Advice
By Sissy15
@sissy15 (12269)
United States
March 3, 2016 3:54am CST
As a kid I spent a lot of time listening to adults giving me advice, and I always kind of laughed it off, because they couldn't really be right? Could they? As I got older I learned that they knew exactly what they were talking about. They knew because they were older and wiser, and they had lived so much longer than I had. We all learn some things along the way, and if only we had listened to our elders it could have spared us a lot of pain and mistakes, but I guess had we listened we wouldn't be who we are now. Our elders do know what they're talking about, if only we knew how to really open our ears and listen.
I often wonder what kind of advice I would offer today's generation, and I think I found it. I have a few pieces of advice:
1. Put down the electronics and talk to people, go outside and play, really look at your surroundings. The best memories aren't made by being glued to a screen but by going out and doing things and meeting people. When you look back your best memories are going to be with people and doing things you love, not the things you did online. The internet and electronics can be a very powerful tool, but there's so much more to life than a screen. By all means talk to your online friends and create blogs, look things up, but don't forget to get out and actually do things away from the screen too. Also keep your private life offline, letting people know your every thought and mistake even if you don't think it's a mistake at the time, trust me you'll regret that later, it only leads to drama and more problems you don't need.
2. Believe in yourself, I get how hard that is, and I still struggle with this, but if you don't believe in yourself it's only going to hold you back. Make sure you have some self confidence and self respect. If you don't have respect for yourself it's going to be difficult for anyone else to. People feed off your insecurities. They'll use them against you. It's a lesson I'm still working on.
3. Keep those people in your life that love you in your life, don't forget about them. Sometimes we get so caught up in our life we start to forget about the people that really matter. Those are the people who will be there for you when no one else is. They're your people. If you cut ties with them they'll eventually cut them with you too, and when you really need them they won't be there.
4. Learn from your mistakes. Don't keep making the same mistake over and over again, because at some point it's no longer a mistake but an act of stupidity. It's OK to make mistakes, we all do. You just need to learn from them and move on.
5. Finally last but not least be kind, and don't let others negativity bring you down. Be the bigger person, because anger and hate really don't get you anywhere. I'm not saying to let people walk all over you, I'm just saying to not let hate and anger eat away at you, and let kindness win out when you can.
That's my advice, I'm sure some might not agree with it, but it's a few things I've learned along the way. What would you like to impart on the younger generations?
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6 responses
@Rianel_Lewrej (225)
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3 Mar 16
You know, we have the same thought on what we should give advice to our younger generation today. Especially on number one. Most of the teenagers and kids today isn't showing up in the playground that much anymore. Well, here on the Philippines, they would like to spend time on Computer shops or just play CoC more than sports.
@sissy15 (12269)
• United States
3 Mar 16
That's how most kids are now. They don't appreciate life the way they should. They're so absorbed in all of the wrong things. I am all for the online world, but I don't want it to completely rule my life. My best memories are of my childhood before all of the electronics. My memories are all of me outside playing.
@sissy15 (12269)
• United States
3 Mar 16
@Rianel_Lewrej Mine were at the playground or outside in the backyard playing. We had a playhouse that I used to play in. We used to walk through corn fields too or play by the creek.
@Rianel_Lewrej (225)
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3 Mar 16
@sissy15 Same here. I might be using Internet as an escape for reality. But as far as I remember, I spent my childhood days outside of the house. Climbing hills and navigating through thick forest and running thru rice fields when they are dry. Those are good times, enjoying life with nature.
@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
3 Mar 16
I agree with all of these my friend.
The main one I would like to agree with would be the putting down of electronics.
Though it is a necessity it seems in the world as it is today,
Lifes memories cannot be made online.
And the other thing I would like to say to the young is please be very careful about your choice of partner.
A person can change your life forever.
@sissy15 (12269)
• United States
3 Mar 16
I agree, that's a good one to add. A person can help build you up or bring you down. Some people stay with people they shouldn't. There was a woman that was murdered by her boyfriend here in Ohio about a week ago, and I know she had to have known the type of person he was, and stayed with him anyway. It's sad when people flat out ignore warning signs about their partners, I get sometimes they stay out of fear, but other times I think they stay out of obligation.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
3 Mar 16
@sissy15 Yes it can be serious as that poor lady found out RIP.
@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
4 Mar 16
@sissy15 Oh dear he sounds a real dirtbag..yes the poor child did not pick or choose to be born into that.
@dodo19 (47121)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
3 Mar 16
This is definitely good advice. It makes a lot of sense, and I'd probably give similar ones. I wish I had listened to my parents, grandmother and such a little more. But I now understand what they were telling me and I'm trying to follow it now. Better a little late than never.
@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
3 Mar 16
The age makes you wiser because of the years of experience you spent living in this world.
@sissy15 (12269)
• United States
3 Mar 16
I completely agree, I'm still learning. I think as long as we're alive we're learning from our mistakes, and certain things that we've seen. It's great if you can learn from your own mistakes, but it's even better when you can learn from someone else's mistakes so you don't have to make them yourself.
@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
3 Mar 16
@sissy15 true, but as they say the best teachers are our experiences.
@sissy15 (12269)
• United States
3 Mar 16
@MALUSE Well, I will stick to believing what I say, but that doesn't mean everyone else has to. I think we all take different things from life, this just happens to be what I've learned, someone else may have completely different life views, while I feel pretty confident that I'm right, someone along the way may disagree. No one has to agree with anything, even if it makes them wrong to disagree.
