UPTIGHT, yup thats me

April 25, 2013 1:00pm CST
I am so uptight each and everyday. I really want to stop being this way. I have pretty much isolated myself socially but even being home alone I am miserably uptight. On a typical day I will wake up and put on full make up. Even though I most likely will not see anyone. Must then clean the rooms that IF anyone stopped by would see. Cleaning this and that throughout the day and obsessing about what needs to be done. I can never do things spur of the moment. I need advanced notice for even the smallest thing. I like to get my mind prepared if that makes any sinse. I just figured out that my shoes say alot about me. I bought a ton of shoes over the past year in h opes of vhanging things up. A year later I am still wearing my same old tennis shoes everyday. I bought the same exact pair when my older ones got worn out. I wear my tennis shoes with every outfit and every single day. Like my uptight self I have to tie the laces really tight, the laces are then long so I must ttriple tie them. I just can't seem to change things up. I need some advice and tips on how to chill-with all aspects of my life. I want to be easy going! Atleast I want to be able to change my shoes without freaking out and worrying so much.
5 responses
• United States
25 Apr 13
There are a lot of simple things that can hopefully help you be more relaxed. I have a tendency to think about something and over analyze it a lot, causing me to worry and feel anxious. So I do understand how you feel. A simple trick I do when I start to feel like my mind is obsessing, I stop and take slow deep breaths. It helps calm my body down which helps calm my mind down. I am going to say this, not to panic you or anything, but some people who are obsessive or get anxious about things, sometimes the only thing that works is to see a therapist. They will be able to figure out what it is deep down that causes your behaviors and that can make fixing it and becoming happier a lot easier.
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@Jyiou7 (84)
• Malaysia
25 Apr 13
Well, being really uptight isn't too bad when it's just mild. But in your case, I think you're not just being uptight, you're quite an over-perfectionist, too. It's good to see that you are rectifying your problem and would like to change that habit. All success comes from within. So, I wouldn't be surprised when one day, you will finally be easy-going and carefree. One thing you have to know about this world is that, perfection doesn't exist. It is the imperfections that make the beauty of it. First of all, try one day to just NOT do anything that you find is an obsessive action and continue living the day as usual. Just relax and take note of how you feel and observe if there are any changes you can see or sense, whether good or bad. Fake it to make it, as some say. Pretend to be really carefree with yourself and soon, you will start to believe that you are becoming an easy-going person. Just give it a try, pretend that you are the MOST carefree person in the world. If you feel the obsessive itch again, shout "TODAY I AM CAREFREE AND EASY-GOING".The main idea is to just be yourself in the end, minus the uptight and obsessiveness. :) But if the problems still persists, then maybe seeking for professional help should be considered. Hope that helps and good luck! :)
25 Apr 13
Easier said than done. I tried to not to clean before. I think the chaios of a messy house makes it harder to relax so I end up cleaning. Or the I have half a**ed cleaned and that would be the 1 day someone would pop in and then I am totally consumed with embarassement and regret not cleaning.
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
25 Apr 13
Sorry to hear that. I get that way sometimes. i find with me a change in routine helps me. Give it a try. Take care there.
• United States
25 Apr 13
I felt this was for the past nine months. I went to see my therapist last night ans it was very nice for me. I am going to see the phyc tonight as well.
@blackrusty (3532)
• Mexico
25 Apr 13
welcome to my world I am the same way seams now days all i do is get angry over the smallest little thing and a stupid one at that I will be fast to open my mouth and I out will come all the bad words out of my mouth yes I have to learn even here on mylot to think before i say or type