Is any degree of flirting okay when you are married?

@sunsham68 (1376)
India
April 3, 2013 9:53am CST
Is there anywhere a certain degree of flirting allowed? Are there categories such as innocent/ spiteful flirting or is "flirting" just plain flirting and its just plain wrong?
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@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
4 Apr 13
Personally, I don't like any form of flirting when you're married. I think its just wrong and you're only being unfair to your partner who is loyal to you. Although it's really hard to tell because there's a thin line between being friendly and flirty. I guess asking of questions or sharing a table is okay, but when someone is already pouring out his/her emotions to you and you're ready to listen and comfort that person, that's different.
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@sunsham68 (1376)
• India
5 Apr 13
That makes a very clear line between innocent and harmful. IF one can control the situation and make a clean back out when they feel it is crossing the line, thats a great point to get out- when the emotional stuff starts coming across the table. But often it is hard to control or judge just where to stop before that line is crossed, so avoidance is the best method I believe!
@sunsham68 (1376)
• India
9 Apr 13
You are right and that is simply awful.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
I agree with you. If it's possible to avoid, then one should avoid. Otherwise, it's hard to get out of a situation once you're trapped. And sadly, there are some who don't care whether the person is married or not and worse, they's even try to pursue him/her.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
3 Apr 13
Hello Sunsham I think flirting in not allowed if you are married. There´s somewhat type of kindness or charity, mercy with other human beings since they are all God´s creation, but flirting is flirting and that´s not correct. Because is playing with fire and somebody will be hurted. Blessings Sunsham... dainy
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@sunsham68 (1376)
• India
3 Apr 13
I agree, you may be in it for fun, but you cannot fully control how the other person may take it..
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
3 Apr 13
Yeap
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
Flirting when married or with someone is just so wrong. Being charming is right!:)
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@sunsham68 (1376)
• India
3 Apr 13
That's what I believe. I am torn about a personal situation involving this kind of flirting hope I find a solution.
@marguicha (215808)
• Chile
3 Apr 13
I would draw the line when the flirting bothers your significant other.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
Flirting can lead to something that any married person can regret. NO matter how you look at it, once a married person gets into, SERIOUS TROUBLE.
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@sunsham68 (1376)
• India
6 Apr 13
You're so right. Its just a needless situation to enter into and it can have such implications with hardly any intention of it getting that way. Its sad people don't take it seriously enough and justify it as harmless or whatever!
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
3 Apr 13
Flirting in whatever degree or form when you are already married or committed to someone else is wrong. Well, that is just me, because for me flirting encourages feelings of romance which shouldn't even be started when you are already romantically involved with someone else. I don't think there is such thing as harmless flirting because one person might take it in a different way and either way, someone's bound to get hurt.
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@sunsham68 (1376)
• India
3 Apr 13
Is it just us women who agree that it is wrong, I haven't seen a single male respond otherwise!
@honor00 (185)
3 Apr 13
Flirting is fun and as long as you stay loyal and faithful to your partner isn't 'wrong'. Flirting with your partner keeps many a marriage alive. I've been married for 40 years and flirt like mad with my husband. I don't understand innocent/spiteful flirting; flirting is flirting and fun.
@sunsham68 (1376)
• India
3 Apr 13
Awesome that you "flirt" till date. Keep it going:) Innocent flirting in my dictionary is when you know there is nothing you want from it, its purely for fun and spiteful flirting was done to me once by my BF saying it was because he was mad at me for something and wanted to hurt me :(
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 13
Flirting whren married cannot ever be condoned. Why would a women want to flirt? Why would she want to lose her self respect? Even if her husband is flirting then she should deal with that issue but a married women should act like one and always be a lady no matter what. If she cannot take her husband's behaviour then she should get out of the marriage but important to always keep her dignity and respect
@sunsham68 (1376)
• India
3 Apr 13
Well said. Thank you!
• United States
7 Apr 13
Well I think I get what you're saying. "Flirting" is not a bad thing but it seems misused or sortov inappropriate. You can be charming however, and still compliment your Significant Other. It's technically the same thing, but you don't tell your Spouse if you can take them to the movies or out to dinner- you ask them if they want to go out for something or to watch a film. They're two sides to the same coin, however in the end, juts be yourself, and if you really have to- Ask. Tell them to let you know if you're ever making them uncomfortable. It's as simple as that! :D