what do girls look in a man?

Santa Cruz, Bolivia
February 21, 2016 7:51pm CST
I am a 21 years old guy, I just became a petroleum engineer (no job yet I guess I need to wait until oil price is up again ^^'' ) and I had a couple of relationships in my life but neither of them ended well.. :/ maybe it is just me.. the last one said I dont have time for her.. but I was in my last year of university, I was focused .. :( Any advise of what can I do.. call my ex again now that I am graduated.. or look for new girls.. or just stay single for a while to enjoy friends haha
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
22 Feb 16
Don't try too hard, someone may just come into your life while you aren't looking. You have plenty of time. If you still have feelings for your ex you could try to get in touch and see how it goes.
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• Santa Cruz, Bolivia
22 Feb 16
mm.. maybe you are right, stay in touch is always helpful to end like friends and not becoming a bad memory in her life
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@vandana7 (98840)
• India
22 Feb 16
Too young...and likely to make blunders. But if you like your ex...and she has some feelings too, then may be you two can get together for lifetime...if she stands by you through rough time (no job) then you know it is true love, don't let it go.
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• Santa Cruz, Bolivia
22 Feb 16
I am not going to lie, our relationship wasnt good... I dont want her to suffer but its not true love what we feel.. :/ but I do want her to be happy, I´ll try to be in touch with her
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@vandana7 (98840)
• India
23 Feb 16
@johnsinvi ..hope you can be happy..
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• Santa Cruz, Bolivia
23 Feb 16
@vandana7 hope you can be happy too :3
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@mimiang (3760)
• Philippines
22 Feb 16
If you still love her, pursue her
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• Santa Cruz, Bolivia
22 Feb 16
love is something that grows with time I guess ... I will miss her but it is not love what I feel now
• Cyprus
22 Feb 16
You are young free & single..so enjoy life abit. There's no rush and you only live it once!
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• Cyprus
22 Feb 16
@johnsinvi do it !
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• Santa Cruz, Bolivia
22 Feb 16
yes, I will do it ^^ thanks ... I guess life is as simple as that.. YOLO
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• Santa Cruz, Bolivia
23 Feb 16
@Nikkiahmet you remind me a motivational coach hahah people like you are needed always :3
22 Feb 16
I honestly suggest staying single for awhile! I am 20 and in a serious relationship and somedays I hate it, mind you my situation is a bit rough. But truly though I tell anyone stay single and don't be looking for a relationship just have fun in life. You will find the right person when you are doing the things you love.
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• Santa Cruz, Bolivia
22 Feb 16
Maybe you are right ... I don´t have to be looking for a relationship, just be single for a while and develope myself in my career, I will meet other girls in the future.. maybe another engineer ;) haha (just kidding I am not so lucky)
@Aish94 (31)
• India
22 Feb 16
Take your time... the best relationships are those which start when you least expect them to.. But while you are single you could try to improve upon the things your ex mentioned.. Maybe you need to get better at being able to handle multiple things at one go (job, relationships, friends, family, etc).. Girls will always like a stable, reliable, funny/ interesting, honest and loyal kind of guy.. at least the type of girls you want to attract anyways! Focus on you till the right girl comes along! Have fun! Enjoy whichever phase you are in to the max!! :D :D
• Santa Cruz, Bolivia
23 Feb 16
@Aish94 end up with the wrong one is my fear... I think u are right better to be single than to be with a bad one
• Santa Cruz, Bolivia
22 Feb 16
Thanks for such a possitive way to see it :D ... I know I need to learn many things and that life is not just my career... with some good luck the correct one will appear I guess .. but until that day I will keep growing
@Aish94 (31)
• India
22 Feb 16
@johnsinvi that is the best way to look at it! I can tell you from personal experience, the more you look for a relationship the less likely you are to find one (or you may end up in the wrong one). Stop looking and everything will fall into place. Just focus on you for now, do things you always wanted to do, learn things you always wanted to learn, just enjoy life! :)
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@mammots (3209)
• Philippines
22 Feb 16
I think you have to concentrate on getting a job. Girls these days are more attracted to men with a good and more secured job.
• Santa Cruz, Bolivia
22 Feb 16
That´s realistic ... sad but true, a stable job helps a lot I guess, I will try to get one... By the way my first language is spanish let´s see if knowing two languages helps me to get a job, I hope it will.. oil price is too low :(
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@mammots (3209)
• Philippines
23 Feb 16
@johnsinvi Knowing how to speak two languages is a big plus factor in landing a great job. If you cant get a job in your field of study then try someother kind of job. Good luck.
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• Santa Cruz, Bolivia
23 Feb 16
@mammots thanks :3 as a recent graduated I appreciate all the good wishes