Planning your life with your partner
By nytrisco
@nytrisco (567)
Philippines
January 2, 2016 12:58am CST
There will be a time in your life that you really have to step in to the next chapter of your life. There will be those moment that you really don't know what to do next and that you're both already stuck and your relationship is not moving anymore. That you already have a plan but it is not enough for the both of you. That other people think that your plan will not go well. And there will also be those time that you wanted to do certain things that you think that can help boost your life together with your partner like marriage but you really don't know where to start.
I'm just a bit curious here. How did you plan you life with him/her? What did you do first?
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4 responses
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
3 Jan 16
My boyfriend and I have been together for only a year, and last year was the time for adjustments and getting to know each other better. After all our issues with each other have been addressed and resolved, we plan to focus this year with our professional growth and interests but since we are already sure that we want to be together, we make sure that our relationship is not affected by our plans. For example, my boyfriend used to look at having a transfer to another state, and when I was working for the state, we both agreed that I will resign and follow him and we are pretty confident that I will be able to find another job wherever he gets transferred. He earns more than I do so it is practical that I follow him. But now that I found another job which pays more than I make in my previous one (he still earns more than I do), he, on his own accord, decided that he will just seek and accept internal transfers within the town that we live in. I made sure that the decision is something that he is comfortable with, and I made it known to him that when he received an offer that he cannot refuse, to go for it and I will follow him. And I also made it known to him that I am fine with that. I guess we are already at the point where we are sure that we want to spend the rest of our lives with each other. And we are confident in discussing our life decisions.
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@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
2 Jan 16
We are in long distance relationship now, been dating for 3 years. Yes, we have that plan about marriage, but not in the near future, perhaps 2-3 years from now. There still much things from both of us as personal that need to be take care of 1st. We've talked about it. Hope everything is going well between us.
@nytrisco (567)
• Philippines
2 Jan 16
Hi Mrswhitfield, thank you for sharing. This year she is planning to move back to her hometown to try her career path there and we will also be in a long distance relationship if that happens. Same as yours, we have a lot things that we need to take care first and we manage to fix and took care of some personal matters. And now I am not just sure what to do and my next step would be.
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@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
2 Jan 16
@nytrisco If you still believe in your relationship you should talk about your future with her. In my case we are thousand miles apart, he is in USA and I'm here in Indonesia. But he managed to come visit me every 6 months, and we really treasure the time when we are together. We use YM, Viber and emails for comunication. Usually when he reach home after work or before he leave to work he will come on YM and chat with me for few minutes. Not daily, but we keep informing for each other activitiy.
Long distance relationship is about trust and comunication. That's from my experience, and it works for 3 years for us.
Talk to her about what you feel, may be she worries the same thing like you. It's your relationship with her, so both of you should talk.
Good luck for you and your love
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
2 Jan 16
we don't make plans. we would figure things along the way. we've been together for a year now
@nytrisco (567)
• Philippines
2 Jan 16
Hello Alina, thank you for the response. That is also our thing before, like we always use this line "Let's cross the bridge when we get there". From my view, yes it actually works fine but it won't do good for long term plans. And now every time people ask me on my plans, I really don't what to say.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
2 Jan 16
@nytrisco but what's the point in making plans and being disappointed afterwards because things didn't go out like you expected them to?
