House guests for a week or two

@shaggin (36666)
United States
January 3, 2016 2:55pm CST
The guy I have been seeing for a year (my ex that I dated for a year a few years ago) is staying with me for a week or two with his son as well. He has been living at his parents house since September I think it was and they are moving out today. He has no where to live. All the apartments in the area are very costly. He asked if he could stay with me for a week or two. He pretty much lived with me before when we were together last time so it shouldn't be a big deal. My children fight a lot so hopefully he can tolerate that. I guess if not it will encourage him to find another place faster lol.
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• United States
3 Jan 16
Well thats okay I hope for you Shaggin. I know his son is a pain sometimes right? I think I remember that. I hope it works out, maybe it might be good, but yeah if not, you can always tell him to go. Still nice to have company. Well he cant be worried about kids fighting, he has to accept that. Happy New Year and so nice to see you here. It was nice of you to be so kind and let him stay with you friend.
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@shaggin (36666)
• United States
4 Jan 16
Right now I am just concentrating on the fact it will only be a week or two so I can pretty much tolerate anything. If he chose to stay longer then he would have to pay half my bills and buy his own food etc. Today I had to get his son up and ready for school. My son was ready waiting by the door and we missed the bus because his son took so long getting ready. I told him I will have to wake him up earlier tomorrow so we will not miss the bus again. This is just all things he isn't used to. I think over time it would adjust.
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• United States
4 Jan 16
@shaggin What a good person you are and so patient Shaggin. Yes, adjusting would be necessary. Keep us posted please. Good luck too.
• United States
5 Jan 16
In the fall of 2014, I was suddenly laid off, right after we moved to a larger (and more expensive) place. My husband's coworker had just been kicked out of the place she lived with her then-boyfriend, and needed a place ASAP for her and her 2 daughters. My husband & I talked about it, and offered to let this girl move in-but then she was barely there! Once every 2 weeks with the girls, and the younger one would wake up screaming & crying when the train came through at night. She'd wake the entire household, except her mother, who wouldn't accept any help. One weekend, she decided that she wanted to go away, so she asked us to feed her iguana! Eventually, things began getting broken, or our food was disappearing, or dishes weren't being cleaned, so we decided that we wanted our home back, and asked her to move out-we even gave her six WEEKS. But then she didn't come over the entire time, so guess who had to go through and gather the trash & dishes out of there? Me-and I was quite annoyed at how snippy she was getting about the entire thing. I think her being here actually aggravated my husband's PTSD so much that he went out on sick leave from his job-and has been out for a year now. We're not sure, but Jim (my husband) thinks she may have lost custody of her children, and now she's living with her new boyfriend, who lives with his brother-AWKWARD. Some people are so selfish and inconsiderate-that's why I hate house guests. Good luck with yours.
@shaggin (36666)
• United States
5 Jan 16
Oh my goodness what an ordeal you had to go through! People can be real pains in the butts! So far so good here. Today the little boy got up well and got ready and off to school no problem. He was upset last night because I didn't know that he wears his pj pants over and over without washing them and I put them in the washer after he wore them yesterday assuming he had others to wear that night. I am washing them now so he will have them for bedtime tonight.
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@sharon6345 (121640)
• United States
3 Jan 16
I wonder if that is good since like here places cost a lot. How long are you really willing to have him there. Also if push comes to shove could you see yourself putting a child out your house. And could you see your ex and you making it again and you end up a happy home. I hope it works out with you. I wanted to let someone with a small loving child come stay with me. but the mother has no drive to improve her situation and I know I could not put the child out. sorry to gt in your personal affairs you don't need to answer if you don't want. I mean no harm.
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@shaggin (36666)
• United States
4 Jan 16
If he helps out with the bills I would be fine with him living here. Last time he pretty much did live here for a year. He was here all the time and I watched his son while he worked and they ate our food etc. It ran my bills up a lot and he never gave me anything towards it. Things were different then though I feel he used me a lot more in that relationship.
• Jacksonville, Florida
4 Jan 16
I hope everything works out for the best-for both of you. I know how hard it is living with other people in any situation. We are staying with friends right now, places are super expensive here as well. Were hoping to get our own place soon too.
@shaggin (36666)
• United States
5 Jan 16
About a year ago he had been living in an apartment for a few years. The owners never fixed things when they were broke. The rent wasn't too bad. He figured if he moved in with his friend he could save a lot of money though as his friend would only charge him a few hundred to live there. Things didn't work out though so he moved in with his parents. Now they have moved and he is pretty much homeless until he finds a place. Rent around here was around $400 when I was looking 10 years ago. Now its up to around $800 its ridiculous. No one can afford that on the low pay around here.
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• United States
6 Jan 16
@shaggin Didn't his father let you know that he only has (I think?) the one pair of PJ pants? Rent is getting crazy around here, although we lucked out with this place-only $70 more a month, but more than double the size of the last place, but still considerably more than I feel it is worth. I'm pretty sure we're paying twice the mortgage payment, and this guy doesn't want us to do a thing here! So we're just keeping it clean until we're ready to move.
• United States
6 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies - that has to be hard, especially with young children. I know when I first married, we tried living on our own, but only were there 11 months before we moved in with his parents and our baby daughter. OMG-I could NOT handle living with them, being accused of things constantly, that I set my foot down. We ended up being there 3 months, and then moved in with my parents for 2 1/2 years. I still wanted to move out-my grandfather lived there part time, and even though the house was large, I felt cramped. We ended up buying our own place with his grandmother's help (and some strategic help from my folks).
• United States
4 Jan 16
Hopefully this arrangement will work out for you and not lead to something that will make you regret your decision
@shaggin (36666)
• United States
7 Jan 16
So far things are going well. I am enjoying having him and his son here. Its a little bit of a struggle in the morning getting them all ready and off to school on time but soon I think we will get the hang of it. The first day the boy made us late, the next day we were all one time, yesterday my son made us late and today my daughter made us late haha. I told them they each had a turn now and better stop from here on out making us late as my van doesnt like to start well on these very cold mornings.
@Teep11 (7003)
• United States
4 Jan 16
I hope it all works out. The cost of living is so high and it isn't easy finding a suitable place to live. You'll soon know what is what.
@Blondie2222 (21399)
• United States
4 Jan 16
Well I hope it works out with him living there and can handle your kids. I hope he can find a place sooner than later, good luck
@GardenGerty (98144)
• United States
4 Jan 16
For so many people housing is an awful big expense and if they can find anything it is a wonder they can afford it.
@softbabe44 (5902)
• Vancouver, Washington
4 Jan 16
I hope it all works out we know how weird this stuff can get.
@fishtiger58 (30346)
• Momence, Illinois
4 Jan 16
I hope your decision to let him stay a few weeks doesn't backfire on you.