Dowry and marriage.

@marguicha (97175)
Chile
November 22, 2015 11:57am CST
I was just reading a post by one of my indian friends here about love marriage and arranged marriage. This led me to remember about one of my indian friends from the old mylot. At the time, he was arranging the marriage of one of his granddaughters and told me that the girl had a good dowry yet he was happy with the groom´s family because they did not seem to center their interest in the money and jewels the girl brought. In my culture there is no such thing as a dowry although family usually helps the newlyweds with some money or utensils they might need to begin their married life. Lately, it is used here to place a marriage list of presents at a big store. The store is in charge of sending the invitations and tells the marriage guests that the list can be seen at their store. This is not an imposition, but the guests can buy anything and the newlyweds can change all their gifts later for only big thing such as a fridge or even a honeymoon. How do you do it in your culture? Those of you who use the dowry system also have marriage presents?
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@sharon6345 (130728)
• United States
22 Nov 15
Here In Ny most people get married for love. They get a gift at the wedding reception as well. Usually a house ware of personal gift for the wife.
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@marguicha (97175)
• Chile
25 Nov 15
It is the same here although there are several reasons whilepeople get married. One of them is when a girl gets pregnant. Anither is that they might have access to better status if they are married.
@allknowing (66484)
• India
25 Nov 15
There is a ban on the dowry system now but people still demand. This is a very old system which cannot be pulled out in a hurry.
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@marguicha (97175)
• Chile
25 Nov 15
I have heard that the dowry system changed its meaning as some people treated the bride badly after they got the money.
@allknowing (66484)
• India
25 Nov 15
@marguicha They treat the brides badly for more money
@boiboing (12781)
• Northampton, England
22 Nov 15
I think it's always changing. When young couples had nothing and started out life together without any of the household stuff, the wedding list was common. Now many have been living together a long time before they marry.
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@marguicha (97175)
• Chile
25 Nov 15
In my country just in this generation people this is changing. But marriage is quite different depending on the social class here.