This is the First and Last Time I will Talk about This
January 31, 2016 8:10am CST
In my previous work I had a best friend. We were really close. I know everything about her, the same way she knows all about me. When she got pregnant, out of wedlock, I was there for her all throughout her ordeal. She was with me during my heartbreak. She got me as a godmother of her daughter. When I transferred in a branch, we had little communication but we remained friends. Then when I transferred to a new job back to the city, we met once. I was turned off by her dislike to walk to meet up for lunch somewhere near my office. But just the same, I adjusted and I was the one who walked far so that we could meet. That is almost a year from now. We have not met again yet. If I will not call her or send her a message, we would not communicate. I sent a Christmas gift for her daughter and she sent a thank you message. She did not greet me for Christmas and new year. I did not bother. Perhaps I got tired of always initiating, always being the one to care, and always being the one to adjust. I am not sure if this just a phase or the riendship is really over. So hard to keep a one-way friendship I guess. I wonder what went wrong.
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31 Jan 16
@nottoooldtowrite That is a fair comment I think, people who want to forget the past throw out the baby with the bathwater. I lost contact with my best friend gradually over a period of time, but I made contact with her on her birthday years later. We have become best friends again now. I am so glad that I got her back into my life again.
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2 Feb 16
She is probably so busy with her daughter that everything else falls by the wayside. Little ones need so much attention, especially if she has no man to help her. When the child is older she may have more time for you. As you were such good friends I wouldn't sever all ties completely - she may need you more than you know.
2 Feb 16
She is married with the father of her daughter who is turning 8 on September. We could at least have breakfast or lunch together as we work in the same area. I just see no effort from her to continue the friendship. Not even a minute to talk or send a message? Sigh..
7 Feb 16
My mom had a friend like that, despite of her goodwill she was always this bitter and have said a lot of bad things about her. finally, last year she decided to end the friendship by deleting her in facebook. You should do the same, better have friends who are with you from good times and bad times. Envy destroys everything, and my mom proved that you can have more than one friends and some will turn to comfort you. she made a big mistake envying you. It's best to focus on your career instead @nottoooldtowrite because her priorities are different now too.