leaving a 1 year old child

Welcome to mylot, thanks for this discussion,so are you going to leave her permanently with your sister or only during your work hours, so that she baby sits for her? Mother is mother, none can replace her, take your decision.

well if you have to work for yourself and daughter ...I think we don't have a choice but to leave her to your sister... but be sure every night you come home even how tiring your day is makes sure you are the one who take care of her, like feeding her or wash her up before you both sleep... and even though she is just a baby still... tell her stories... ask her what happen the whole day... even if she just going to smile back at you or just tell you "mama"... just talk to her as if she can understand you... so that motherhood bond will not break. I know being a working mom is hard... but that is the only way so you won't miss half of her life. God bless you and may God bless you a more strategy how to handle your time more so you can spend more time to your daughter as you work hard for her. God bless the works of your hands... and a heart of a discerning mom!

Leaving a child is hard to decide. But if there's no other way to support her needs except working apart from her well you are force to leave her. The most important is your presence besides her while growing up... With comfort and descent life as her right. Don't you have work near at your place so you takecare of her everyday. Try to search job that can support both of you near your place.. And if you won't mind seek assistance to the father of your child...

It is difficult to leave a baby but if you are the only person earning money then you may have to make this decision to leave her. Of course you will miss her and she will miss you but if she is in a happy environment then both of you will adjust to this new situation. Best of luck

That is a very difficult decision to make for a mother. Is your job out of the country, I know it's really a sacrifice leaving you daughter to the care of other person but as you have said it's for the the two of you. Just do call her most of the time or chat with her so she can see you and to lessen your homesickness too.

i didn't really understand the situation. are you leaving her with your sis in law just during your working hours? will you be coming to take her back when you arrive from work? or are you going to work in another place that is far and it would be impossible to see her for days, months, or even years? there are plenty of crossroads in our lives. we always faced with choices and the lives of our loved ones are also affected by our decisions. i have friends here in italy who have left their young children in their home countries. they miss their children very much but they chose to leave them behind because it wasn't possible for them to bring their kids here. if you think that by taking this job you will be able to provide better for your daughter, then i think you should go ahead. it is for her future. you have to endure the separation. maybe as she grows older and you will be more adjusted to this job and the new environment, you can get her and take her to a child care center so you'll see her each day.

Leaving 1 year old child is really cruel. Around their childhood we must with them .