I Want Him Back
By Sharon
@simone10 (54189)
Louisville, Kentucky
February 10, 2016 6:36am CST
I think that most of you know about my brother's job. What some of you don't know is how much turmoil he has been in since he started this job in February 2015.
First let me start by saying that for either 4 or 6 months, the assistant manager was running the property. She was promised the manager position but as time went on, the company realized that she couldn't handle it so they started looking for a manager. Another employee was promised a promotion to assistant manager. So they were not happy with a new manager coming in.
From the very first day, my brother was treated with indifference and disrespect. They blamed him because the assistant manager wasn't promoted. His employees as well as the assistant manager would tell lies on him and it seemed like every day he was having to defend himself. They refused to do what he told them to do. If he pressed the issue, they would call their regional and lie about the situation. They would talk about him behind his back but just loud enough to where he could hear them. No one ever had my brother's back, not even the regional who was his boss. His boss wouldn't let him write up any of the employees for insubordination.
I wish I could go into detail just to let you know how much my brother has gone through but it would be a book. He dreaded going into work everyday and he would come home beaten down and there were even days he cried. It broke my heart to see him that way. But he was determined that he would not let them get the better of him.
This has been going on for a year now. I don't see how the man has stood it all this time, all the animosity, tattle telling, making things up, all the stress and drama. He is a better person than I am and I respect him so much. Now, he has finally had enough and knows nothing is going to change so he is done. He has asked for a transfer but in the meantime, he is looking for another job just in case.
I am wanting my brother back, the happy go lucky man who is always so much fun to be around. I know he is still in there and I have faith that once he gets out from under all this hostile work environment, he will be his old self again.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
10 Feb 16
That is an awful situation and they should fire that assistant manager and any of her minions. But barring that, getting out is the best alternative.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
11 Feb 16
Better than me too, I would have had upper management get rid of those undercutting bast...s, @simone10 B
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@simone10 (54189)
• Louisville, Kentucky
12 Feb 16
@BelleStarr Believe me, he has tried but they are so afraid of lawsuits that they won't do anything.
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@Shiva49 (26236)
• Singapore
11 Feb 16
I know how you feel as a sister. Been there, done that. I have been in situations where every one else parties without a care in the world leaving me to carry the can! I left my job when something goes wrong they look for me, otherwise forgotten! I told them I will rather starve than work there - siva
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@dodo19 (47126)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
10 Feb 16
I'm really sorry to hear about all the problems your brother is having. I don't understand how some people can just do this sort of thing to others. It's not right that your brother has to suffer through this. Maybe it's time for him to find something else, something better, a good job somewhere where people won't treat him like this.
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@Morleyhunt (21746)
• Canada
11 Feb 16
Sometimes you just need to walk away and start over.
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@simone10 (54189)
• Louisville, Kentucky
15 Feb 16
@Morleyhunt Right now, he has two employers interested and they will be contacting him to set up an interview.
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@Morleyhunt (21746)
• Canada
14 Feb 16
@simone10 my father once had a job that was impossible. Every job he applied to was blocked by his employer. Eventually he quit his job...we moved into a new house and suddenly there were job opportunities coming out of the woodwork. I know this isn't always the case, but if the situation is that bad it might be worth considering.
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@marguicha (216097)
• Chile
11 Feb 16
I´m sorry your brother had to work at a place where people were so mean. It seems that bukkying does not only apply to children
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
24 Feb 16
hope he is able to break free from or expose such wretched work conditions
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@Carmelanirel2 (8084)
• United States
10 Feb 16
Oh, now I really hope he finds a good job. My husband suffered (and still suffers) from his job in the school system. Now that he is retired, he feels broken and it is going to take a miracle to get him back.
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@Carmelanirel2 (8084)
• United States
11 Feb 16
@simone10 Yeah, but he is getting better. I used to take the brunt of what he was going through, now it is not as often.
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@simone10 (54189)
• Louisville, Kentucky
12 Feb 16
@Carmelanirel2 That has happened to me some too with my brother. He would be so stressed that he would sometimes lash out and then have to apologize later.
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@GreatMartin (23675)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
11 Feb 16
It is so hard to be in the position he is in and I won't say any platitudes but I know from my own life it does get better!
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@simone10 (54189)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
I know it has to be hard and I really don't see how he has done it as long as he has. He has been beaten down so many times and it just hurts me. I want to go and beat somebody up...lol, but that is just the big sister in me wanting to protect him.
@whiteream (8567)
• United States
11 Feb 16
I feel bad for your brother. I will prayer something better come for him.
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@DWDavis (25812)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
11 Feb 16
If the people running the company had an sense they would have let the assistant manager go once they decided she wasn't competent for promotion. Keeping her on only made your brother's job nearly impossible. Since it sounds like he has imbeciles for bosses and insubordinate employees who flout his orders with impunity, I hope he finds another job with a different company.
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@simone10 (54189)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
You have said it perfectly! The bad thing is, my brother's boss at the time knew what he was going to have to walk into and didn't tell him. He has really tried to make it work but they will just not give him a chance. Finding another job is the only thing he can do.
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@Marilynda1225 (80050)
• United States
10 Feb 16
Working in an environment like that certainly can beat down anyone. I hope your brother finds a great job and can get back to being is old, happy self.
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@jillybean1222 (6408)
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10 Feb 16
i'm sorry. i hope things improve for him. i know what you mean about jobs that can do that. my husband has a crappy work environment and it's made him a little grumpier than he used to be.
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