When a friend dies and you aren't on speaking terms!
By NikaD
@websavvy1 (59)
Burlington, New Jersey
January 13, 2016 10:31am CST
She died suddenly of a heart attack, age 45 way too young but she had many ailments.
She used to tell me I was her only friend.
She didn't have any relatives, she was adopted, and her adopted mother had died too. She was also slightly (mentally challenged) but could function in society with support.
I would go and help her clean her house, take her out shopping, and do things others wouldn't.
People would look at me like I'm crazy for being her friend because she didn't dress and look like everybody else. Once person even told me if they saw me in public with her, they wouldn't talk to me. So I said well, bye then, don't let the door hitcha...
Sad part is, she really had no true friends so she didn't really understand how to be a good friend.She would tell people negative things about me, that weren't true or I shared personal info and she would tell everything, so I got mad and stop speaking to her... I tried a couple of times to work it out but it just didn't pan out.
Then I got the call... I tried to hold back the tears.
I just wish I could have told her how much I cared for her but now its too late. It eats at me from time to time. This is a very true story, don't get mad and stay mad at a person, its just not worth it!
I learned my lesson. A couple of months later...
I found out my old bff is moving to my town. We haven't talked for years. Now we ar bff (s) again. What a blessing.
I think people should really understand how precious life is... RIP ALLY, she hated when I called her that lol!
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29 responses
@HanVanMeegerin (1161)
• United States
13 Jan 16
@websavvy1 sorry for your loss. You seem like a nice person.
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@websavvy1 (59)
• Burlington, New Jersey
13 Jan 16
Thank you, I appreciate your response! I was just having a moment, I guess! :)
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@websavvy1 (59)
• Burlington, New Jersey
13 Jan 16
Yup! I think of her and laugh at some of the things we would do or did
I am so glad that she knew I was really her friend. I think that's what makes me feel a little better.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Jan 16
I am sorry for your loss. I lost a friend recently as well and it made me realize how short life really is. =(
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@delyaj30 (613)
• Quezon City, Philippines
14 Jan 16
i'm sorry for her loss. her negative attitude towards people is an effect of her background and she feels that no one love her and she feels unwanted, even you stay by her she did bad towards you. It hurts but we need to understand her. May her soul rest in peace
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@websavvy1 (59)
• Burlington, New Jersey
14 Jan 16
Yup, ditto! Couldn't have said it better myself!
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@GardenGerty (157735)
• United States
13 Jan 16
You know this is a very important lesson and if there are people reading it who need it you are a blessing to them as well.
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@websavvy1 (59)
• Burlington, New Jersey
13 Jan 16
Well, thank you very much! I am almost feeling back to myself again!
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@cherriefic (10400)
• Philippines
13 Jan 16
Im sorry to hear that. But we all learn from those happenings in our lives. You have been a good friend to her and that's all that matters.
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@websavvy1 (59)
• Burlington, New Jersey
13 Jan 16
Thank you, I did learn a very valuable lesson!
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@Teep11 (7674)
• United States
13 Jan 16
Sorry to hear about this. Grudges can put a wedge in between friendships. Making a mend is a good thing but unfortunately it doesn't always happen. Life is short and we should love one another but we also have to protect ourselves when friendships will cause us damage. I don't know if we needed to know if she was mentally challenged or not because it doesn't matter. People are people and they all deserve to be loved. Have a blessed day!
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@websavvy1 (59)
• Burlington, New Jersey
13 Jan 16
I had to kind of give you her background... The reason why I did what I did wasn't because she was challanged it was because I truly liked her and because of her challanges in life made me admire her more for just trying. She had overcome so many obstacles in life... I didn't like the way people treated her. She used tell people I was her sister, I didn't care but I actually had my mail carrier walk up to me one day and say she isn't really your sister is she? People are cruel to people who don't look or act according to their standards....That was part of the message I was trying to get out. She was special to me and I just wish I could have told her that.
You are 100% right ppl are ppl and they do deserve love too! Thank you!
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
13 Jan 16
Yes it is important to realize the main issues in life..to help another person if you can is the most important thing in life..you have done it friend.
I am so sorry to read of the loss of your friend that you helped..
Good to know your bff is coming to your town now.
I am so sorry to read of the loss of your friend that you helped..
Good to know your bff is coming to your town now.3 people like this
@Missmwngi (12926)
• Nairobi, Kenya
14 Jan 16
RIP. Atleast you tried being a friend
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@mnjhun1 (226)
• Peru
13 Jan 16
damn.. that's hard. But I have to agree with what the rest have already said. You've been a great friend more than u can ever consider yourself.
Other than that, what's really sad is that she hasn't really learned how to appreciate u. If you were the only one who tried to work things out between you and her despite the fact that it was her fault, then there's nothing u should feel guilty of. Really. But anyway.. condolence. u___u
And see, a person like u will never run out of friends. ^^ I hope your friendship will stay strong more than ever.
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@allknowing (130241)
• India
14 Jan 16
The sad part is in today's world even the living are not on speaking terms not because they are angry with each other but they just do not feel the need. Sad but true.
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@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
14 Jan 16
That has to be real hard to deal with but its just the way you excepted them.
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@sherryericha (1806)
• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
14 Jan 16
Sorry for your loss. It's good you are able to talk about it.
@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
14 Jan 16
Don't feel guilty, at least you had been a very good friend to her, even facing the odds of being close to her, helping her. Maybe she had a reason why she did that. At least you can understand her.
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