I am feeling down now
@happyhappylife (95)
Singapore
April 14, 2013 7:16am CST
As much as I want to be happy everyday, despite putting
my nick as happyhappylife, there are downtimes for me too.
I really need to be lightened up. I'm not sure whether I'm
depressed or not. I just feel very very sad.
I want to do many things in my life. It is all about my responsibilities
as a full time housewife and a mother to 2 young kids.
I've been wanting to just focus on raising up my kids , take care
of the housework & cooking . Honestly, our finances have been
stabilized yet. It has been 7 years! Do you feel how frustrated i am?
I thought i just leave it to him to earn income. But i can't.
Bills are piling up and i must do something. Okay, i can help him.
The frustrating part is i can't manage my time well . It's too way too
much for me. I need a break! It's very tiring. Very. Imagine i have to spend
time with kids, do housework, cooking, find some income. Absolutely
taxing. I wanted to tell him about this asking him to share the duties. But i see him
also very tired after work.
I'm in dilemma. How do you manage your time effectively if you
were in my shoes?
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9 responses
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
14 Apr 13
Sorry to hear that. I get that way a few times a week as well. its just part of life. We cant be happy all the time. Take care there.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
14 Apr 13
When I get that feeling, I go for along walk here and get some fresh air.
@happyhappylife (95)
• Singapore
14 Apr 13
Good way to do ! For me, I can't go out as and when I have that feeling. My "resting-my-mind" place is bathroom ! :)
@happyhappylife (95)
• Singapore
14 Apr 13
Yes truly. Life is like the sea. It has high tide and low tide. Nothing is perfect.
I hope to improve in time to come. You take care too .
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
14 Apr 13
Yeah I understand what you mean. We all have down times at some point in our life. The start of this year has seemed like a complete down time for me. I hope that things start to improve for your life so that you will feel better. It is hard to feel energetic about our life when we are down.
It would be nice if our husband's could support the family completely on their own. But with today's economy it is becoming a necessity for both husband and wife to work. I understand not being able to manage all that you have to do. Perhaps you can work on cutting somethings out of your life that isn't a necessity or that doesn't need to be done as much to free up some of your time. I think that you should also try and look up suggestions online about time management or other ideas for helping you keep up with your household chores so that you have time for other activities.
@happyhappylife (95)
• Singapore
14 Apr 13
Oh I'm sorry to hear that. How's things going on now ? Hope you are feeling better .
About the cutting somethings out of my life , I try not to be too obsessed of having my house neat and tidy at all times. I used to get so stressed up whenever I see toys scattering around the house. It tires me to always bend down and pick them up and tidy it up. I keep telling myself that kids are kids anyway. They are messy in nature. Haha. So, what I did to get this unnecessary stress away is I let them mess up. But at the end of the day, I tell them to tidy up and they did. I feel much better this way. :)
Yeah I agree with your advice on time management. I will do so soon. Thanks for your help .
@ctryhnny (3460)
• United States
14 Apr 13
Don't be so sad it happens to everyone especially when you have a family. I brought up 3 kids on my own due to divorcing their Dad. It was hard and I actually had to work 2 jobs at the same time to get by. If it's really bad maybe you could get a part time job and work when your hubby is home so you don't have to pay for childcare. Time is something everyone has a hard time managing. I hope you feel better soon and get some kind of break. I know what your going through but before you know it the kids will be grown up and out on their own. It happens faster than you would think.
@happyhappylife (95)
• Singapore
14 Apr 13
I ever discussed with my husband about me going out to work at night so that he's home taking care of them .Furthermore, they are fast asleep and it won't be taxing on him. But he doesn't allow me to. Instead, he took a night part time job . I pity him too because it's more tiring to work 2 jobs. But what to do.. have to sacrifice in order to pay off the bills faster.
It must be hard on you to be a mother and a dad to your kids. Hope you are doing fine. Thanks for the encouragement. I hope to be happy again soon.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
15 Apr 13
Hello hhl. My wife is also a full-time housewife, taking good care of the faimly for years. I am the only breadowner of the family. Now after so many years of being a full-time housewife, she is planning to work. To do an easier job in the same school, she still has to wait till there is a vacancy for her. Last month, for some reason, she missed a working chance with an easier position. So she will have to wait till the fall semester. I wish my wife to be lucky finding a desired job in the same school. May you be lucky finding a good job as well.
@jonnagirl (322)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
Even how hard it is to try to make things possible but it can only add stress and frustrations . I know that kind of feeling for sometimes i am in that situation wherein you want to do things even your body cannot. What I did was I just focus on the particular thing that I can before the other. Try to rest and think the most important option. I advise not to think of so much worries because it would just caused nothing good. Just focus on the possible thing that can be done not the impossible one. Life is like that. It is just like a wheel. So better to stop all the worries in mind and accept the reality that we cant do things at the same time.
@beta715 (57)
• Australia
14 Apr 13
Don't be frustrated!I am a person who don't have a good time management.I think it depent on someone's personality and I am aways struggling with time,for your situation, I think you can find some job at home. As a full time hoousewife, it is your duty to take care of your family,but this doesn't mean you cannot work. There are a lot of jobs working at home. Are you good at something? For example, you can create something such as scarves and other handiworks at home,and then sell them in some market. Or there are a bunch of online job which you may find someting definitely suit for you. No one will help you except youself.Hope you will feel happy as soon as possible.
@happyhappylife (95)
• Singapore
14 Apr 13
I'm trying to . I like baking brownies, but it's quite tedious for me to bake for my friends as my kids always cling on me.
Now, my kids are asleep. It's time for me to rejuvenate and be calm. Thanks for the encouragement :)
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
I understand your feeling and situation.
I am also a wife and a mother of three children.
I can still remember those days when I need to work and do the household chores while taking care of my little 3 kids.
It's really tiring and during those time I also wish to have a break.
But, there is no way to do that since kids are growing up and expenses are getting tighter too.
I know it's not easy, but as time goes by- I have learned to adjust and now I am thankful how I managed to take care of my kids while working.
Just try to relax, take a deep breath and look at your kids- and then tell yourself- "I can do everything for this family that I build".
@Deepak2J (1178)
• India
14 Apr 13
Just try to love and like whatever you do.
And tell me if you will be worried what will you get.
You have to do that.
Once i was unable to use my properly. but I later decided that I have to do that, even if i don't like. So, I stopped watching time and just did whatever i have to .And now II can make enough free time.
My advice is just stop looking at time and just do happily. And I am sure you can make some time for yourself.
@lizziegee (297)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
Hi there. We are pretty much in the same sitch, though I know I can't speak for you because I don't know the whole story. I am also a full time mom to two kids, they're toddlers and are in their hyperactivity stage. My husband is abroad but since it's his first overseas job, it doesn't pay so much. I wanted to work but I couldn't find a nanny to look after my kids so I have no choice but to stay home and take care of them myself. I search for online jobs everyday, even small-time sidelines just to do something productive. I get tired, too. When I get really burned out, I try to squeeze a little me-time in between and do something I want. Maybe that's what you need. Think of something you're really passionate about and see if you could also get compensated for it. Cooking, baking, writing, crafts. Up to you. Good luck. :)
