religious differences in a relationships, isnt that difficult?

@scubapro (1051)
Gifu, Japan
March 30, 2013 10:12pm CST
what do you think about religious differences in a relationship?do you really think that will cause any serious problem..how about after marriage and have some kids, which religion must be shown to the kids? i think there must be some problems in this kind of marriages or relationships.. what do you think about it? can you share your feelings?
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@redtesha (1773)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 13
Well, I don't know about different religion in one family .. Actually I don't agree with the differences because you can't handle 2 religions (or more) in one family because every single religion have their own rules and we should accept and do that rules .. But I think every single people can have their own religion, without press from anybody else .. One religion for one family (relationship) is what you should do .. If you wanna to try with someone with different religion, that's your option .,, just do what do you think is better for both of you ,, love is love I think, you can't push someone to change their religion for love, but I think it gonna be better if you have same religion :)
@redtesha (1773)
• Indonesia
2 Apr 13
Hehehe, that's true .. Sometimes family with 2 religions have problems because their don't know which religion for their kids .. and sometimes that's weird if they celebrate 2 religion together ..
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
1 Apr 13
you are totally right,love is love,if you love that person anything different musnt be a problem, peace
@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 13
Hi friend, religious differences in a relationship is okay for the couple, if they can respect each other. But, I think it is difficult for children. I cannot imagine, how the children will decide to choose? Maybe they will chose one of the parents' religious when they was adult. For me, I cannot have husband that has different religious, because I cannot handle my children, I think.
@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
31 Mar 13
yeah respect is the key point,i agree. we just live our religion and also let him-her to live theirs. its a good advice. happy mylotting
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
31 Mar 13
they say that two people who are of different religions can't get along. i don't think so. my husband and I are two different religions and we have been together just fine for the last 9 years. the problem is that we don't try to force our religious beliefs on one another. i respect his religion and he respects mine. that's nonsense that it can't work between two people of different religions.
31 Mar 13
According to the religious books,people are forbidden from marrying a person belonging to a different faith. People are free to practice any religion. When it comes to marriage I believe we should marry a person who shares the same faith as ours. But keeping an open mind I dont think married couples having religious difference will have any problems in their lives. Faith is something that cannot be taught, and the children will decide for themselves as to what they want to believe.
@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
31 Mar 13
yeah children can decide theirselves,but some religions are so strict, i mean for example islam is strict and they never ask their kids about their choice. so maybe open minded and development countries there is no problem but small and less development countries,believe me there is a big problem. thanks for the response..
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
31 Mar 13
Probably if the couple cannot come to terms or agreement, it may cause some conflicts and strain the relationship. And children may be in the dillemma as to who to follow when they are young, dad or mum. However, when they grow up they will be able to make their own decision. This is just my feeling and may not be suitable for others. My daughter has her married life and her husband is having same faith as her. They both go to same church meeting together and serve in the youth meeting together. So, they usually serve God together and having same circle of church members. They have many things in common so saving up the trouble of ironing out differences in this area.
• United States
31 Mar 13
I think that the only problem it would cause is that if the other partner would say they want you to convert to there religion that would be an issue.
• United States
31 Mar 13
Hi Scubapro. It really depends on the couple and what they can agree on. It can work, but it can also be a bone of contention. When kids are involved you have to decide how you will raise them. Some let the kids make their own choice. Some raise the kids with both cultures. Then some parents choose one religion. I used to be strict Pentecostal, but I am now more mainstream. I would never get involved with someone like I used to be . I would want someone like I am now.
@quieley (316)
• Philippines
31 Mar 13
If the couple are not devoted to their religion, I think it wouldn't be a problem. But if they are, their future would be at stake. And it's the children who suffer.
@iamsittie (327)
• Philippines
31 Mar 13
My boyfriend and I belong to different religion. But then it doesn't affect our relationship since we accept each other's beliefs. It is just a matter of respect and understanding. :) We also decided that it is my religion that should be followed when we get married. In fact he is willing to convert just for us to be together. The big problem for us is our parents. My parents cannot accept him. And for now we make them believe that our relationship has ended and we are not communicating anymore. I know that I am not a good daughter but I really love him. Truly love him.