Does anyone ever not fight cancer ‘bravely’?

@Fleura (7056)
United Kingdom
January 31, 2016 4:53am CST
Today the sad death was announced of another well-known public figure from cancer. I’m not going to comment on that here, but I just wondered: whenever someone dies of cancer they are always described as having put up a brave fight. Are they really brave, when they are simply facing the inevitable? If bravery is defined as ‘ready to endure danger or pain’ then I don’t think a person with a cancer diagnosis has much of a choice on that front. Does anyone ever not put up a brave fight? I have yet to hear that ‘S/he was a coward in the face of cancer’ although I’m sure that most people feel fear when they get that diagnosis and would happily run away from it if they could! All rights reserved. © Text and image copyright Fleur 2016.
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@LadyDuck (141879)
• Switzerland
31 Jan 16
You cannot be brave or coward, you have simply to do what your doctor suggests and hope that you can win.
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@alchemistrx (2577)
• Philippines
31 Jan 16
In the verge of sickness, we all fight bravely. Cancer is like all other sickness. We have to endure the pain, the sweat , blood and tears.
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@Fleura (7056)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 16
That's exactly it, everyone does their best to stay alive in the face of adverse circumstances.
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@JudyEv (115810)
• Bunbury, Australia
31 Jan 16
I guess it's really just a phrase that used. And as the comments below say, they put on a brave face in front of others whatever they might be feeling like inside.
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@Mike197602 (13366)
• Worcester, England
31 Jan 16
well really nobody fights cancer as such. They just endure the disease and the treatment. I do know some people with cancer who I would say are brave...they carry on with normal life whereas I'd probably go to pieces because I can...don't have to work and have no kids to look after.
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@Fleura (7056)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 16
It's true, they often do try to carry on with normal life as well as they can, but really there isn't much of an alternative unless you just kill yourself straight away and get it over with!
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@Mike197602 (13366)
• Worcester, England
31 Jan 16
@Fleura yeah...that's true.
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@boiboing (12219)
• Northampton, England
31 Jan 16
I wrote a few weeks back about how much people with cancer and their family and friends hate the term 'lost the battle with cancer'. In answer to your question, a lot of people don't fight bravely - a lot give in bravely to their lot and don't accept treatment. And a lot turn into pathetic quivering scared blobs of dying people who just can't deal with it at all. All are equally valid responses to an unbeatable foe. Bravery is a stupid term when dealing with cancer just as losing the battle is a stupid, overworked phrase.
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@Fleura (7056)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 16
I'll have to look for you post, I missed that. I can imagine anyone would dislike it because everyone fights just as hard for life, some are just lucky and others not.
@xFiacre (4131)
• Ireland
31 Jan 16
@fleura It is indeed a curious way of describing the experience of having cancer. The fighting analogy may not be the best one for talking about illnesses, and I suspect that most of us will die of something in the end, but I don't want to be seen as someone who fought and lost - losing is inevitable.
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@Fleura (7056)
• United Kingdom
1 Feb 16
It seems to be used mainly for cancer for some reason, they don't tend to say 's/he lost a battle with pneumonia' for some reason.
• United States
11 Feb 16
I think the word brave is better than helpless since once chemo and radiation or surgical removal intervene, without alkalizing the body and continuing to weaken the immune system the fight is inevitable to NOT be won . . .
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1 Feb 16
yes, that's a good albeit very sad and depressing point. i'm not sure which public figure you are talking of. i'll have to toggle over to the news page.
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@Inlemay (16463)
• South Africa
31 Jan 16
I think all cancer carriers are BRAVE - no questions.
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@tahashif (64)
• Karachi, Pakistan
31 Jan 16
Yeah some people do fightes bravely with cancer like yuvraj Singh of Indian cricket team if u know him
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@TRBRocks420 (71164)
• Banks, Oregon
31 Jan 16
I agree with everything you said, they fight because they have no choice, but they would much rather run away if they could. I pray someday a cure is found.
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@scheng1 (24815)
• Singapore
31 Jan 16
At least they are brave in front of strangers. They have to endure the painful treatment, and possibly having all their hair dropped, and yet many of them cannot bring themselves to cry in front of strangers. At least this is the part of bravery.
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