What does it mean to be a good son/daughter to aging parents?

United States
April 4, 2013 9:53pm CST
Different people and especially different cultures have different ways of what is expected in caring for aging parents. I have such deep respect for people who have their parents move in and care for them in their own homes, but is that asking too much? What are the "rules" for you and where you live? What should be expected of sons and daughters to care for their parents?
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19 responses
• Philippines
5 Apr 13
It is not too much... I think neglecting them is too much! Does not matter if they are not perfect while they are raising us, but the fact that they let us live in this world is something we can't thank them enough. it does not matter what culture we are being raised... but our love with our parents can't be limited by traditions or culture of one's country. They fed us, they raised us, though we can't say if a lot of them are perfect... regardless of perfection as long as they let us live here in this world... are the same thing that we should help and guard them as they grow older and can't work for themselves and even hel themselves from their daily routine. My dad and my mom are not perfect... I felt a lot of pain and grudges the way they raised me... but one thing is for sure I don;t want to see them growing old miserably... I want them to enjoy life as much as they can until they are alive, I want to give them the best relaxation in life that they neer had when they are kids. I love them and I don't want them seeing suffer as they grow old... but enjoy their remaining years... it isn't too much to provide for the parents who et us live that make us gained opportunities to make our lives better no matter how tough life has become in us. Have a great day!
@cherigucchi (4866)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
It really depends on the culture. Like here in the Philippines, children are taking care of their aging parents. If there are many siblings they usually take turns in their duties especially those who live with their parents or those who live nearby. I believe that in other countries, they bring their parents to homes for older people.
@silverfox09 (4727)
• United States
6 Apr 13
In Jamaica one of the children would take care of the parents if they become too sick to take care of themselves but as time change children or doing less in the sense of letting parents come and live with them if they dont have the space and financial support . I will let my mother live with me if she become too old but I will have to get a care giver because I will still have my own life to keep up with so I wont always be home.
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
Respect love and care are the best we can give to our elders. I have a mom of age 90. She's still have strong body and mind except her problems on both eyes. She can see still but blurred. We love her so much and taking care of her is the best way to show to her our deepest love.
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
For me its not asking too much, i think its normal and as matter of fact whatever we do to repay our parents still its not enough to pay for their sacrifices on us, as for me i want to have my parents beside me and take care of them until they gone, i don't have the right to complain, they are my parents and they are my blood. But people have different idea and perspective in life, all i know is what you do to your parents when they get old, your children will treat you the same when you get old, life is just a cycle.
@cttolledo (5054)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
Here in the Philippines, there are no such thing as rule when it comes to taking care of aging parents.. It's inherent to the Filipinos to love our parents and part of it is to take care our parents by ourselves and in our home... People may not be rich but we are naturally loving person.
6 Apr 13
To be a good son/daughter is the most dreams that your parents was dreaming of when you was young, and they expect from you to take care of them as they do when you was young without power, they pays a lot of money on you to become a good one for you and for your country, then find a job and work to give them back at least 1% of their love. I think that who give his mother/father to Infirmary is not a man and don't deserve to be alive too because he's/she's thankless.
@dandan07 (1908)
• China
6 Apr 13
To many old people here, they do have a lot of free while have few people to share with. Some old people will form a circle to play card games together to kill time. While they like their children and grandchildren to see them, especially be happy with the delicious food cooked by their children. I think old people are prefer to stay with their family members, but as the fast pace of the modern world, it becomes almost impossible.
@Mavic123456 (14371)
• Thailand
6 Apr 13
I have the biggest respect to old people. I see my parents in them and I just love them all. Even, the cranky ones hahaha. If I have my parents with me, I could have taken care of them with all my heart. I am so missing them now.
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
I am an aged parent or aged parents to include my wife. As much as possible and always we need independence; to live in a world of own home and decide matters for us. We're too fortunate thanks God for we're both government pensioners. I think it would have been a different story if we had nothing to hold on but wait for dole-outs from our 5 children. Our children are thoughtful and would offer us their best from time to time. Our grandchildren do come to the house very often to consile us.
• Lithuania
5 Apr 13
I think it's normal to take care of your parents when they become really old and weak. It's like a proof that they spent a great life and deserve to be rewarded. If they grow us up, I believe it's our duty to make them feel loved and fill the last days of their lifes with kindness and care.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
5 Apr 13
Expected of them? These are the people who gave you life, who fed and nurtured you and educated you and probably made umpteen sacrifices so that you could have a better life than them. You are now respondible for them if they need financial assistance and help in any way. The roles get reversed when parents get old. Now it is time for the children to show that they value their parents.
@wowjen15 (183)
• Philippines
5 Apr 13
For me, and also in our culture, we take care of our parents. We don't leave them to homes where they are taken care of by other people but we take them to our own homes while we take care of them. It really isn't too much because they have given much to us and one that we cannot ever repay them is the life that they gave us. Although, some parents think they are a burden to their children, so it is our responsibility that we don't let them feel that way.
5 Apr 13
A good son or daughter to aging parents is someone who will take care his parents by all means not because of considering it as an obligation but because they truly love to do it. In our country, it is common to take care of our aging parents especially when they get old. I hope every person in this world should do the same. I really wish that our parents will not come to the point of aging and the same with us so that we can be together forever.. our time to live on this earth is not enough to show our love for them. sadly, life today has limitations and also our health but one day no one will get old. I really long for that day. while we still live let us show our love to everyone especially to our parents.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
5 Apr 13
Here in our country taking of our parents is not all about obligation and duty. We took care of our elderly parents because we love them as much as they love and take care of us when we were young. Therefore- taking care of them as they grow old is showing respect and making them feel that we owe them a lot- of what and who we are because of them.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
5 Apr 13
Just the fact that our parents are getting old, I think it is time that we should give back the love and care that they gave us when we were still young. I mean, it is best that we ourselves take care of them instead of having to leave them under the car of an institution.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
5 Apr 13
caring for aging parents is the right thing to do,this means making sure they are comfortable and safe and happy.there is alot we can do for them by getting someone to help them in their house chores,buying them groceries and medicine and ensuring to visit and call them often,you dont have to live with them to take care of them but you should be available to them and make them understand this aspect plus also if you have kids its great to let them spend lots of time with them to cheer them up.
@srisahara (4147)
• Indonesia
5 Apr 13
In my region, when parents growing old, their child or their grandchild will keep them in their home or they stay in their parents' home. I think this is the best idea, although sometimes parents doing some annoy actions. Yes, we have to realize that they being child like when we still be child.
@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
5 Apr 13
i think when i get older i would like to be near my children, but i wouldn't want to be burden on them. in our culture, parents are usually place in homes when their children can't take care of them. i sure hope this doesn't turn out to be me.