Being rich is about extravagance?

India
April 3, 2013 11:15pm CST
A dear friend of mine who is in a stable relationship.He and his love interest make good amount of money.Yesterday he told me that their anniversary is near so he wants to make his girlfriend feel special by taking her to most expensive restaurant in the town and will bring flowers and cake for her from most expensive shop.Myself and few other friends suggested him places where he might get better food and gifts at much cheaper price,but he refused.Is this "Most expensive" theory logical?do you think if someone has lot of money ,then he/she should take pride in paying more than worth?
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8 responses
@lelin1123 (15643)
• Puerto Rico
4 Apr 13
I'm not one for going for the most expensive at all. I don't like spending more money then something is worth. I like to get things for a good price. So my husband knows me, less is better for me. I can't see spending alot of money on an expensive restaurant because I eat to survive not because I love food. Most people with money will spend the big bucks even though its not worth it. Why pay more for something when you can get it cheaper somewhere else
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• India
4 Apr 13
You are so right.Its better to use logic in all cases,and in this case there is no logic involved in my opinion.What's the pride in buying something for 100$ when its worth 10$you earn money from hard work ,why just give it away like that.Thanks a lot for your response.
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@Alechin (217)
• Slovak Republic
4 Apr 13
I personally hate luxury. Everything luxurious - cars, clothing, everything. Why buy expensive brand clothing, when it does the same service cheap clothing does? Why is it, that I buy expensive guess clothing made by poor Chinese, who do all the work and get nothing at all, from European retailers who pay big bucks to "managment" who do nothing but sit in their offices, and copy paste excell graphs and tables showing profits and nod their heads in approval earning incredible amounts of money and pretend they are preoccupied? Why do we exploit the poor to make cheap things to sell them for large sums? Because rich people need to show how rich they are, how puny the others are... Makes me sick. I hate snobs! I hate overpriced clothing, I hate overpriced cars. I hate managers of all kinds!! A factory with no management is perfectly capable of production. :) A factory with no workers wont produce anything. ;) Im not a communist, surely not. I am from a post commie country and right now we are governed by ex-commies and believe me they have adopted a very capitalistic way of governing.
• India
5 Apr 13
I appreciate your comment and completely agree with you.The people whom you mentioned are nothing more than middlemen.All they do is buy cheap good from poor people who work hard and then place it in their fancy shops.Then so called rich guys ,just to show their class will pay ten times the worth price and these middlemen gets rich without making any efforts.About capitalistic way of governing ,its happening in most of the countries now.I live in a democratic country but all the points you made happens here too.Governments play in the hands of corporates,who just follow one principle ,minimum investment and maximum utilization.Thanks a lot for your response.
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@ptrikha_2 (11096)
• India
5 Apr 13
Your observation about exploitation and unfavorable bias in sharing of profits with the factory workers is quite worthy. May be you can write some blog or article on this topic and share with us here. And yes, common men, poor and even middle class are the losers in many ways, whether a communist or capitalist system is adopted. It is super-rich and people in power who benefit at the expense of others.
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@Alechin (217)
• Slovak Republic
8 Apr 13
Guys I'm happy at least you agree. I have corporate parts of my family that tend to look at me like I'm crazy or something when I talk like this. They think this is normal. I think this is mad! No matter what system of government is in office, the scheme is the same and it is pretty simple. Money is just a bogus today. Buying overpriced nonsense is retarded! You just support those you dont wanna be supporting. Grvdubey is your profile pic from the movie Inception btw?
@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
4 Apr 13
the high prices in the restaurant where your friend wants to take his GF may not only be due to the quality of the food but also to the ambiance of the place. the restaurant probably has impeccable services too. i don't usually go to these highly expensive places because i can hardly afford it but i know that there is a difference. if your friend has plenty money, then he can splurge during special days like anniversaries.
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• India
4 Apr 13
Well its like that, you are special so i will take you to most expensive place.Its ok if the place is expensive but is it worth? like i mentioned we told him about plenty of other places which provide better food and service and of-course less expensive.Even if anyone has lot of money,why pay more for a thing you can get in lesser price,that's the issue.For example if i buy a smartphone for 1000$ and some other guy gets it for half the price,we will use it in same way,so i wasted extra 500,isnt it,but no i am rich so i will buy a 500$ smartphone for 1000$ and then be happy that i am special.I dont have anything personal for my friend though, i will always be there for him,its the issue which is of concern as a whole.
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@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
4 Apr 13
we cannot compare the smart phone with a dinner in a restaurant. no two places are alike. two smart phones of the same brands are identical. what i was trying to point out here is that different people have different tastes. he may have been impressed by that particular restaurant, florist, etc. this could be his reason behind his choice. our views on the quality of service are subjective.
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• India
4 Apr 13
I am not comparing them at all,apologies if i did error in presentation.I was just giving the example about ,why pay more for a thing you can get in lesser price.Totally agree with your point though,it happens that someone likes a place suited to his/her taste.Its just that he said that i will get her to most expensive place to make her feel special,so its a strong possibility(though not the only one) that he wants to show her that she is special so he would take her to a place which is most expensive.If he liked that place more than the others ,he could have said that i will take her to best restaurant.However another possibility is that for him most expensive restaurant is the best one.I am just implying inferences which can be drawn by this mentally of'' most expensive ''
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• India
4 Apr 13
Spending a lot of money in the costly restarent is not the best way to show the real love. He can show his real love with his activities. I think he is interested in showing his status and wealth to his beloved one, so only he choose this way. It is his own wish and opinion differs from person to person.
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• India
4 Apr 13
I agree ,its show off more than anything.When you earn something you should learn to use it wisely.Thanks a lot for your response.
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@ptrikha_2 (11096)
• India
4 Apr 13
Perhaps some people can manage show off with their level of richness for a long time, while it is unsustainable and otherwise also not suitable for others.
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4 Apr 13
I'm a girl and I also have a boyfriend. In my opinion, the boy "wants" to make his girlfriend feel special and there's no wrong about it. He wanted it in the first place, right? He earns money a lot, he can buy many things for his girl, and he has a choice. A choice where he can spend most of his money for their special day or to save most and spend less for their future. For a girl like me, there's nothing more special than to have my boy beside me on our anniversary. I hope my answer is helpful.
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• India
4 Apr 13
Full respect for your opinion.But dont you think if a boyfriend buys a 1000$ dress as a gift for her girlfriend when he can get same dress for 100$,he is wasting 900$ in this attempt to make her feel special.Instead he can get 10 such dresses for her and that would be more special ,isn't it.Surely your answer is very helpful,best wishes.
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@emily7339 (1339)
• Malaysia
4 Apr 13
I think it all depends on individual. The person may think that spending on the one most special to him is worthwhile. Afterall, he could afford it. That is provided he could maintain his rich status years down the road. As for me, I would not want to waste my money in that manner. It need not be an expensive place. As long as the place is condusive and has nice food will be allright for me. As this is the only one rare occasion.
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• India
4 Apr 13
I agree with you.However i cant understand thinking of such people,if you get a something for 100$,but its available for just 10$ ,someone who gets that cheaper than you will enjoy that thing equally,its just that you have given 90$ more and got noting extra.Thanks a lot for your response.
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@ptrikha_2 (11096)
• India
4 Apr 13
I think it is better to be realistic and honest. One ought to gift what one is capable of and what looks realistic and pragmatic at one point of time. My opinion is that expensive gifts could be unsustainable over years. Hence, one ought to spend keeping in mind a lot of factors. And being honest might pinch for some time, but would be beneficial in the longer run.
• India
4 Apr 13
I agree with you completely.Its alright to get an expensive gift if its useful but one should know its worth.Its like that, you are so special that i wasted so much money for you,how logical is that i wonder,thanks a lot for your response.
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@ptrikha_2 (11096)
• India
5 Apr 13
In the end, it boils down to an individual's perception. Whether they give or place more emphasis to materialistic things, or value being together as more important. Yes, one or two gifts at times if within affordable range are fine. Yet, it is being together and even if sharing an ordinary Dessert or Snacks is a great thing.
• India
4 Apr 13
some people try to think and have the best in their life and for that they behave like that may they attract more luxury in their life...
• India
4 Apr 13
If luxury is about wasting money ,then its hard to understand that mentality.Thanks a lot for your response.
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