Very nice person, but can not be friend???

@dandan07 (1908)
China
March 10, 2013 7:33am CST
One of the young man in my work place. He is very nice, when I asked him for help, he will try his best to help me. But I still find I can not be his friend. I find that he does not like talking, he only answer when people ask him, and in the party he does not like to talk with other people, even the one sit next to him. So I feel tired to talk with him.
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@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
10 Mar 13
Maybe it's not he's friendly but maybe he is a shy - type person or still feel a bit uncomfortable with you. Anyone would welcome a new friend. Why not try to make him feel comfortable and I am sure, in no time, he will open up to you. Just keep trying :)
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@ajithlal (14569)
• India
10 Mar 13
I also think that most probably he might be a shy person.
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@jkct02 (2859)
• Malaysia
10 Mar 13
Don't miss the chance to be a friend with a nice p - Don't miss the chance to be a friend with a nice person
Everyone has his/her own style. The young man that you mentioned could be a person of few words. Being quiet may be his nature but it could also be that he does not usually talk much to persons he is not familiar with. But to his friends, he may be a different person from the one you see. It is good to be friends with nice persons. Don't miss the chance to be a friend with a nice person just because he doesn't talk much. After all, being friends does not really need to talk much.
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@dollar3235 (2063)
• India
10 Mar 13
Hi dandan07, Everyone is different, since he helps you whenever needed, certainly he's a nice person, however, if he doesn't talk much, it could be the type of personality he's got. You should not expect someone to change for being your friend. It may be possible that as a friend he may not discuss each and everything with you, however, still if you take initiate and ask him for friendship, it will certainly add one more well wisher in your life.
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@alilin28 (1530)
• Uruguay
10 Mar 13
may be he woudnt be a talkative person, may be he is shy but he is friendly heplping others in work, but no more than this. set he feels free to talk. have a nice day
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@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
10 Mar 13
You can't change a person. He may be a really prive person. Or shy. Or someone who doesn't like socializing that much.
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• Germany
10 Mar 13
I want you to read the book titled 'Act the way you do" you will then understand that everyone has its nature and character,not even him but its how the creator created him or her, plus the way he was brought up.That is not the excuse, you have to learn how to relate with different people and cope, to do this you have to be accommodating, and know that person for whom he is.Know him as the way it is and cope.Everyone can not be like you or desire what you desire.Many will dislike what you like.But in life we need to manage, accept,and accommodate our selves, the same law applicable to husband and wife.
• Sweden
10 Mar 13
yes, some people are like that. It's better to do the things that are better for some people and of course for you too. People want to help others naturally but not intending to be friends or to talk because of it.
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@dandan07 (1908)
• China
13 Mar 13
Thank you for your suggestion. I will treat him well as he worth it, while I will force him to be my friends as a way to respect him. Have a nice day.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
10 Mar 13
hi, Some people are of helping nature but they don't want to talk more or they are not talkative. They can speak to those people who are very close to them.
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@dandan07 (1908)
• China
13 Mar 13
I think if I do not like to talk with my co-workers, it is hard for me to cooperate with them and ask for help when I need. To him, his circle is too small in my eyes, and other people in the office do not like him. As he really owns the quality to be loved by the other, why he does not do something to make his situation a bit better?
@ET28LV (1895)
• Latvia
11 Mar 13
I have been in your situation too so I know how you feel. My job colleague too is very helpful and he rarely talk, but always answer to all my questions. Now after few months it is changed and now he tries to talk too and make some jokes, but his jokes are not so funny. I know that he is very nice person he just had hard childhood. Maybe you can try to find interests which are the same for both of you and then try to make some dialog with him it could help you.
• India
11 Mar 13
making friend is easy but there are different type of person in the world its difficult to make them friend with us.Best way to make them as friend is to,try to talk what they like and what they are interested in.you can easily make him as friend.just follow the two things as i mentioned above.best wishing friend
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@devonavis (1857)
• Greece
11 Mar 13
Haha I can relate to this. I also have a classmate before that rarely talks. It's like he is living by the quote, "one question, one answer". You ask him something and he answers, that's all, no asking back. He is a good person and I wanted him to be my friend but then I finally get tired and just gave up. People have different behaviors so...
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@youless (94719)
• Guangzhou, China
11 Mar 13
People are different. Some are talkative and some are silent. It is their personality. Besides, sometimes it is not easy for colleagues to become friends. Since you work in the same place, so it is hard to avoid the competition and so on.
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@stanley777 (7178)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
Maybe, you just misunderstood his silence. There are people who are like this the shy type or reserved kind of people. They talk less but they are good listener. But once you get acquainted or friends with them, most of them are really nice people. Maybe, she doesn't know you or the others well enough that is why he talks less or a bit shy to start a conversation.
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@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
Then do likewise. You should do what he is doing with you like helping you when you need someone to help you. Do not pursue yourself to befriend him. You are a girl and you should be as distant as possible. He might interpret that you aren't just want her to a friend but a boyfriend.Maybe he was choosy of someone to talk to.
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@Raine38 (9193)
• United States
10 Mar 13
Some people are really not that sociable. That doesn't mean though that they don't have friends. Maybe he really isn't into mixing his work life and his personal life. A long as he is nice to you and that you two have a very good working rapport then that should be a good start. Maybe he doesn't open up to people that he just met so fast. It might take some time.
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@ajithlal (14569)
• India
10 Mar 13
I hope he talks more with other people and most probably you can talk to him and most probably after couple of days he will talk more. I think most probably he might be a shy person. I think when he becomes a friend with you, he can be your best friend.
@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
14 Apr 13
Hello dan dan, If you are set to become his friend you should use the fact that he doesn't like to talk to much to your advantage. Why not think of a way to spend some time together doing other activities rather then talking. Why not play some sport for instance ? Just an idea that will hopefully work, A good day to you, Alex.