Why no one helps?

India
April 16, 2013 4:38am CST
As per TV and newspaper, in Jaipur, capital of Rajasthan a man was moving on high way with his wife 26 years young, daughter 8 months young and son 4 years young; on a bike; a truck dashed them; they were thrown away injured, for 20 minutes the woman and baby girl struggled with death and collapsed. The husband on their side kept begging for help, 100’s of vehicles passed none stopped. See the video here—NOT MY LINK----http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vps0PEa5qzg&list=TL_Bi_ZrOchus In 1986 I faced an accident was lying sense less for hours, but none stopped ; my brother in law who was with me and had minor injuries went to our home 30 kilometers away, came with a car and hospitalized me; I had multiple fractures of left hip bone; I had to wear plaster cast from chest to toe for months. Now MY ANALYSIS OF WHY NONE STOPPED. In 1978 I was on my bike on the high way, I saw an accident; stopped; just than one police officer came to me, asked my name etc politely to be a witness. I agreed; but I had to run to court for several times wasting time and money; though they are supposed to pay you travelling expenses and your office is supposed to sanction special leave. They never did it in my case; am sure for none. [u]Now tell me why some one stop and help? [/u] Please respond comment and share your experience if any? Thanks in advance. Professor Dr. Bhuwan Saraf. PhD. April 15. 2013. Cheers have a lucky day ahead. [/i][b][/b][i]
12 responses
@thesids (22359)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Apr 13
Namaskar sir In cases of major accidents, the fact in India is what you say above. The reasons are simple - no one wants to get involved with the cops etc. Despite the Supreme Court ruling that the police is NOT to harass the ones who help, this has not been published in major newspapers. And as such, there are only a few who know this ruling. Unfortunately, the government and the media hypes so many unnecessary things but the ones which are always so very essential are confined to the knowledge of the limited few. even in the Dec rape case at delhi last year, there was no help for many hours and when the help finally arrived, they had other issues to tackle. This shows that you can not expect any good help from many around. And also no one seems to care.
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
I don't understand where is humanity (sorry- no offense meant) I am a volunteer (rescue operation for more than a decade) and I cannot understand why people ignored such incident. I just can't help watching the helpless father holding his son.......ahhhhhhh
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
I think the video was taken by the cctv- but still where are those people monitoring the monitor. Imagine 40 minutes of standing there helplessly. The worst nightmare nobody wants to experience
• India
16 Apr 13
You are right Sid beta Our police are so different, you have the recent experience in the police station when you went to report about the theft.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
18 Apr 13
May be it is because of change in people's value, not many people in our present world consider it is their obligation and duty to help someone in desperate needs especially if the assistance they provide doesn't benefit them immediately or the victims are not member of their immediate family, they have lesser empathy in them hence hesitate to provide a helping hand. It is very rare to see someone will stop his or her vehicle and give a helping hand to any accident victim in big city nowadays. People are getting used to see more accidents on the road/highway and becoming less sensitive to event like this, unless it is a very lucky day for the victim, a stranger will stop and provide help, everyone will rather let the police handle this type of dicey situation especially if the helper is mandated to appear in court as material witness to the police and the victim of an accident, making his life more difficult due to some rigid wording of the law that refuse to provide flexibility in the actual world we live in.
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• India
18 Apr 13
You are right, no one will keep running to court wasting money and time both.
• United States
18 Apr 13
A friend of mine took off of work. He was a witness in a trial and after missing 6 hours of work which he did not get paid for and after ;looking at the line which was real long to get $5 for appearing. He left with no money and went back to work. He said he will never again be a witness. I can not blaim him after what he told me.
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• India
19 Apr 13
lol it was wastage of time.
@rubyroy (824)
• India
18 Apr 13
Read the bible The chapter of Isaiah the prophet in old testament,he speaks extensively of people's selfishness and hard hardheartedness and how the Lord is asking them to repent and be merciful to avoid disaster.
• India
18 Apr 13
Thanks for information, i have never read bible, if i get one will read with pleasure.
@rubyroy (824)
• India
18 Apr 13
Is this the address you show your residential address?Can I send a copy ob bible to you?Which version do you want?the Hindi or English.Please answer.
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• India
20 Apr 13
Please read my PM. Thanks
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
hello dada, I saw the video and read the news same time as I am reading news about Boston bombing. This is very sad how people ignore the husband pleading- my heart really cry while watching the video. As far as I can remember- this is not happening our place. We always lend a hand when there is accident either road or any kind of accident. I don't know what to say...sorry- but does all those hundreds of vehicles and thousand of passersby doesn't have a heart at all?
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@thesids (22359)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Apr 13
Di, This is real India for you. Unfortunate that someone had the time and patience to shoot this video but did not help.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
dear sids, I know this is not only happening in your place (I've seen previous worst scenario like this) It's really sad, I could hug the little boy who look so scared and confused :(
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• India
16 Apr 13
Jane beti I know your place is safer, but our police are totally different.
• United States
28 Apr 13
People are afraid to get involved. It's not that they are heartless but in their mind they think that the next person who comes by will surely help. Everyone repeats this though and so no one comes by. They figure that because they don't have the medical expertise to help that they can't do anything but that's where they are wrong. If a person comes by that has a cell phone in this day and age, they most certainly can help by simply calling emergency to the scene.
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• India
28 Apr 13
Thanks for your opinion, no one will like to run to police station.
@gljcleeve (147)
21 Apr 13
It's a shame that these things happens nowdays, and it's a worldwide problem. I think that there are two main reasons why people don't want to stop and help. The first is as you have pointed out, they stand a great chance of being out of pocket and getting their time wasted for no other reason than to be a good person. And, when they've done this, there is no guarantee that the person they are helping will be better off or even grateful. Then there is nowdays the ever present danger that the incident they pull over to help at is in fact nothing more than a staged event to rob anyone they can get to stop. It has become a sad world in many ways.
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• India
21 Apr 13
Thanks for your opinion, welcome to mylot, my discussions.
@Kathy1981 (157)
• United States
18 Apr 13
That is so true in the USA if someone is hurt alot of people will stand and watch and do nothing/.
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• India
19 Apr 13
I had the idea that in USA such things must not be happening, so now i knew the reality.
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
17 Apr 13
That's probably true, Professor. People wouldn't want to go through such trouble of having to go to court to act as witness. And I guess, there is also fear in them that when they tell the truth of what really has happened, that the person who caused the accident might haunt him as well.
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• India
17 Apr 13
Very right,they can kill the witness, it has happened here in court premises earlier.
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
aw.. that was so sad.. i haven't seen the video yet but basing on your story, that's really tragic. if that's the case in your place, we can't really blame people for not helping. others accuse you that you are the one who hit them. :( people nowadays have lots of ways of making money.. others tell a lie of having a cancer just to have some money from other people. i can't actually answer if i'm on the situation whether to help or not. :(
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• India
17 Apr 13
Thanks for sharing your frank opinion.
@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Apr 13
When I was a child, there was a bad accident involving a car and a motorcycle. My parents stopped. My mom was a nurse, and she had to use my dad's belt to stop the motorcycle rider's bleeding. Why don't people stop nowadays? I really think we are becoming callous and self centered.
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• India
16 Apr 13
Thanks for the details, most forget it might happen to him/her or kids/parents.
• Canada
16 Apr 13
Hi Professor this is so sad to read my heart breaks for what you had to go thru I cannot believe people are so cold and uncaring, in my country we have been known for even animals that have been hit by a car on a highway, I could never imagine just driving by someone and carry on and have a happy day knowing that someone needed help. I understand that you did do the right thing even at the expense from yourself, but at least you can have a good feeling knowing that you did the right thing! It is people like you that care that make this world a better place! Have a good day.
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• India
16 Apr 13
I did right in becoming the witness, but the experience is enough, i will never be one in future. Thanks for your opinion, i honor it.
@grvdubey11 (1882)
• India
16 Apr 13
Respected Sir, You are spot on in pointing out why people don't stop and help.People have to face lot of difficulties in facing the legal procedures. Actually the person who helps should be rewarded instead he/she suffers due to harassment and mismanagement by authorities.
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• India
16 Apr 13
Good point, one should be rewarded, but this is India!!!!!