Do you take your marriage vows seriously?

@sofssu No matter what? That is a strong thing to say. If you were unhappy, you would stay married? If you no longer loved the person, you would stay married? If he cheated on you, would you stay married?? I'm sorry, I just couldn't or wouldn't, but that is me.

@LadyDuck Great to know that its forever..I have been married for almost 25 years and I know its forever.. No matter what.

@TexanTornado I understand where you come from.. But I am saying it from my point of view .. I made a decision to marry after three years of knowing the person.. and when I took those vows I know I meant that forever, because they were done before God and man. to speak the truth I don't believe in the concept of falling pout of love.. Love is something we nurture and enjoy for life.. That also means compromises and forgiveness.

I agree that some people really get abusive and violent .. even when there were no signs of it initially. However, those would be exceptional circumstances.. I am talking about normal relationships here.. and your views about those wows we take.

@sofssu i think that folks give up too easily, perhaps coz they didn't take the time to get to know each other 'fore they said those vows. sometimes those thingies that folks think're 'so cute 'n sweet' durin' the courtship find 'em to be most annoyin' 'fterwards.

@sofssu if you find that one true love there should be no problem in making the marriage last and understanding that it takes a lot of give and take. However if a relationship is not working it is better to end the marriage instead of starting with lies or affairs.

@salonga That is what really keeps us going through the good to times and the bad. I am so happy for you.

@sofssu Yes, we probably do. I follow the bible, but am I a slave to it, no! One interprets the bible in different ways. I seriously doubt God wished us to live without love, without happiness, etc. However it's as you said, that is your opinion and I no desire to try to change it, but take it as it is.

@TexanTornado I don't want to discuss this further as we know where we stand on the Word of God. However, do you think people give up on marriage way too easily?

@TexanTornado Okay we speak through the barriers of cultural and religious gaps. As I said before my faith tells me divorce is not an option. I need to love and cherish the person till the end. Well in the rarest case separation is possible. However, culturally too divorce isn't a viable option here. I guess most people live in loveless marriages for the sake of their children.. I agree people change.. no one is perfect.. that is why we need to forgive, compromise and let live.. Of course this is my personal stand.

@jaboUK Coming from a veteran it has to have some truth to it.. But I am sure you have taken your vows seriously. It is hard to live with someone without giving up some and taking some. I agree its hard to stay in abusive relationships.. but do you think people just give up even without any such provocation?

@jaboUK I agree with you totally.. it seems far too easy to walk out these days.. Abusive relationships aren't the norm , I do understand a person walking away from such crap.. We have something called dignity and self respect. I wasn't even talking about those abnormal circumstances.

@sofssu Oh yes, it's far too easy to walk away nowadays, and there's no stigma attached to it like there used to be. And yes, of course I have taken my vows seriously, and I do agree that there must be compromise in a marriage. I was just pointing out that I wouldn't stand for being treated badly, there would be no compromise about that.

@DianneN I wish too

Congratulations.. that is wonderful.. wish you many more to come.

@sofssu Thank you! I wish more people would take their vows more seriously.

Maybe you and i are the odd ones out.. Good to see you here.