What to do if you love some one but family not supported
@Avimom (65)
Gurgaon, India
September 17, 2015 8:31am CST
Hi
This is big problem in many places that we love some one but due to some condition our family not supported us. I am also effected from this and now i am very frustrated but no one care for this.
So please tell me that is it right that family can not support us due to some condition like cast,family condition,status etc. is it for family our happiness is lower than other condition.
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@Blue_Hat_Girl (9)
• Noida, India
17 Sep 15
You can talk to your family and convince them with patience. It might take time but they will surely understand. If you have trust on your love then you can go ahead with it. Both family and your partner are important for you and i don't think you would prefer to hurt one in order to keep another happy.
Make efforts from your side and leave everything on God. He always shows the right path.
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@Blue_Hat_Girl (9)
• Noida, India
17 Sep 15
@Avimom God will surely listen to you as He always pays for sincere and honest efforts
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
18 Sep 15
May be your family feels you are not matured enough to go against them and get married to your love. Consider your age, partner's age, career of both of u, savings & investments and so on which all would actually be a support to you in case you have to take a decision against parent's will and going for love marriage. in the meanwhile, i am sure someone from either of the family will be there to understand both sides and they can talk peacefully. Focus and don't get frustrated as the situations can surely be improved upon.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
18 Sep 15
@Avimom
ok, i understand. Now you can initiate a good and formal talk with your parents that you agree and surrender to their sentiments about caste system and at the same time they can think about your happiness. May be you mom can analyze it better. Call her home to meet your parents, let them get to know each other too.
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@Avimom (65)
• Gurgaon, India
18 Sep 15
Hmmm u r right but here none of situation arematch we both are in good position we r software engineer. Our background are good but only one main problem is our cast. that's why our family r not ready for marriage
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
18 Sep 15
If your family is stubborn you should get the support of a family friend or someone who is able to make your family see sense. Also you should try to know why your family is against your decision and have a frank talk with them.They may have some valid reason , if so it is better to clear their doubts because the more you go against them the more your relationship with them suffers !
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@skysnap (20154)
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18 Sep 15
Increase your understanding with the partner. And that way you can take decision of jumping into love marriage or not. Let parents see how much understanding and caring you are with the partner. In such case, they'll step out of your way. Don't be desperate or push things for marriage and so unless either one of you are forced by parents for the same. Just build relationship stronger and then go ahead with it.
@Avimom (65)
• Gurgaon, India
18 Sep 15
Hmm we have three year strong relationship and our parents are believe to both of us so they are heart for our activity.
@Avimom (65)
• Gurgaon, India
18 Sep 15
At this time i know that what situation create at this time and what bad condition are that.
@kevin1877uk (36988)
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17 Sep 15
That's a hard one for sure, in my view your family should support you in your happiness.
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@Avimom (65)
• Gurgaon, India
17 Sep 15
Hmmm family is always important but think about your love. Just think some one who love you very much will not be leave with u bcoz of some family restriction.
