70 and 4 babies
By rakski
@rakski (112925)
Philippines
November 5, 2015 3:06pm CST
I just recently found out from a close cousin of mine that his father, my uncle which 71 years old has a new family and has 4 kids that ranges 4 to 8 years old. My cousin is the youngest in their family which is 40 years and she has 2 siblings. Their family found out a year ago.
My cousin told me that her mom and her sister stop sending their father money for monthly allowance when they learned about this. The two of them are working abroad and has been constantly sending him monthly allowance. And they are living in their old house.
I am saddened by this and I somehow pity my uncle because he has to raise again 4 kids when he is already 71 and only his pension in hand. According to my cousin her father's partner is 5 years younger than her which makes her 35. Right now, the partner is working abroad so all the kids are in the care of her father.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
5 Nov 15
I went to one client's home and there was 6 small children running around. I said wow it is nice you have your grand kids over. He said no they are his kids. He was already retired and was getting sick and he had 6 small kids to raise and a new wife. I think this is common in a few places and people don't mind so much. I sure wouldn't want to raise kids again in my 70's.
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@antonbunot (11091)
• Calgary, Alberta
5 Nov 15
O, my! He is 71 years old. I know a 70-year-old man here. He is old. He walks slowly. In fact, I feel old in my late 50s though I can still play 2 sets in tennis. I don't smoke and drink though. 
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
6 Nov 15
My aunt is still alive and still working at the age of 68. Constantly over the years, my uncle was financially supported by his wife (my aunt) and his eldest daughter until early this year given the fact that his children ranges 4-8 years old. Meaning for such a long time, my aunt and cousin is providing for his new family.
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
6 Nov 15
@salonga oh yes, I think so too. I am just somehow brokenhearted for my cousins because for 40 years in her life, never one thought of those kind of things to happen to their family. I am pretty sure they are not perfect, but they are still having a hard time accepting those facts now.
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@marguicha (215428)
• Chile
5 Nov 15
Your uncle should have thought a bit about his age before he started a new family. But I can also understand that if a person is lonely and his/her family is working in another place, he might be tempted to seek someone else.
Still, there are many ways now by which you can live with someone else and not start a new family of 4 kids.
My opinion only.
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
5 Nov 15
Yes, I agree with you. That same thing is also my thoughts. There are ways he can enjoy himself without getting him involve again in bigger responsibilities which my aunt (my uncle's original and legal wife) also agreed to that and is one of the reason she is sending him allowance before, to enjoy himself.
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
6 Nov 15
the original family and their dad. well, they are civil I think. But the allowance given to my uncle was cut almost a year ago since they learn about it. All the while that he has his new family, there were still financial support to him from his wife and eldest daughter.
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@Sheilamarie78 (2586)
• Canada
7 Nov 15
That would be a challenge. Poor kids. I hope he has patience.
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@Sheilamarie78 (2586)
• Canada
7 Nov 15
@rakski It will be hard on them all, but sometimes what seems a challenge can become a blessing.
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
7 Nov 15
@Sheilamarie78 yes sometimes I hope they are all doing well and good too despite the age gap
@zebra2222 (5269)
• United States
7 Nov 15
Too much responsibility demanded on someone that old. It isn't right.
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@cahaya1983 (11121)
• Malaysia
6 Nov 15
It must be tough to raise children that young alone especially at that age. I'm surprised he's okay with the partner working abroad.
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
6 Nov 15
I am not sure that he is okay with that. He has just his monthly pension and the allowance given to him stopped already. Maybe his partner felt the need to work because she is younger. But it seems like history repeating itself. Now they are not together like they were in his first marriage
@Pattitude (1287)
• Newton, North Carolina
8 Nov 15
Are they his kids or step-children? I cannot imagine raising little ones at that age. There's a good reason we have children in our 20s!
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@rahulvsmokiee (3110)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
7 Nov 15
i too had such situation when i visited a house for survey.I dont believe that but recently i heard that the kids are adopted and what he done was a respectful thing.
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