My boyfriend doesn't want to share his FB password
By Aja103654
@Aja103654 (5646)
Philippines
March 19, 2013 8:33am CST
Okay, we all know how boyfriends and girlfriends are so in love they just want to share everything.
My boyfriend used to share passwords with me. I didn't really find it that important to know, I rarely open his account and I only do that time I was looking for him(because his mobile can't be contacted) by asking his friends on facebook.
But now, he refuses to share his new FB password. I was alright with that privacy thing and all but, like, why now all of a sudden? Why wouldn't he share it with me all of a sudden. He was never bothered by it before. Now i find that suspicious.
Oh well, if he's hiding something then... whatever. 
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34 responses
@tech40 (23128)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
Actually, My Girlfriend doesn't know my Facebook Password, but I know her facebook password, but takenote of this, I never open her facebook profile, it is because I trust her, and we have trust to each other,
and trust is one of the most important, Trust and Honesty, 
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
There is no trust problem between us. It's just that I am curious about what he is hiding. I happen to be a very curious person.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
19 Mar 13
tech... well said. Trust has to be part of every relationship. Without trust there is nothing.
@tech40 (23128)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
oh I see, ummm I don't know what I should tell about your curiosity,
maybe it is depends on the guy,
cos me, she doesn't know my password, but I didn't do anything bad, or may result of something that can affect the relationship we have,
I really love my girlfriend
@groupepub (150)
• France
19 Mar 13
Sometimes in a relationship between boys and girls, it's better to not check the phone message, get the password on facebook and more. I think this will avoid seeing what you don't want to see.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
I'd rather be hurt by knowing rather than be made a fool.
Anyway, I think one good reason to not check our partner's phone messages and facebook is that it doesn't make us misunderstand things and we can practice trusting our partner's to be honest to us.
@allknowing (130073)
• India
19 Mar 13
It is not good to have a one track mind. May be he feels awkward you reading his posts. I find nothing wrong in it. I hope you did not ask for his password. That is not the right thing to do.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
I actually asked for it this time because I thought there was no harm in it. I wanted to know if he is okay with that. If he doesn't want to share, then that is alright.. What really made me curious is that before, he doesn't seem to have any discomforts with me knowing his password. In fact, he was the one who gave it to me before when I didn't ask.
Maybe. he also told me the reason was that he has some enemies on facebook.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
19 Mar 13
Your right. Also there maybe posts from along time ago, that he doesnt want everyone to see.
@allknowing (130073)
• India
19 Mar 13
Everyone needs space and that includes spouses, partners and boy friends.
@Pegasus72 (1898)
•
10 Apr 13
In our family if the kids are 18 and under they have to be our friends and we have their passwords to look at their accounts. I know my husband's account password and he knows mine. Would I push it if we were just dating, probably not but I would be curious what he has on his that I couldn't see.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
So married people are expected to share facebook passwords but it is a different case for unmarried couples?
@Pegasus72 (1898)
•
28 Apr 13
The commitment just isn't there before marriage. I know some people believe this way but for me I just can't see it.
@yugocean (9965)
• India
22 Mar 13
You don't have to share your password with him either, facebook is either for timepass or for social media of the public, I use it good for latter, and don't think it is good to share passy with anyone, I don't have girlfriend, so can't make further of it.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
I know. It is never a good thing to share passwords.. unless during emergencies.
I don't intend to share mine, but if I give it, I have nothing to hide. I'm barely around facebook anyway, so my profiles and activities there are so outdated.
I guess it's better that we don't share passwords. He didn't have problems sharing it before and it has never affected our relationship negatively. Maybe he's just being cautious about it.
@bluebutterfly20 (462)
• United States
19 Mar 13
It does sounds suspicious but I'm sure he has his own reasons. But just think of it like this. It there's a fire, there's a smoke ^_^ hehe. I know my hubby's password in fb, and well, he never opened it. He just checked it sometimes whenever I ask him to. lol
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
Yeah. Whatever he is keeping from me, then I don't want to know. I have way too many things in my mind now and many other priorities to busy myself with.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
Maybe. But he's an honest person so he doesn't usually have something to hide. If he does, I wonder what it is.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
19 Mar 13
Maybe he had someone else along time ago. And just doesnt want you to see or even know about them.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
20 Mar 13
Hi Aja!
Let him enjoy his privacy ..... lol! There is no need to press him for his FB password. You need not bother that there would be something special which he may be hiding from you, trusting him is important.
Mutual trust binds us together.
Have a great day! :-)
dpk
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
28 Mar 13
Yes, sudden change of attitude could raise some doubts/suspicion. Try to probe him about this issue when he is in jolly mood.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
Thanks deepak!
I am not quite sure he has told me everything as to the reason why he wouldn't want me to access his account. It's not like I want to access it really, it's the sudden change that got to me. Okay, I'm giving him privacy, lots of it. I actually don't call or text him that often. So he can go around doing things he needed to do without me interrupting.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
25 Mar 13
I think one should not share the pass word, i have a face book friend, she is from Davao, when i see her on line, i just say Hi
The reply comes I AM HER HUSBAND
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
Haha, that's scary. Yeah, sharing passwords is really bothersome especially when jealous partners are involved.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
It would have been easy for her ex to simply change his password so she could not access it again.
Ah, I don't care anymore about his facebook. I will let him do whatever he wants. He's old enough already to manage his own facebook account.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
27 Apr 13
actually even my previous boy friend didn't share his Facebook password,though i know that he still have private side of his life and couldn't be share even for me,and yes i also found something why my ex didn't share his Facebook password it because he had a secret that he wouldn't want me to know.
@chantalle25 (208)
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
It was really okay if he didn't share it with you since the start of your relationship. We all know that even boyfriends and girlfriends needs privacy. Sharing your password with your love one is a choice, he chose to give it to you before and now he changed his mind? I am also having a doubt about that, a sudden change of decision but maybe some people are right, maybe he feels awkward that sometimes you can read his messages with his friends. Just talk to him about that issue to avoid some misinterpretation.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
Yes. I didn't ask for his password to begin with and I never pressured him to do so ever. He is a very open person that whenever someone is troubling him on facebook, he'd tell me to look at those myself. I always decline doing such things because I believe he can handle them on his own. There is no need for me to step in.
The change is strange, but I trust him enough to not go paranoid over it. It still makes me curious though.
Thank you for the advise. Maybe in time I will get to ask him all of those but when we talk, we always forget about issues like this.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
19 Mar 13
Why should he?? If you were a married couple maybe.. but bf and gf not. I dont even like or have fb. But its his not yours. Sorry :(
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
I didn't say anything about owning him or his facebook. I don't mind giving him space. I'm just curious because he decided to keep his password this time unlike before when he willingly shared it to me. Maybe something changed?
I don't think it is about being married or not. The only thing that matters when sharing passwords is that both person consented.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
20 Mar 13
I do understand that, but sometimes things in the past are better left alone. he may just not want you to see a few things...
@SuperShames (780)
• India
19 Mar 13
Hi Aja.
Well it is kind of same with me as well. Initially I hared my fb password with my girlfriend and she did the same as well. But that was only for the reason of sharing. But now and then she started logging in my account. And I really hated that. I know I chat to a lot of girls but I always mention that whenever we talked. But still she used to check my account now and then. So I really get angry sometime on why I shared my password with her. May be same as the case with your boyfriend as well..
Anyways have a nice day !!
SuperSHames
SuperSHames@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
Ahem.
Supershames, I'm not like your girlfriend at all. 
Even as a girl, I find what she is doing really annoying. I never did that to my boyfriend's account. He can tell you that. 
Although I believe it is a very big possible reason why he doesn't want me to know his password, so I would never attempt to do anything like your girlfriend did. Though I wouldn't do such a thing to begin with. I have far too many things to busy myself with rather than snooping around his account.
You need to make your girlfriend stop doing that. It's quite a trouble some behavior. She needs to mature and learn to trust you.
Even as a girl, I find what she is doing really annoying. I never did that to my boyfriend's account. He can tell you that.
Although I believe it is a very big possible reason why he doesn't want me to know his password, so I would never attempt to do anything like your girlfriend did. Though I wouldn't do such a thing to begin with. I have far too many things to busy myself with rather than snooping around his account.
You need to make your girlfriend stop doing that. It's quite a trouble some behavior. She needs to mature and learn to trust you.1 person likes this
@SuperShames (780)
• India
20 Mar 13
Hi Aja.
Well my girlfriend also does not open my account very frequently. But whenever she does, she always checks my messages. And this is the reason why I suspect that she does not trust me. I always have arguments with her. But what can I do. She is very insecure always.
Have a nice day !!
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
I didn't make a big deal of facebook. he is the one who is changing his mind and it can naturally make me wonder what his reasons are.
@dodo19 (47113)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
21 Mar 13
I do think that it's a good thing to share things in a relationship, but I don't think that you should share everything. It doesn't hurt to have a little bit of privacy, even in relationships. Your boyfriend might have his reasons for this change. If it really worries you, then you can always talk to him about it.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
Curiosity with girls are normal. We do not mean to intrude their privacy, we just want to see. But sometimes problems starts there when we see something. So I guess you just let him have his privacy this time. There are reasons why he wouldn't share his password this time.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
Yeah, he did give me ideas what his reasons were, although I am not that convinced because he wouldn't really answer me properly. I gave him possible reasons why he wouldn't share them and he just nodded and said 'yeah that's it'
That was a mistake, because I think there was more reason to it. As of now, I'm gonna let is slide and ask him about it later when we have time.
@Happielady85 (384)
• United States
21 Mar 13
Maybe you can find an easy way of asking him. You will probably have to be diplomatic about it. However, if you think that by asking him, it might destroy your relationship then wait until there is a time when it might be easier or m ore comfortable for you to ask. Make sure you ask eh question when you FEEL it is the right time to do so.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
Yes, I will. I will find the right timing.
Though he really doesn't have to be mad about me asking about it. As his girlfriend, it is only natural for me to want to know his reasons.
@amitjoamon (117)
• India
20 Mar 13
I feel there should be a personal space of everyone and where no one can interfere. Though i share all my passwords with my girlfriend and never asked her passwords, and i call it trust. I believe our love is out of this world, no one can ever come between us.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
That's nice amit. It would depend on the person too if I share my password with. So far, I have not shared it with anyone. Although I am not all too secretive about my facebook account either because no one would see anything important there for me to be afraid of getting exposed.
@cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
If that is your case, i would also be suspicious as you. I do not mean to add fire but when a certain routine in a relationship suddenly changes, there is always a room for any suspicions to come around. why don't you talk to him about it for your own peace of mind. maybe he can offer you a good explanation for that sudden change of heart...
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
He did tell me his reasons and they are okay. More of privacy and preventing me from knowing about his enemies or getting involved with them. It's more of a protective gesture. Although, I still think there is more to it than that.
