My Husband and Brother-in-Law are So Alike!

Photo of hospital bed courtesy of morguefile.com
Laguna Woods, California
February 7, 2016 11:27pm CST
My husband and my sister's husband are so much alike! Here are some examples. A year ago, my husband had a heart attack; he drove himself home from a business meeting, before I took him to the hospital. Last week, my brother-in-law had a heart attack; when he realized what was happening, he drove himself to the hospital. Of course, neither of them should have been driving anywhere while having a heart attack. My husband continued to do business and talk on the phone with clients, just as if nothing had happened, while he was in the hospital. Last week, my husband called my brother-in-law and discussed some business with him; my brother-in-law did not mention he was in the hospital and being prepped for heart surgery when my husband called! It was not until my sister called me that my husband and I found out that my brother-in-law had had a heart attack and had gone into surgery shortly after the phone conversation with my husband. My brother-in-law was conducting business from his hospital bed like nothing had happened! When my husband had his heart attack, he was out of the hospital and back at work in less than a week. My brother-in-law got out of the hospital today and plans to be back running his business tomorrow. While I admire them both, I can't help but shake my head at these guys. Perhaps, if they would slow down, they wouldn't be having heart attacks a year apart!
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@JudyEv (91862)
• Bunbury, Australia
8 Feb 16
Some men are quite driven aren't they? Or else maybe they just don't know what's good for them - liking taking time off if they want to have a heart attack or heart surgery..
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• Laguna Woods, California
9 Feb 16
I agree that they just don't know what's good for them!
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@LadyDuck (113144)
• Switzerland
8 Feb 16
A client of my husband did the same, I suppose not all the hearth attack are identical, my beloved father did not even had the time to call the ambulance.
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• Laguna Woods, California
9 Feb 16
I think that both my husband and my brother-in-law were lucky that they made it to the hospital in time!
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• Laguna Woods, California
10 Feb 16
@LadyDuck - I have the same attitude. Everyone has an expiration date. Sometimes people die of a heart attack and completely surprise everyone who knows them. We just never know when our time is up.
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@LadyDuck (113144)
• Switzerland
10 Feb 16
@DeborahDiane I think that there is no reason to worry about everything, our destiny is already decided.
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• United States
8 Feb 16
Is this brother-in-law the spouse of a sibling? If so, their being alike is to be expected. People usually marry their mothers. So your sister (?) and you married men that are like your mom (driven?). Is this the case?
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• Laguna Woods, California
9 Feb 16
Yes, you nailed it. The two men are the husbands of my sister and me. I guess we did marry men who are driven like our parents!
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• United States
9 Feb 16
@DeborahDiane In your case your choice was great for you. In my case, not so much. But then, I married when I was super young and dumb.
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• Laguna Woods, California
10 Feb 16
@ElizabethWallace - I was young when I got married, but I lucked out. I know that many people do not.
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@fishtiger58 (29386)
• Momence, Illinois
8 Feb 16
Wow me being the big baby that I am, I would have milked that for more than a week. Glad they are both ok.
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• Laguna Woods, California
9 Feb 16
Ha Ha! I see nothing wrong with milking a heart attack for a week .... or two!
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@fishtiger58 (29386)
• Momence, Illinois
9 Feb 16
@DeborahDiane Yes indeed!!
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@jaboUK (49034)
• United Kingdom
8 Feb 16
As you say, perhaps it's their life styles that contributed to the heart attacks.
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• Laguna Woods, California
9 Feb 16
Yes, I'll be honest. I'm sure their lifestyle contributed to their heart attacks.
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@Shiva49 (9021)
• Singapore
8 Feb 16
"It takes all types to make a world" when I see how people react to realities. Some have end of the world scenarios while few take everything in their stride. I fall in between. Happy that both have recovered, maybe, more due to their will power - siva
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• Laguna Woods, California
9 Feb 16
Yes, they both seem to have recovered. My husband seems to be good as ever (I hope!).
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@Marcyaz (36138)
• United States
8 Feb 16
It is not a smart thing to take yourself to the hospital if you are having chest pains and no smart to conduct business at that time either. These men are not taking their health seriously.
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• Laguna Woods, California
9 Feb 16
I hope they start taking their health more seriously after these incidents.
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@Marcyaz (36138)
• United States
9 Feb 16
@DeborahDiane Let's hope they do or they will end up back in the hospital.
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• Laguna Woods, California
10 Feb 16
@Marcyaz - I just would not want to see either of them try to drive themselves somewhere while having a heart attack. That endangers other people, as well as themselves.
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@softbabe44 (5963)
• Vancouver, Washington
9 Feb 16
It just goes to show you how strong they both are that's a positive thing.
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• Laguna Woods, California
10 Feb 16
Yes, they are strong and, hopefully, will stay healthy now.
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• Vancouver, Washington
10 Feb 16
@DeborahDiane That's a very important issue
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• Vancouver, Washington
10 Feb 16
@DeborahDiane Many years on that one good years.
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@Kboy26 (149)
• Columbia, South Carolina
15 Feb 16
They are strong people. I hope they follow up with their doctors, so this will not happen again. Health is really important.
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• Laguna Woods, California
17 Feb 16
Yes, they are both under a doctor's care and, now, they are following their doctors instructions.
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@Kboy26 (149)
• Columbia, South Carolina
17 Feb 16
@DeborahDiane That is good. At least, you and your sister do not have to worry about any more health problems for a while.
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• Laguna Woods, California
18 Feb 16
@Kboy26 - I certainly hope our husbands stay healthy for a while. My husband's heart attack was about 18 months ago. So far, so good.
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@Drosophila (16881)
• Ireland
13 Feb 16
Sounds like a man thing, my Da is like that.. ah well my arms just fall off lets staple it back.. good as new
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• Laguna Woods, California
14 Feb 16
Ha Ha! Sounds like your Da and my husband are related.
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@Drosophila (16881)
• Ireland
14 Feb 16
@DeborahDiane ya the John Wayne type of men... favourite last phrase "just a flesh wound"
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• Laguna Woods, California
15 Feb 16
@Drosophila - Yes, the John Wayne type of men!
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@BelleStarr (30037)
• Portland, Connecticut
9 Feb 16
It does make you wonder doesn't it. My son in law had a colonoscopy at 7:45 this morning. He was back at work by 11, I think that is crazy.
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• Laguna Woods, California
10 Feb 16
I could not have gone back to work after a colonoscopy, mainly because the anesthesia makes me so sleepy!
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@BelleStarr (30037)
• Portland, Connecticut
10 Feb 16
@DeborahDiane Well yes but he was fine and then went to his class last night!! And he is no spring chicken he is 50.
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• Laguna Woods, California
13 Feb 16
@BelleStarr - Good for him! Anesthesia must not affect him as badly as it does me!
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@marlina (58336)
• Canada
17 Feb 16
Very bad idea to drive to the hospital while having a heart attack.
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• Laguna Woods, California
18 Feb 16
Yes, it is a very bad idea. They could have passed out and killed themselves or someone else. I hope neither of them ever try that again.
• Eugene, Oregon
11 Feb 16
That is very true. They both need to step back and discover some new joys in life.
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• Laguna Woods, California
13 Feb 16
Yes, you are right that they need to find more ways to relax. It is almost 10:00 p.m. on a Friday night and my husband is back in our home office working on his weekly stock analysis report right now. (Sigh) I love him and admire his work ethic, but he does work awfully hard!
@SIMPLYD (73924)
• Philippines
10 Feb 16
They are courageous men that even this kind of ailment , they would still do business . I think it's a good indication though because they still are positive , despite their present situation .
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• Laguna Woods, California
10 Feb 16
Yes, they both have a great attitude and seem to enjoy their businesses. I agree they are courageous!
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@Scindhia (1982)
• Chennai, India
9 Feb 16
How can they take such things so lightly? My father-in-law had his first attack last year and he still rests in his bed most of the time. I want him to be healthy and active but he wants us to still treat him like a sick patient. I too shake my head at him for a different reason.
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• Laguna Woods, California
10 Feb 16
I can see why you shake your head at your father-in-law for staying in bed most of the time. He needs to get exercise, or he could easily have a heart attack from resting too much!
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@paigea (20019)
• Canada
8 Feb 16
They sure need to take care of themselves.
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• Laguna Woods, California
9 Feb 16
Yes, they both need to take care of themselves. I hope they will!
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@GardenGerty (88853)
• Marion, Kansas
8 Feb 16
I do not know about that. The stress from not taking care of their business might just kill them.
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• Laguna Woods, California
9 Feb 16
That's a good point. It would cause them both stress if they did not take care of their businesses.
@dodoazo (8140)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
It is just a coincidence. What is important is to be grateful that both of them survive.
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• Laguna Woods, California
9 Feb 16
Yes, I am very grateful that both of them survived these scary ordeals.
@TRBRocks420 (58855)
• Banks, Oregon
8 Feb 16
Wow they must really like there jobs, you would think they would try to eliminate stress and, at least take a vacation.
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• Laguna Woods, California
9 Feb 16
Yes, they both like their businesses. They probably do need to take a vacation. We were all planning to meet in Las Vegas, but will probably have to postpone those plans for a while.
@yukimori (8547)
• United States
8 Feb 16
I'd say that it's a guy thing, but I'd probably do the same thing. My dad actually had several minor heart attacks and carried on as if nothing had happened even though he knew what was going on. I still don't know exactly how many he had before the major one that took his life. I hope your guys are more sensible about taking care of themselves than my dad was.
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• Laguna Woods, California
9 Feb 16
I hope they start taking their health more seriously in the future.
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