Popular Music, My Husband, My Son

November 23, 2015 2:00pm CST
My fourteen year old son said he prefers to ride with me in the car than with his dad. His dad usually doesn't listen to contemporary popular music and he tends to badmouth it to my son. Sometimes I wonder if my husband has forgotten what it is like to be a teenager. When you are a teenager, your music is such a part of who you are. And when your dad is bad-mouthing it, it essentially feels like he's bad-mouthing you. (at least, I think that is how my son feels) I've always been one of those people who likes a wide variety of music. I don't like all of my son's musical choices, but I do my best to tolerate them when we are together. In five years when he is no longer at home, I'm going to hear one of those songs and be transported back to the days he was with us. I bet it will bring a smile to my face. Kind of makes me sad for my husband, because he won't have that because he's been too busy wishing Liam had different taste in music.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
23 Nov 15
That is a good point you make, your husband is missing out on good opportunities to spend time with your son. I don't think something like musical taste should take us away from our kids. They are only children for a short time and it goes by very fast!
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23 Nov 15
right! thankfully, i like a lot of what he does as well. so we have that. my husband has just always been VERY opinionated about music (enough to even annoy me!)
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@paigea (22484)
• Canada
23 Nov 15
True some of those songs will bring back sweet memories. I could only listen to so much of my kids' music though and while driving I mostly couldn't at all.
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24 Nov 15
luckily, i like a lot of it. and i tTRY to now show my dislike when i don't. sometimes it comes through though. sometimes i will have a headache or something and will just have to change it.
@BelleStarr (39695)
• United States
24 Nov 15
Maybe you need to have a little talk with hubby and take him down memory lane to when he was a teen.
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@Juliaacv (33361)
• Canada
23 Nov 15
Some kids are like that, our son used to enjoy be bopping to the music in the car with me, but wouldn't even consider changing it to his station if Dad was driving. And then, I have a friend, who is the same age as our son, he's my work son, and he's ridden with me, and when I turned on the hip hop station, he asked me to change it as the satellite radio plays it without radio edits and he thought that it was too vulgar for me to listen to. Two guys the very same age, both very different.
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@simone10 (21647)
• Louisville, Kentucky
30 Nov 15
I was very fortunate when my kids were growing up as they liked the same kind of music that I did. Of course this was back in the 70's and 80's when music was a little different than it is now.
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2 Dec 15
yeah, it's not always easy.
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@simone10 (21647)
• Louisville, Kentucky
3 Dec 15
@jillybean1222 No, it's not at all. If I had teenagers now, we definitely wouldn't have the same taste in music but, I wouldn't deter them from enjoying their music unless it was vulgar.
@GreatMartin (5789)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
24 Nov 15
I stopped listening to music after the Beatles and Elvis came on the scene!!
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24 Nov 15
because you liked them or because you didn't?
@silvermist (20116)
• India
23 Nov 15
@jillybean1222 You know you have made such an accurate observation.But I don't think your husband will listen to you if you point this out.
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23 Nov 15
nope, probably not. :-)
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@jstory07 (69996)
• Roseburg, Oregon
23 Nov 15
I have always like rock and roll and my granddaughter likes the same music that I do.
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23 Nov 15
I like a lot of contemporary stuff which is good because i can enjoy listening with my kids. (just not the rap... i can't stand rap)
@just4him (127251)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Nov 15
Have you talked to your husband about it?
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@Missmwngi (10783)
• Nairobi, Kenya
23 Nov 15
Yeah i bet the music will for sure remind you of him
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@Tampa_girl7 (26235)
• United States
18 Dec 15
I listen to music with my son too.
@JudyEv (134905)
• Bunbury, Australia
24 Nov 15
Certainly there are many people who it seems have completely forgotten what it was like to be young, let alone a teenager.