neither me would like a relationship like that :(

@missjahn (4578)
Philippines
April 19, 2013 11:32pm CST
i have a friend and she is complaining about her boyfriend. they have been together for quite sometimes now, i guess for more than five years. i observed how their love story goes and grows everyday. they are so close and very passionate in the early days. but since, i got so busy with my activities in life, haven't had an opportunity to meet my friend at a regular basis, i mean, we only meet if there is a chance. and now, i heard her complains. she told me that she and her boyfriend meet only once unlike before. so asked her, is your boyfriend working already? she said yes to me. then, i told her; maybe it is the time that consumed him that is why he doesn't shows up. she sighed and answered me, i guess and i can feel that our closeness and my being trustworthy give him too much overconfidence not to work his part in this relationship. i cannot even receive a text from him but in a week, he appeared in my front. i do not want to ask him of a thing because i know, as his obligation, it must not me alone who will do a part to make this relationship working. why can't he see that? she also added, i mean i tried to be an understanding partner but please not in this way because i feel that he assumed that i am okay in this kind of set up. i told her that talk with him. she said to me that yes, in time. to me too, i hate this kind of relationship. i guess, i am a passionate kind of person and that i want to tuck my boyfriend with me if possible what about you, what you gonna do if your boyfriend and girlfriend experience a twist in a relationship? share it here please ----
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@lizziegee (297)
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
My beau and I ahev been together for so long and have had our share of those quarrels, and big fights, too. We almost broke up a couple of years ago because I was kind of suffocated with his over protectiveness, irrational jealousy and possessiveness. But luckily, we worked it out. I talked to him about it and he obliged to adjust so we could still be together. He even courted me again to prove that he was sincere into keeping me with him. We're having our sixth anniversary in a couple of months, and getting married next year with our two daughters in tow. In my opinion, even lovers could fight and have problems. Some even feel their love fizzle through time and think they lost the spark, but if you both work on it and exert all necessary efforts, you can still keep the love alive.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
i hope the spark between them in their relationship will get back as it was before the days when both of them got to know each others backgrounds or such thing like that. they should work on it if they still value the love they have. i guess, it happened to couples for it is normal thing everyone experienced. i hope, if one of them got the mistake must realize and straighten it out and fix it. that is if each of them truly love one another. so for me, why should i waste my time in clinging if in the relationship, thing happens like one sided love occur. gee, not that martyr kind. but i hope they could still work it out. and for you, i am happy to hear that you and your love one will have your anniversary in a couple of months. both of you are lucky for having each others. keep it up :) and congratulations ;)
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• Philippines
21 Apr 13
That's right. If I feel that all my efforts are to no avail and are not appreciated at all, I would rather leave. Women do not deserve to beg for love if a man doesn't want to be with us anymore. We deserve the best we could have.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
21 Apr 13
yeah.. it is just a like a trash. on my part, why should i spend effort when one does not give a care. the two of u must hold hand in hand to build the relationship into much stronger one. and that you cannot do it alone. clear talk is needed for this :) thanks
• India
20 Apr 13
Dear jahn Thanks for sharing, you very well know i am married since 1966, i never had any premarital love affairs, but i know how lovers feel.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
hi there prof :) why, what happened why you do not have a premarital love affair? me, i have a boyfriend for seven years now. i am scared to get married and i decided that i want to stay single forever - haha! oh good luck to me :)
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@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
20 Apr 13
me and my husband have a good relationship and always have. we always try to find a way to work together and find a common ground with our difference. we don't let anything tear us apart.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
that is so good to hear. i hope all of the relationships are like that so that there is no more divorce or separation between couples. i guess all of the messes start in misunderstanding. for this, i may suggest that it is good to have a clear communication and that an individual is willing to know and learn his/her mistakes, then what to do is to figure it out and straightened to make the bond more stronger. thanks for joining here ;)
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@phoonk (344)
• India
10 Aug 15
I would definitely talk over the topic with him. Because keeping quite would just give him the idea that I am comfortable with the whole thing.
@nanayangel (7839)
• Philippines
21 Apr 13
Hi there Missjahn! I would not like to be in such relationship either. I know that work can sometimes eat up all your time but there is no reason why one could not even spare a minute or two to send a text message to their partner just as a reminder that you care. That small effort can go a long way in the relationship if lack of free time is really the problem.
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
21 Apr 13
Five years? I think their relationship is long enough for them to be able to know whether it is working for them or not. I think it is time to take their relationship a higher notch. Marriage?