I Want Him Back

@simone10 (21678)
Louisville, Kentucky
February 10, 2016 6:36am CST
I think that most of you know about my brother's job. What some of you don't know is how much turmoil he has been in since he started this job in February 2015. First let me start by saying that for either 4 or 6 months, the assistant manager was running the property. She was promised the manager position but as time went on, the company realized that she couldn't handle it so they started looking for a manager. Another employee was promised a promotion to assistant manager. So they were not happy with a new manager coming in. From the very first day, my brother was treated with indifference and disrespect. They blamed him because the assistant manager wasn't promoted. His employees as well as the assistant manager would tell lies on him and it seemed like every day he was having to defend himself. They refused to do what he told them to do. If he pressed the issue, they would call their regional and lie about the situation. They would talk about him behind his back but just loud enough to where he could hear them. No one ever had my brother's back, not even the regional who was his boss. His boss wouldn't let him write up any of the employees for insubordination. I wish I could go into detail just to let you know how much my brother has gone through but it would be a book. He dreaded going into work everyday and he would come home beaten down and there were even days he cried. It broke my heart to see him that way. But he was determined that he would not let them get the better of him. This has been going on for a year now. I don't see how the man has stood it all this time, all the animosity, tattle telling, making things up, all the stress and drama. He is a better person than I am and I respect him so much. Now, he has finally had enough and knows nothing is going to change so he is done. He has asked for a transfer but in the meantime, he is looking for another job just in case. I am wanting my brother back, the happy go lucky man who is always so much fun to be around. I know he is still in there and I have faith that once he gets out from under all this hostile work environment, he will be his old self again.
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@BelleStarr (36949)
• Portland, Connecticut
10 Feb 16
That is an awful situation and they should fire that assistant manager and any of her minions. But barring that, getting out is the best alternative.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
It really has been so hard on him and there are days when he comes home and you can see they have crushed his spirit. But he keeps getting up and going on. He is a better person than I am.
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@BelleStarr (36949)
• Portland, Connecticut
11 Feb 16
Better than me too, I would have had upper management get rid of those undercutting bast...s, @simone10 B
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
12 Feb 16
@BelleStarr Believe me, he has tried but they are so afraid of lawsuits that they won't do anything.
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@Shiva49 (12027)
• Singapore
11 Feb 16
I know how you feel as a sister. Been there, done that. I have been in situations where every one else parties without a care in the world leaving me to carry the can! I left my job when something goes wrong they look for me, otherwise forgotten! I told them I will rather starve than work there - siva
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
If my brother had been younger and on his own, he probably would have left a long time ago. But now that he is older and I live with him, he can't do that. We are praying that another job comes along soon.
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@Shiva49 (12027)
• Singapore
11 Feb 16
@simone10 I understand, I too pray that he gets a better job than get hunted down all the time - siva
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
12 Feb 16
@Shiva49 Thank you so much! He does have two phone interviews for next week so we are praying that something will work out soon.
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@Morleyhunt (19539)
• Canada
11 Feb 16
Sometimes you just need to walk away and start over.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
14 Feb 16
This is true but he really can't afford to do that unless he has another job.
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@Morleyhunt (19539)
• Canada
14 Feb 16
@simone10 my father once had a job that was impossible. Every job he applied to was blocked by his employer. Eventually he quit his job...we moved into a new house and suddenly there were job opportunities coming out of the woodwork. I know this isn't always the case, but if the situation is that bad it might be worth considering.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
15 Feb 16
@Morleyhunt Right now, he has two employers interested and they will be contacting him to set up an interview.
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@salonga (27998)
• Philippines
11 Feb 16
So sad to hear about the persecution your brother went through. i pray he would be able to find a job where people would treat him well. Just always be there for him and give him the assurance that every thing will be fine.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
I have been there for him and he vents to me every evening. It really hurts me to know that they are doing this to him.
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@salonga (27998)
• Philippines
11 Feb 16
@simone10 I feel for you but i assure you, after the storm comes sunshine.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
12 Feb 16
@salonga I can't wait for that. He really deserves to be happy.
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@biikiki (203)
• Nyeri, Kenya
10 Feb 16
Does he need this job this much I mean thats a terrible working environment if i were him i would quit first thing tommorrow morning.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
I live with him and so he can't just quit with no where to go. He has to have another job first.
@biikiki (203)
• Nyeri, Kenya
11 Feb 16
Good luck and I hope he finds a better job soon coz that one is not worth it.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
12 Feb 16
@biikiki Thanks and you are right, it definitely is not worth it at all.
@dodo19 (31933)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
10 Feb 16
I'm really sorry to hear about all the problems your brother is having. I don't understand how some people can just do this sort of thing to others. It's not right that your brother has to suffer through this. Maybe it's time for him to find something else, something better, a good job somewhere where people won't treat him like this.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
I agree totally. They are all just spoiled little kids but the assistant manager is a grown woman and should know better. Heck, they should all know better.
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@dodo19 (31933)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
11 Feb 16
@simone10 they do act like spoiled little kids. They should know better. It just doesn't seem right, and certainly isn't fair to your brother.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
12 Feb 16
@dodo19 No it's not and with me being the older sister, I just want to go and whoop someones butt but he is grown and I can't do that.
@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
10 Feb 16
Some people can be so unkind and hurtful. This is such a shame for your brother. I remember when you were looking forward to moving. I am sorry it has turned out such a disappointment. I hope something good comes of all this.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
Yes, we were very excited about this job and had no idea that there would be so much animosity. His boss knew what my brother was walking into and never even told him.
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
11 Feb 16
@simone10 That is so unfair. I do hope he finds somewhere where his skills are appreciated.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
12 Feb 16
@JudyEv I do too. He does have two phone interviews next week so I am praying that maybe one of them will work out for him.
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• United States
10 Feb 16
Oh, now I really hope he finds a good job. My husband suffered (and still suffers) from his job in the school system. Now that he is retired, he feels broken and it is going to take a miracle to get him back.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
I hate that! That people can intentionally break another person's spirit like that.
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• United States
11 Feb 16
@simone10 Yeah, but he is getting better. I used to take the brunt of what he was going through, now it is not as often.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
12 Feb 16
@Carmelanirel2 That has happened to me some too with my brother. He would be so stressed that he would sometimes lash out and then have to apologize later.
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• Preston, England
24 Feb 16
hope he is able to break free from or expose such wretched work conditions
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
25 Feb 16
He has since been hired with another company. We will be moving in a couple of weeks.
@scheng1 (24813)
• Singapore
14 Feb 16
He is really a better person than me. If I were him, I will force one of them to quit, so that the rest will fear losing their jobs.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
14 Feb 16
Upper management won't let him fire anyone. I think they are just too afraid of lawsuits.
@marguicha (90231)
• Chile
11 Feb 16
I´m sorry your brother had to work at a place where people were so mean. It seems that bukkying does not only apply to children
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
12 Feb 16
No, you are right. Grown adults can bully also and it's even more disgusting to me.
@whiteream (3539)
• United States
11 Feb 16
I feel bad for your brother. I will prayer something better come for him.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
14 Feb 16
Thank you! We appreciate all prayers.
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@Scindhia (1958)
• Chennai, India
11 Feb 16
Why does he put up with such a stressful situation? How can bad people certify a good guy. Its a huge waste of time and energy. He is hurting himself by going in to work in such a hostile environment.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
He really doesn't have much of a choice right now because he needs a job. But he has been sending out his resume and hopefully will find the right job soon.
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@GreatMartin (4306)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
11 Feb 16
It is so hard to be in the position he is in and I won't say any platitudes but I know from my own life it does get better!
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
I know it has to be hard and I really don't see how he has done it as long as he has. He has been beaten down so many times and it just hurts me. I want to go and beat somebody up...lol, but that is just the big sister in me wanting to protect him.
@jaboUK (53411)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 16
I hope that he gets a job that will suit him a whole lot better than this one. The situation sounds horrible. Good luck to you both.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
I pray that the right one will come along soon. He is finally wanting out of the situation and I think it is the best thing he can do.
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@DWDavis (10775)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
11 Feb 16
If the people running the company had an sense they would have let the assistant manager go once they decided she wasn't competent for promotion. Keeping her on only made your brother's job nearly impossible. Since it sounds like he has imbeciles for bosses and insubordinate employees who flout his orders with impunity, I hope he finds another job with a different company.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
You have said it perfectly! The bad thing is, my brother's boss at the time knew what he was going to have to walk into and didn't tell him. He has really tried to make it work but they will just not give him a chance. Finding another job is the only thing he can do.
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@Corbin5 (99642)
• United States
10 Feb 16
I am so sorry that your brother has suffered so much. It is apparent that you love your dear brother to pieces. I hope all turns out well for you wonderful brother. I am sending prayers that your brother's next position will be one that gives him the respect he deserves. This breaks my heart because I have a brother that is so loved by his younger sisters. I am so glad your brother has you to lean on. Hug being sent to you from me!
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
Thank you so much for the kind words and prayers. I do love him so very much and I'm so protective of him. He is 13 years younger than I am and I helped raise him so I can be overly protective at times. I just want to go off on these people because they have hurt him so much but I can't.
10 Feb 16
i'm sorry. i hope things improve for him. i know what you mean about jobs that can do that. my husband has a crappy work environment and it's made him a little grumpier than he used to be.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
The thing that is so bad is that this is all targeted towards him. They never even gave him a chance or got to know him.
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• United States
10 Feb 16
Working in an environment like that certainly can beat down anyone. I hope your brother finds a great job and can get back to being is old, happy self.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
Thank you. I hope so too because it has been so stressful for him.
@marlina (71207)
• Canada
10 Feb 16
This is so sad for your brother. Keeping my fingers crossed for him to find a good job this time.
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@simone10 (21678)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Feb 16
Thanks! We are hoping that something comes up soon.