Frusterated

United States
March 7, 2013 12:19am CST
Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and we are living together. He was discharged from the Army last summer and planned to go to school. The Army will pay for his school for up to three years and also gives him a generous living dividend. He makes more than I do and he doesn't have to work while he goes to school!! We have had a lot of bills to take care of and the only way we can make ends meet is by having this extra income. I found out last week that he's been skipping classes because he just doesn't feel like going and he isn't doing that well. I know school is a real struggle for him but am I being horrible for expecting him to at least go and make the effort? I don't know what to do because we won't be able to make ends meet if he drops school and starts working right now, I'm scared and worried.
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@finlander60 (1804)
• United States
7 Mar 13
This is just a guess. Are you aware that he may not really want to go, but is just doing it because he is expected to. Find out what he truly wants to do and then encourage him in that. I wish you luck in this.
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• United States
8 Mar 13
I did think about that and he just responds with I don't know. I encouraged him to change his major to something he truly enjoys so he changed it to independent studies and is doing a lot of art classes. I don't know what else to do.. :-(
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• United States
9 Mar 13
Encouragement is probably your best course of action. Keep re-enforcing him. It may take a while to see some fruit come from your efforts but, it should be worth it in the long run.