Spending Time With My Children

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@HazySue (16004)
United States
March 12, 2016 1:23pm CST
When I was raising my girls alone I was under a tremendous weight. I felt as though the world rested on my shoulders. However, I took on the responsibility of teaching my children right from wrong, how to make the right choices, and to respect themselves. I am getting a little tired of hearing from parents how hard it is and how they just don't have the time to spend with their children. Believe me, I've been there and I know how hard it can be and how tired you can get. I managed to work a full time and part time job plus get my children where they needed to go. They were involved in dancing, cheerleading, and softball. It was a lot of time spent working and driving but you do find a way to do it. I also knew what was going on in their lives, who their friends were, and what was important to them. Am I a Superwoman? No, just an ordinary tired person who lived to help my children make a good future for themselves. Do I succeed? Absolutely. I am proud of my daughters, they are strong independent women who have self-respect, wonderful manners, and a very bright future. I was so exhausted that many times I would fall asleep in my car waiting for them to come out from their dancing classes or cheerleading practices. Do I regret all the running around, sleepless nights, working till I felt ready to drop? No, I sure don't. When I look back at that exhausting, sometime frustrating, always loving time I am thrilled that I did what I did. I put my children first. Looking back I know I would never be able to live with my self if I had done it any other way. I have the memories of our heartfelt talks in the car, the chit chat about their days and the fond memory of my youngest daughter telling me, "Mom, you always know what is important to us". I'll take the "I love you's". the smiles, and the little secrets over a quiet time in a chair with my feet propped up any day.
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@louievill (15840)
• Philippines
12 Mar 16
Simply said you were a great mother and a friend to your children, my salute and God bless you and your family.
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@HazySue (16004)
• United States
12 Mar 16
@louievill I am trying to say that there are too many people that do not give the time to their children that they need and deserve.
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@louievill (15840)
• Philippines
12 Mar 16
@HazySue I agree, children need our time, we raised up our 3 kids full time , they were under our watch from birth, me, my wife and my mother included and glad to say I am also reaping the benefits and rewards to see them become very responsible, intelligent, God fearing and Church going Christians.
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@HazySue (16004)
• United States
12 Mar 16
@louievill We are thinking along the same lines. Children are our future, there is nothing more important than them.
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• Lakewood, Colorado
12 Mar 16
It is a once in a lifetime thing spending quality time when they are little. It cannot be replaced Sharon. There is nothing more valuable.
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@HazySue (16004)
• United States
12 Mar 16
@TiarasOceanView that's so true. You never get that missed time back. I am so glad I spent the time I did with them when they were growing.
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• Lakewood, Colorado
12 Mar 16
@HazySue You are blessed and you did a great job with them Susan.
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@Morleyhunt (15372)
• Canada
19 Mar 16
It's not easy, but you get out of it what you put into it. Exhaustion is just part of being a parent.
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@HazySue (16004)
• United States
19 Mar 16
@Morleyhunt I agree. You never get that special time back so you need to enjoy it while the kids are young.
@LadyDuck (113426)
• Switzerland
13 Mar 16
We have no children and we decided not to have them because, when we were young, we had to travel for my husband job and we had not enough time to spend with children. We knew how important it is to dedicate time to your children.
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@HazySue (16004)
• United States
13 Mar 16
@LadyDuck they do take a lot of time and energy. It was a smart decision.
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@JudyEv (92038)
• Bunbury, Australia
13 Mar 16
I really feel for single parents as many must find it very difficult, as you did, but they manage to get excellent results for their work.
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@HazySue (16004)
• United States
13 Mar 16
@JudyEv it is hard at times but so rewarding.
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@celticeagle (113041)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Mar 16
Raising my daughter wasn't always fun but it was worthwhile. She is 44 now and I have seen her go through the changes and the bad times. She is something.
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@HazySue (16004)
• United States
13 Mar 16
@celticeagle It's not always fun but as you said it is worthwhile. I am sure your daughter will agree.
@marlina (58464)
• Canada
12 Mar 16
My husband and I raised our 2 sons together and we did all we could. And the result is wonderful. We are very proud of those 2 guys who are solid citizens and very appreciative of what we did for them. Not easy but can be done.
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@HazySue (16004)
• United States
12 Mar 16
@marlina you are proving my point. An involved parent is heaven sent and our children need them.
@DWDavis (11151)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
12 Mar 16
You accomplished what a lot of parents don't even see as important, spending time with and sacrificing your own wants and desires for your children. My wife and I as a team did the same.We both worked full-time in jobs that demanded a lot more than 40 hours a week, before I went into teaching (a job that still requires more than 40 hours a week) but one of us was at every game, school event, Scout meeting, camping trip, you name it, and more often than not we were both there. We were coaches, leaders, chaperons, whatever it took to be involved and a part of their lives. Congratulations to you on raising two fine daughters. Now it's time for you to relax, put your feet up, and raise a glass to the knowledge that you did it right!
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@HazySue (16004)
• United States
12 Mar 16
@DWDavis I tip my hat to you and your wife. It is so important to spend that time with our children. It is always time well spent.
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@jaboUK (49067)
• United Kingdom
12 Mar 16
It sounds as if you've done a good job with your daughters, well done. There's nothing like the satisfaction of seeing your children turn out well.
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@HazySue (16004)
• United States
12 Mar 16
@jaboUK it does take a lot of time and energy but it is so worth it.
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• United States
12 Mar 16
That was so sweet! I know a lot of parents who don't spend enough time with their kids and it not only leads to regret, but to the kids growing up with social issues and parenting problems of their own. Kudos to you!
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@HazySue (16004)
• United States
12 Mar 16
@supercalifredge I have always said you don't need a whole lot of money to raise kids but the love you need is tremendous.
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• Democratic Republic Of The Congo
12 Mar 16
I get to stay home with my baby but I still always worry I'm somehow not spending enough time with her since I get busy with other things at home. Its even more amazing when someone is a single parent and they still manage to do everything and do a good job with their kids.
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@HazySue (16004)
• United States
12 Mar 16
@DEADLYKITTENS I think that because you worry about spending enough time with your child you are most likely spending just the right amount with your baby. It was hard and exhausting but I loved every minute of it.
@amnabas (9779)
• Karachi, Pakistan
12 Mar 16
I think you deserve to be applauded and every mother need to be praised.
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@HazySue (16004)
• United States
12 Mar 16
@amnabas I will aloways be thankful I gave that extra push of energy at the times when I felt like just giving up and laying down.