Daughters vs Sons
By mizzty82
@mizzty82 (40)
United States
April 15, 2013 11:04am CST
Does anyone else feel like moms have a better relationship with their sons? Obiously, mothers and daughters have a special bond. But moms seem to have a special connection with their sons. It's no secret that mothers treat their daughters differently from their sons. Maybe it's because they worry about them more and/or their daughters remind them of themselves. I grew up with two older brothers. My mother was always way more protective of me and her expectations were way higher. Still, my brothers got away with way more than I ever could. If i sass her, Im being fresh. If my brothers said the same thing, she never said a word. There was a problem with every guy i dated and brought home. Even if my mother didnt like the women my brothers brought home, she was way more quiet about it.
My mom loves me dearly but she always seems to comment on how her sons treat her differently. My oldest brother is more affectionate with her and, as she puts it, is more in tune with her needs and emotions. Even though I am the one who spends so much time with her, she appears to feel as if my brothers care more about her. Meanwhile, i bend over backwards to make her happy.
What is it with mothers and sons? Are daughters naturally just inclined to be daddy's little girl?
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8 responses
@joizee (502)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
I came from a family with sons and daughters too. The eldest is son and the youngest is daughter. I can definitely relate to you that there is such a higher bond between mothers and sons as well as fathers and daughters. I can share a lot of things I've shared with my father but just a little with my mom. But when my father left to work abroad, my mom and I suddenly became more closer. Moreover, we got the chance to talk a lot even more because I myself have my own family now. I don't know how parents do their selection of favorite child but we often feel impartiality or unfairness. I don't blame them not hate them about it. Just as long as we are together, with favorites or not, is what more important to me. :)
@tinayu (214)
• China
16 Apr 13
my parents have two children,the older one is girl, the youger one is son.i am that girl.in our family,mum seems to more care for her son, and i am closer with my father.maybe this is the law of opposites attract.i like to talk with my father as he always uses some way which is very different from my mother's,that way of speaking comfort me.on the contrary, my mother are always very direct to ask some questions that makes me uncomfortable.maybe my brother loves this way.
@angelwithkids (1256)
• United States
16 Apr 13
I don't have any brothers, just sisters. I'm the oldest, so it seemed like they were always getting away with stuff.
I have a daughter and a son. I make him do more than she does, but I also make sure they both know I love them equally. They both have a bunch of responsibilities and I pray that all this will pay off when they have their own places.
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
16 Apr 13
It depends actually who spent time with who more. I am a father but i spent more time with my sons. Hence my sons are closer to me more than the wife or mother. However , for my grandparents, the grandmother is more closer to the sons because the grandfather often not around have to do business and the grandmother will raise the children. While surprising grandfather is closer to the daughters as the daughters are more trustworthy and often help out the grandfather in the business rather then the playful sons. Hence it depends who spent time more with who.
@richa09pandey (115)
• India
16 Apr 13
its always seen that sons are close to their mother but it depends family to family. it depends on many circumstances.
@richa09pandey (115)
• India
16 Apr 13
its always seen that sons are close to their mother but it depends family to family. it depends on many circumstances.
@ShyBear88 (59282)
• Sterling, Virginia
15 Apr 13
I have two little ones. A girl and a boy and I'm not like why you said hove nor was I treated any differently then my brothers. I had two older brothers and I was treated the same as them all way round. My mom has never favored me more then my brothers or my brothers ore then me. I love and act the same with both of my babies. I worry equally about both. Yes one is you ger then the other so they do get a slight difference bit the fun ride is over at a year.
@honor00 (185)
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15 Apr 13
I had a boy, so I'm biased but I was the first girl after 3 boys. My mum disliked my SILs, but she wasn't great friends with my husband. I don't know about natural inclination, but I was always 'daddy's little girl'. I think the reason why MINLs and DILs don't get along is both feel that they are the most important woman in his life. May be once, not now. My son is in a partnership, I must admit being 'second fiddle' feels odd. His GF and me may never be friends, but she's his choice so I live with it.
