Do you take your marriage vows seriously?

By sofs
@sofssu (14708)
October 12, 2015 10:38pm CST
As for me.. I am serious.. Until death do us part is what I have vowed and so shall it be.. Maybe I am old fashioned but that is the way I am. How do you see marriage? Is it for ever or is it only good as long as it lasts? I have heard this somewhere but can figure where.. Getting married isn't the wonderful part staying married is. I know that means a lot of effort tears and forgiveness.. but that is the way its meant to be. What is your take on your marriage vows?
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@LadyDuck (131417)
• Switzerland
13 Oct 15
For me it is forever, I took my marriage seriously and I am married from 40 years.
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@sofssu (14708)
13 Oct 15
@LadyDuck Great to know that its forever..I have been married for almost 25 years and I know its forever.. No matter what.
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• United States
14 Oct 15
@sofssu No matter what? That is a strong thing to say. If you were unhappy, you would stay married? If you no longer loved the person, you would stay married? If he cheated on you, would you stay married?? I'm sorry, I just couldn't or wouldn't, but that is me.
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@sofssu (14708)
14 Oct 15
@TexanTornado I understand where you come from.. But I am saying it from my point of view .. I made a decision to marry after three years of knowing the person.. and when I took those vows I know I meant that forever, because they were done before God and man. to speak the truth I don't believe in the concept of falling pout of love.. Love is something we nurture and enjoy for life.. That also means compromises and forgiveness.
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• United States
13 Oct 15
depends'n the situation. some folks get in way o'er their heads 'n 're in very abusive relationships. fer the safety 'f oneself/'r young'uns, its best to break those vows 's the consequences 'f stayin' could be fatal. toxic relationships also take a horrible toll with one's health. yepperz, marriage requires great commitment - but from both parties.
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@sofssu (14708)
13 Oct 15
I agree that some people really get abusive and violent .. even when there were no signs of it initially. However, those would be exceptional circumstances.. I am talking about normal relationships here.. and your views about those wows we take.
• United States
13 Oct 15
@sofssu i think that folks give up too easily, perhaps coz they didn't take the time to get to know each other 'fore they said those vows. sometimes those thingies that folks think're 'so cute 'n sweet' durin' the courtship find 'em to be most annoyin' 'fterwards.
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@RasmaSandra (14866)
• Riga, Latvia
13 Oct 15
@sofssu if you find that one true love there should be no problem in making the marriage last and understanding that it takes a lot of give and take. However if a relationship is not working it is better to end the marriage instead of starting with lies or affairs.
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@salonga (28078)
• Philippines
13 Oct 15
I did because we made the vow before God. It is not easy but the fact that God is at the center of our marriage has been really helpful.
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@sofssu (14708)
13 Oct 15
@salonga That is what really keeps us going through the good to times and the bad. I am so happy for you.
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• United States
14 Oct 15
Hmmm well let me see. Do I take the vows serious? Yes, when at the time I take them. However once married and you begin to age/grow, the person your married or perhaps you yourself, began to change. There is such a thing as 'falling out of love'. Should you stay in a loveless marriage cause you took vows? My opinion is 'NO'. Hence why I divorced and married for the second time. I could go on a mile here, but I won't.
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@sofssu (14708)
14 Oct 15
@TexanTornado Okay we speak through the barriers of cultural and religious gaps. As I said before my faith tells me divorce is not an option. I need to love and cherish the person till the end. Well in the rarest case separation is possible. However, culturally too divorce isn't a viable option here. I guess most people live in loveless marriages for the sake of their children.. I agree people change.. no one is perfect.. that is why we need to forgive, compromise and let live.. Of course this is my personal stand.
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• United States
14 Oct 15
@sofssu Yes, we probably do. I follow the bible, but am I a slave to it, no! One interprets the bible in different ways. I seriously doubt God wished us to live without love, without happiness, etc. However it's as you said, that is your opinion and I no desire to try to change it, but take it as it is.
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@sofssu (14708)
14 Oct 15
@TexanTornado I don't want to discuss this further as we know where we stand on the Word of God. However, do you think people give up on marriage way too easily?
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@jaboUK (52062)
• United Kingdom
14 Oct 15
As a veteran with 50 years of happy marriage behind me, I would say that marriage is not necessarily for ever. If my husband had physically or even verbally abused me during any of that time, he wouldn't have seen me for dust.
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@sofssu (14708)
15 Oct 15
@jaboUK Coming from a veteran it has to have some truth to it.. But I am sure you have taken your vows seriously. It is hard to live with someone without giving up some and taking some. I agree its hard to stay in abusive relationships.. but do you think people just give up even without any such provocation?
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@jaboUK (52062)
• United Kingdom
15 Oct 15
@sofssu Oh yes, it's far too easy to walk away nowadays, and there's no stigma attached to it like there used to be. And yes, of course I have taken my vows seriously, and I do agree that there must be compromise in a marriage. I was just pointing out that I wouldn't stand for being treated badly, there would be no compromise about that.
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@sofssu (14708)
15 Oct 15
@jaboUK I agree with you totally.. it seems far too easy to walk out these days.. Abusive relationships aren't the norm , I do understand a person walking away from such crap.. We have something called dignity and self respect. I wasn't even talking about those abnormal circumstances.
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@DianneN (66733)
• United States
13 Oct 15
Of course I take my vows seriously. Just celebrated our 45th wedding anniversary. Lol!
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@sofssu (14708)
14 Oct 15
Congratulations.. that is wonderful.. wish you many more to come.
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@DianneN (66733)
• United States
14 Oct 15
@sofssu Thank you! I wish more people would take their vows more seriously.
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@sofssu (14708)
14 Oct 15
@DianneN I wish too
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@delyaj30 (617)
• Quezon City, Philippines
13 Oct 15
If you marry a person, you must be ready to accept all his imperfections without hesitations and regrets
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@sofssu (14708)
13 Oct 15
Maybe you and i are the odd ones out.. Good to see you here.
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