stand legally, but if the card is in both your names both are responsible. If you are the only one paying, I might do like you mentioned just not pay on his family's card. However I would make him fully aware that you will do this because he is helping you. It's sad that money is coming between you. You still live him but does he still love you at all? If the answer is yes, it would seem he could be reasoned with.
• Mexico
4 Mar 13
we still love each other how ever he is not liking the fact i drink and smoke he want to to stop over night on both
• United States
4 Mar 13
If that card is in your name you are fully responsible for the charges. You can't do anything with that card except pay the bill. what you need to do is not let them charge anything else on the card.
• Mexico
4 Mar 13
the sears card in his name and I with out fail pay in full all due so i can use it but my askng is do i have a right to withdrawal payment to mom and dad becuse i drink and yes i will go buy a bottle but i know if i want him back i need to stop drinking and then i shall not smoke he makes this demands on me and wants over night
@checkmail (2042)
• India
4 Mar 13
Hello blackrusty this si checkmail and if emotions carry you often than you might wound up soon, but on other hand money ain't that precious as good kind hearten persons are.We should never forget anyone's good deed on us which did some good for us.Also we should not mix our finances with our family and friends. This is an real conflict situation for you there, but you would have to choose something now or later.(Me vote for good person).
• Mexico
4 Mar 13
well more to the point I thought I would be with him forever I love him more now then the day we first meet it has been hard for me to give up the love that I have for him and yes there is a chance that I can get him back but what the issue is why should i pay all my and his and his family debt and then pay every penny of the debt I owe if they wont pay me what I have already paid for