Honestly do you agree?

Romania
April 25, 2013 9:53am CST
We been dating since we were 17, and now were 18 in college. We been together for one year, and at the begining she wouldn't upload pics of us in her network sites. I had to tell her at least three times and now they are up BUT all of them and the captions don't represent us as in a couple they all look like were just friends. Her excuses was "i don't like to put my relationships on blast".... Does this mean she wants to keep her options open??? I mean who does this!.
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14 responses
@artemeis (4026)
• China
27 Apr 13
Honestly, why is it so important for her to close her options? All fair in the game of love and I don't think you are a good tree to rely on here when you have such a high sense of insecurity about yourself. You are being unfair by telling her 3 times to post photos of her together with you. Have you ever considered how her parents might take it? Have you considered what's going on in her family as far as dating during college years? Where is your respect for her? Where is the space she needs? Where is the freedom to choose? You are not the end of the line for her and certainly not the last man standing literally, so don't play that card where you will regret that you should never play it at all. Besides, aren't you both suppose to help each other excel in grades than getting your hormones all worked up? Honestly, are you being fair?
• United States
26 Apr 13
If she wants to keep it private, maybe she just wants to keep it special between the two of you. Some people think affection is special and should be kept special. I wouldn't want to blast my personal life all over the internet, either.
• India
26 Apr 13
May be she is waiting for right time to come and after that admit the relation with you in public.
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
26 Apr 13
Respect her wish, decision. It will not deminish her affection for you nor your love for her. Do your love affair needs publicity?
• United States
26 Apr 13
Honestly? I have to look at this from her angle and I will tell you why. I am like her in many ways. I don't like to upload pictures and run the risk of people judging what they shouldn't. I'm a private person and only share with a select few ever since someone decided to be an idiot and took pictures from my Facebook wall and spread them on their wall when I hardly know the person in the first place. You may want to talk to her rather than jump to conclusions as she may be really trying to protect your relationship. Maybe she just isn't ready to let the whole Internet know about her private life. Once she feels comfortable with the idea and sees no problems with the pictures on there. She actually was honest when she told you she doesn't like to put her relationships on "blast." What she means is she doesn't want to broadcast her personal life for everyone to see.
@Iriene88 (5352)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 13
Hi, I do have friends who can't posted up her photo with her boyfriend. She loves him very much. The reason is she need to keep the relationship a secret as her parents do not encourage love relationship since she is still pursuing her studies in the college. This friend of mine is 20 years old. So, be open and I believe the day will come when she will officially declared you are his boyfriend to her circle of friends.
• India
26 Apr 13
If its been a year, and if she is committed to you, then I see no reason for her to not showcase her relationship status, but some people like to keep it low for some reasons.... Besides Facebook is just a virtual world, what matters is how she is while you guys are amongst your friends.
@srisahara (4161)
• Indonesia
26 Apr 13
Yes, I think it is difficult to learn her want. I think it is a good idea if you ask about this than you have negative thinking about her. If she want to keep your relationship, I think she will has a logic reason, but if your opinion is true, I think you will she her reaction. Have a nice day.
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
26 Apr 13
Oh, I don't show up my relationship on the internet, i.e. on facebook, currently i am in relationship but i remember my status on facebook is single. I don't care much about it since rarely i connect to facebook. I just do care my guy cares me or not, how happy we are together, etc. posting the pics of 2 person or not is not important.
26 Apr 13
I can understand You, but if she does not want to upload picture,its not mean that she is not happy with you. If you would see from her point of view then she is not wrong and she does not want to see about this relationship to everybody.She is a girl and may be some problem from her site. So try to understand her and be happy. She is not wrong..
@Zer0Stats (1316)
• India
26 Apr 13
It's so sad to know that sometimes we love people so much who just don't want to budge and give us a hard time.Unfortunately that is life for you and my advise would be to let her be.Don't push her and give her what she wants cuz you can't force yourself as that will only push her away.She clearly wants to keep her options open and still keep you on the loop incase she needs you which isn't fair on you so as hurting as it sounds,you gotta let go bit by bit because she doesn't want what you want her to do and pushing will only make it worse. Good luck!!
• India
25 Apr 13
hey it is not like that boy just she those not want to make her private issues public some people enjoy keeping private things private as it gives them happiness in doing so i think your girlfriend is one of those she those not want to take a banner at the rite time and when its time to tell she will you just trust and keep a positive attitude.
@dagami (1163)
• Rome, Italy
25 Apr 13
if this is really important to you, then you should explain your reasons to her. not uploading photos of the two of you doesn't necessarily mean she's keeping her options open. do your friends and relatives know about your realatinship? if not and it was her decision too, ask her about this. only then will you be able to judge whether your suspicions are correct.
@subhojit10 (7384)
• India
25 Apr 13
I can understand your situation very well and i know her refusal to upload pics might have disappointed you but then u should look from her angle also, may be she does not want others to take notice of your relationship and wants to keep your relationship with u under wraps. It is better not to show off to the whole world about the relationship, what is important is keeping faith alive.