it is hard to be happy in life

@hotsummer (10309)
Philippines
March 31, 2013 1:02am CST
i was with my friend yesterday. she does not have any problems being happy in life. i think because she is likable and so she does not have difficulty gaining friends and be happy in life. although not every body is like her. but i think it is quite difficult for me to be likable for so many reasons. and i don't think i can blame just my personality or what. i think it is also the way how someone looks; if the person looks presentable and pleasant to see then i think that person can gain friends easily. but i have to be content with the very few people that would like me if there is at all.
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9 responses
• United States
31 Mar 13
I say just do the things that make you happy in life, be around people that make you happy. pick up some activities and relax as best you can. dont stress about the future or the past just live life. Being happy isnt something u can force on yourself. Dont be too hard on yourself things will come around for you :)
@hotsummer (10309)
• Philippines
31 Mar 13
that is right. i should just keep myself busy so i won't feel sad.
@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
31 Mar 13
sometimes it may be true that people like hanging out with attractive people. i still think you are being hard on yourself. you are probably very attractive to a lot of people. on the other hand, imagine the pressure it must be to have to keep up appearances for all those people. being around alot of people doesn't make me happy at all. in fact, it does the opposite. i feel pressured if i had alot of friends. i am glad that i don't really have to many. you should be, too. it's less problems and less drama.
@hotsummer (10309)
• Philippines
31 Mar 13
yeah i don't like too much drama in life. that is why i just want to have some ways to be happy in life though i have not attained that. but it is great that you are happy with your situation and have what you want in life.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
31 Mar 13
I understood what you say, and it was like a competition also in life. Why some people can be likable for everybody, and you are not. What is missing there? I also wonder it from me. Why someone else is be easily be liked, and while me is not. I just couldn't understand it. Maybe it is about your appearance, or your characteristics. I try not to change myself, and I just simply have to accept that truth in life.
@wowjen15 (183)
• Philippines
31 Mar 13
You know, being happy in life does not rely on other people. You, yourself, should be able to make your self happy even in small things. It is easy to be happy as long as you are contented and grateful of what you have and having a positive or optimistic attitude. Beside, with what you said that one needs to be pleasant to be a friend, I don't agree with that. True friends will accept you for who and what you really are. No pretensions. And what matters most is that even if you have few friends as long as they are true friends rather that have many friends but are not real.
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
31 Mar 13
There are alot of advantages as to being attractive. Attractive people will usually get the job or the guy/girl before someone who isn't. Attractive people though are not always that attractive when you get to know their personality. Some are snobs and or gold diggers and that is when you see someones true colors and realize they are not all that attractive at all. Then you have some people who are not so attractive but their beauty within and their personality shines through that you can actually see these people in a different light. Making them so much more attractive then you orginally thought. I think being attractive is more about your personality and how you treat others then your physical looks. I don't know how you look but I'm sure you are attractive but you can't see it for some reason. Stop being so hard on yourself and be happy and grateful for what you have in life. You are the only one that can make yourself happy no one else can do that for you. BE
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
31 Mar 13
i certainly do understand the point here and it is very had to restrict oneself frok falling in love and always we tend to fall for others
• India
31 Mar 13
The best friend is your creativity. Do something creative, think positive, you will end up with some good friends. I guess quality is better thn quantity as far as friendship is concerned. Thank you.
• United States
31 Mar 13
That should not mean much to you because your a very likeable person as well. I like you very much and I am sure the friends you always talk about feel the same way too. not the girl who used you for that book though.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
31 Mar 13
Hi, Happiness in life can be measured by the number of friends you have in life. The friends who are your friends because of attractive personality are not your true friends. The friend who make friendship without having expectations is true friendship. You are lucky that you have few friends who are true friends and not selfish friends. We should try to be happy with whatever we have and should not compete with others.