If chance is given will you become a bachelor?

@Manasha (2294)
Pondicherry, India
April 19, 2013 6:52am CST
I have a long wish to become a bachelor again having frustrated of my wife and other burdens. I NEVER thought life would be very tough after marriage. Money is the big issue for all and that after marriage it is the axis. Even though I know love is the base of all but my wife denies it. She wants money alone as she compared me with others. So, life gets boring me every day and I soon decide something better for me as this issue goes on for ever. Life is short and we should not disturb us every now and then on our own or by any one else. SO, if I were given a chance I will detach from the bond of marriage provided my child is safe. Just living because of my child...
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@jkct02 (2859)
• Malaysia
19 Apr 13
Have you tried to find a way to make a heart-to-heart talk with your wife about the situation? Were you two in love before you got married? After living together for so many years and after having a child, both of you must have had some kind of emotional attachment whether you two realize it or not. Both of you have the responsibility to do all you can to iron out the differences. You love your child. You want your child to have a loving mother too. Does your wife love your child? She sure does! So it is not too bad. At least, loving your child is your common ground with your wife. Use that as the basis and work on improving both you and your wife's understanding for each other. I hope things will get better soon.
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@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
19 Apr 13
hi, In Indian culture we can not detach ourselves easily from the bond of marriage. We think about our children. As you have the child you have to live together with your wife. your child would not have to face the difficulties due to your break up. In western countries people don't think about their children while break up. In India also there are many people who divorce after having children.
@Manasha (2294)
• Pondicherry, India
19 Apr 13
Yep that is the problem of mine. I was born in INDIA. Is this our fate and whether we have to simply be united with our spouse even though we are stressed for years together AND WITHOUT ANY PEACE????????/// what a shame
@Frederick42 (2020)
• Canada
28 Apr 13
I am already a bachelor and will remain a bachelor. Being a bachelor is so marvelous. As a bachelor, you need to care for only one person, and that is yourself. You need not worry about any children and their expenditure. Bachelor’s life is a real paradise. Mariage is a real trap. Once you get married, then there is no coming out. And there are so many responsibilities which are enough drive anybody crazy.
• China
20 Apr 13
I feel very sad when I know that your wife want money alone as she compare you with others, I think you should confirm whether she is a woman of money worship or not, I suggest that emotion and family is best important in woman's life. A man has much more burdens after marriage, these burdens come from our job and family, we should find balance point between job and family, we must work hard for my family, we must achieve my success in my working, then wife will stop her complain, and we should give love to her all the time although she always quarrel with us.
@xiejiaotu (217)
• Malaysia
20 Apr 13
well everyone wish to have freedom but when you choose to married, responsible come along. i think nothing can come balance or equivalent because when you use to this kind of condition you will hope for others. so with your condition you wish for a chance to become a bachelor and for some maybe staying alone for too long will hope for family. to make the life more better and not boring, try different things and to be the good one of being husband/ father... start a new discussion in mylot so the others can share with you to help you improve your life.
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
20 Apr 13
i dont.every thing we do,we should be responsible enough for our actions.thats why we should think a lot of first before we decide on anything.
@srisahara (4155)
• Indonesia
20 Apr 13
Hi friend, marriage has two of chances, happy and sad. There are many people who have happy life after get married and the others have sad life after get married. Yes, marriage is a secret in our life. I think it is a good idea if you looking for the solution than you break your marriage, although it is difficult. Keep your mind to build a happy family because it is the best place to get the happiness in your life. Try to tell your wife that you marry her to make your life happier although you have a big problem in your family. Money is not everything, you can happy and sad although you have a lot of money. Thankful to God on what you have in your family,now. I hope you will happy with your family.
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Apr 13
I think marriage is forever, even if your wife is annoying you or making things difficult. My husband and I have been homeless together and we still kept our vows. It was really hard but we believe marriage is forever, no matter how tough things become. For richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, those are the vows we agreed to on our wedding day. Yes things are tough financially for most people right now. My husband and I have 3 children, he barely works because of the lack of work now and I have my Childcare business which is slower some weeks than others. It is TOUGH! This world is a really cruel place now a days. The point is, you can stick it out and make it work if you want it to. Remember why you first fell in love with each other, keep thinking about that and look past the other things...