My Paternal family line ends with me

United States
March 18, 2016 9:04pm CST
I was just thinking about this when I was looking at ancestral stuff (That I've been lazy on, I swear if I could hire someone...). My father was the only male. I am his daughter. There are no others to take on the last name. Even if I christened any children with my maiden last name? It wouldn't count as it'd be a break in the chain. Kind of sad. I mean, I can't say I particularly like that side of my family anyway, but thinking of the ancestral lineage, it's kind of sad that it breaks off there.
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@kaka135 (14055)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 16
I personally do not really mind of that, though I understand what you mean. My maternal family has ended with my mom's generation, as my maternal grandmother only has 5 daughters. As for my paternal family, my father and uncle each has one son, and my elder brother hasn't get married yet. I am not sure if he will be married or not. So, it's just depending on my uncle's son, see if he's getting married and has a son in future. My husband's side is fine, as there are more boys there, and I have two boys as well.
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• United States
19 Mar 16
I don't mind it so much for my immediate relatives as I can't say I get along / like them but just thinking of the ancestral line at all. AS one person said it's not the first time a hertiage has been broken and it won't be hte last.
@jaboUK (54490)
• United Kingdom
19 Mar 16
Mu husband's line will end with our children - we have no grandchildren, and his brother was a bachelor.
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• United States
19 Mar 16
I know some people think I am making a big deal out of it but it's a heritage, and kind of sad really. No chance of grandchildren at all?
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@jaboUK (54490)
• United Kingdom
21 Mar 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum No - I've a son and a daughter, both married, and one couple can't have children, the other doesn't want. They are both in their 40s now, so there's no chance.
@Mike197602 (13758)
• United Kingdom
19 Mar 16
I don't think I exactly get what you mean. If you had a son and he had your last name wouldn't that carry on the name?
• United States
19 Mar 16
True, but it would need to be something like Invitro, where it was my eggs but a sperm donor. Right now I still have my married name attached to me. I was thinking more of marriage / father in child's life thing. Most men aren't going to say "oh sure you can name our kid after your family line."
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@Mike197602 (13758)
• United Kingdom
19 Mar 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum Yes you're probably right. Only thing I can think of is a double barrelled name with your maiden name as the last one. That may be a good compromise to any future partner....although I'd always try to be the second barrel
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@Mike197602 (13758)
• United Kingdom
19 Mar 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum don't blame you I've decided to become a confirmed bachelor...without the gayness if you decide to look up the term
@Telynor (1325)
• United States
19 Mar 16
My brother and I are both childless, so my mother's genes won't be going anywhere.
• United States
19 Mar 16
I base things like that off of the men, the father's. My grandfather has four children, eight grandchildren (9 if you count a step grandchild but she isn't of our blood), and Four great grandchildren (six if you count the children of the step grand daughter). So that side of things is well and covered. Of course out of all of them, only one will carry on his surname. I'd like children some day (and it should be soon as I am nearly 30) but I am in no hurry either.
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@Telynor (1325)
• United States
19 Mar 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum I tried to have children, but the fates were against me. That journey ended with having cancer in my mid-thirties.
@Telynor (1325)
• United States
19 Mar 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum I agree with you about adoption. I hear so many horror stories. If you do decide to have children, get yourself checked out by a OB/GYN as they can help you avoid the worst of it. You can always go in vitro if you don't want the marriage entanglement.
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@TRBRocks420 (79506)
• Banks, Oregon
19 Mar 16
That is kind of sad I don't have any kids either and, unsure if I ever will.
• United States
19 Mar 16
I would like to have kids but I am not sure that I ever will.
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@Mike197602 (13758)
• United Kingdom
19 Mar 16
I don't have any kids and am pretty sure I never will. Partly due to the fact that I have no partner but mainly due to the fact that at nearly 40 I don't think I've the sort of personality to be a decent father.
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@TRBRocks420 (79506)
• Banks, Oregon
19 Mar 16
@Mike197602 I think I would be a good Dad, but I don't have a partner and, not sure one exists. I could spend everyday with. I know I haven't met one lol.
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• India
19 Mar 16
Let me try to understand what you said correct me if I am wrong. You mean to say your surname is going to be different since you got married to a person who's surname is different ? And seems like you were wishing for a brother ? But I read somewhere - if your husband is ready to change his surname, there is procedure for that. I don't know how it goes in USA but in India one is free to change it. In India also when girl moves in to other family after marriage she has to adopt Husband's name as maiden name and husband's surname as her surname.
• United States
19 Mar 16
I'm divorced now, have been for years. However, I still (legally) have his surname instead of my own. My maiden surname is (legally) my middle name. My father's ancestral line stops with me because I am a female. Even if I did give any children I had my maiden surname, it wouldn't quite be the same.
• India
19 Mar 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum Since you are divorced. You can change your name. In India you have to fill a form and apply for it with a proof of your separation. So your old name will be retrieved. Wait let me search a bit. Here is the link - I didn't read the whole article but yes I saw few points like - What to do if you want to change your name and how to change children's name as well. Hope it would be of some help. Kindly ignore ... Lol I took it wrong way. That is how it works... girl has to leave the lineage and join her husband's lineage.
Here are some tips and insights on changing your name after a divorce. When I got married, I changed my last name to my husband's. Now we are getting divorced and I
• United States
19 Mar 16
@UR_Forever_Raja I don't think we are getting each other completely. Or rather, understanding each other. I am the last person in the family with the maiden name I have. No males will carry it on. That is the sad part.
@Gina145 (3974)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
19 Mar 16
My situation was similar as I'm an only child and so was my Dad. What made it even worse is that I've never married and it's too late to have children now, so it's more than just the name that stops with me.
• United States
19 Mar 16
I've been married before. I am not too old to have children but have female health issues that might make it hard. Well that and I don't really have a social life.
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@Mike197602 (13758)
• United Kingdom
19 Mar 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum social life may have come into it in previous times but realistically people don't need partners these days to have kids. There's the donor route and also the adoption route. Maybe fostering too.
• United States
19 Mar 16
@Mike197602 True, but it wouldn't be exactly the same. I'm a stickler for technicalities.
@Morleyhunt (19856)
• Canada
19 Mar 16
We had neighbours, as I was growing up, that had three boys......the mother, had only one sister, so the linear name ended there. They had three boys and they gave them hyphenated last names....now they would probably just have taken moms last name.
• United States
19 Mar 16
I think the first time I really heard about hyphenated names was on mylot years ago. I can't even remember WHO it was but I would be able to tell you if I saw them again. THey've not been on in years. I'm very much the lady that would take my husband's last name and not ask him to allow me to hyphenate the kids names, nor ask him to hyphenate his own. Sadly, I only really care about the family name not going on because of my ancestors. My immediate family (my father).. I've never really gotten along with. They are a very closed off family.
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@Morleyhunt (19856)
• Canada
19 Mar 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum my husband was an only son...we had four daughters and one son.....our son has three daughters and two sons. The name is secure for another generation.
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@allknowing (66608)
• India
19 Mar 16
There must be countless families going through this. Undue importance is given to this lineage thing. Please do not feel sad. Just move on and concentrate on giving your husband the lineage.
• United States
19 Mar 16
I am sure you are right but it's still quite sad.
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@allknowing (66608)
• India
19 Mar 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum Time will diffuse situations. You will not even be there to realise that.
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• Philippines
21 Mar 16
Not sure if i should continue the family line because my elder brothers already have children. but that's not really important to me. unless you have a kingdom or a gigantic business empire which you will need heir to the throne or something like that.
• United States
19 Mar 16
I was thinking that the other day.. I have one son grown, he has no children..it will be the last of us if he has none in his lifetime. It is a bit sad to think of it Reality.
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
19 Mar 16
Yes it is sad but the other way to look at it is it will be a new Future and you have started a new Line
@lilnana1111 (2341)
• United States
19 Mar 16
That is kind of sad.