Traditions-Did someone just pee in our slippers?
August 6, 2015 8:44pm CST
I was brought up by my grandmother. She was a very wise, conventional, Baptist .In her earlier years, when I was a small girl, she was very strict and ran a taught ship. I can remember getting my mouth washed out with soap for using my first four letter word within her ear shot. She also chastised me for dancing and playing cards. I could go on and on. But, I respected and loved her dearly. She taught me to be patriotic, to respect the Bible, to be humble and act like a lady. Among other things. I feel like if I wasn't here my grandson would never have learned manners or to open the door for the ladies. I was approached by one of his teachers one time when he had seen one out away from school one time and the woman told me how polite he was. I was so proud. What I am getting at here is this: Whatever happened to traditional values? What ever happened to multi-generational households? I think these things go hand in hand. Some parents just do not seem to have the time to teach kids how to act. They need to know what is expected of them and it is a parent's responsibility to do this one. When one set of grandparents is on board it seems like these things get taught. And, I wonder if we would have little 8 year old boys killing their fathers, young men walking into movie theaters and breaking into a shooting frenzy, and kids being so abused at school that they are taking their own lives. Now I am not saying that parents are totally at fault but their work ethic and need to succeed in the business world seems to put kids on the back burner at times. And, those kids that need mental help and more attention(or any attention in some cases) are not getting it. Do you see what I am saying?
7 Aug 15
My grandmother was Catholic, but I remember also the taste of soap when I used a 4 letters word when I was 4 or 5 years old. She was born the same year than the Eiffel Tower and was very strict, but I was loving her and I owe her much. I would not be so negative than you about the new generation. Some kids are still very well educated, but, yes some others are not because parents are too permissive. I remember that I invited once a coworker and his wife for dinner in a restaurant. They came with a 5 or 6 years kid who started to hang himself to the curtains when he entered. Before the end of the dinner he stood up and found funny to draw the tablecloths on the tables. I was watching the parents and they were saying nothing. The owner was trying to save his furnishings and he was glaring at us. I was a good client of this restaurant, I was blushing and I did not knew where to put myself. The owner finally took the boy by the hand to our table and offered him an ice-cream which kept him still... maybe 10 mn. I felt so ashamed that I will never forget this dinner. On the other hand some friend's children are polite and well educated... but they received a more traditional education : their parents taught them early where were the limits of what they could or could not do.
• Boise, Idaho
7 Aug 15
Teaching this sort of thing should start early. Consistency and so forth so important. I am not saying all kids are bad and it their parents fault. I am saying that a lot of parents don't spend enough time with their kids.