Remembering Her Big Brother

March 9, 2016 4:55pm CST
Yesterday, I was sitting on the sofa when I overheard part of a conversation between my fourteen year old son and my five year old daughter. My son asked his sister if she remembers Nolan (my oldest son who died three years ago at the age of 13.) I heard Ella respond, "Yes," which doesn't surprise me because we talk about Nolan. Next he asked her a couple things like, "What color hair did he have? What color eyes?" I didn't hear all of the questions, just a couple. Liam was speaking in a fairly quiet tone. I'm not sure what made him ask her this. Liam and Nolan were best friends. And I know the loss has been more difficult for him than the others. I am glad though that he was having that talk with her. I hope they have those sorts of conversations when I'm not around. It's important that they remember Nolan.
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@jaboUK (53540)
• United Kingdom
9 Mar 16
It's great that they are keeping his memory alive.
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14 Mar 16
Yes, I wonder often if they talk about Nolan when I'm not around. I wonder how often he comes up.
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@amadeo (64023)
• United States
9 Mar 16
so sorry about the loss there and so young.Yes,it is good talking with the children about Nolan
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14 Mar 16
Thank you. Yes, too young.
@paigea (21982)
• Canada
9 Mar 16
It's good they can talk about it.
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@paigea (21982)
• Canada
14 Mar 16
@jillybean1222 That is very true.
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@Lucky15 (33417)
• Philippines
9 Mar 16
i can relate with the feeling
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@Juliaacv (29646)
• Canada
9 Mar 16
I'm sure that the older kids will help the younger ones keep his memory alive over the years. Funny, the colour of someone's eyes or hair isn't really so much of a memory as times spent together. Many good times, close to his heart, I am sure that Liam will always treasure.
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@Juliaacv (29646)
• Canada
14 Mar 16
@jillybean1222 It could be vague, but maybe she's encountered him on another level-children are more open to that, wouldn't that be a blessing?
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@Juliaacv (29646)
• Canada
14 Mar 16
@jillybean1222 Its things like that that make me wish that I had some of my childhood innocence left in me.
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14 Mar 16
@Juliaacv yes, i would love to have that again.
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• United States
16 Mar 16
He will always be a part of their lives. My mom lost her brother when she was 11 or so and he has always been remembered with love and fond memories so much that I feel like I knew him.
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22 Mar 16
that's a wonderful thing to hear @Jeanniemaries
@DianneN (76155)
• United States
12 Mar 16
It's good they talk, and it's very therapeutic.
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14 Mar 16
I wonder if Liam ever talks about it with friends. I doubt it.
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@salonga (27982)
• Philippines
10 Mar 16
Awww!That was so touching. For kids as young as they are to remember their brother, they must have been missing their beloved sibling for sure.
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14 Mar 16
The 2 year old has to be reminded sometimes.
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• Eugene, Oregon
10 Mar 16
They, with your help, will share memories of Nolan as they grow up.
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14 Mar 16
Yes, I just wish I had a better memory
@lilnana1111 (2343)
• United States
28 Mar 16
Sounds like he needed to remember him and wanted to make sure she did too, how sweet.
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@Shavkat (60227)
• Philippines
10 Mar 16
It strikes me so hard. I started to feel so touched of your two children. They really loved Nolan. I think he misses his brother.
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@AmbiePam (48678)
• United States
10 Mar 16
It's obvious how much he wants her to retain her memory of such a beloved brother. I feel for your son, and you, of course.
• United States
10 Mar 16
Aw, this is so special Jilly. And that is a lovely photo. My heart hurts for you every time when I read you talking about Nolan. But yes, it is vital to keep him in memory. RIP
@xFiacre (4382)
• Ireland
10 Mar 16
@jillybean1222 That was lovely; desperately sad but lovely.
@jstory07 (66131)
• Roseburg, Oregon
10 Mar 16
I am so sorry for your loss/ What did he die of.
@pgntwo (21625)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
9 Mar 16
It is wonderful to hear siblings interacting like that. Memories that will endure, I am sure.
@Tampa_girl7 (25386)
• United States
9 Mar 16
Yes, it is good to keep his memory alive.