Why do some lderly people become so bitter.

@DaintyD (1103)
March 19, 2016 1:11pm CST
Took a week off work to have my nan stay with me. Daily I have taken her out on day trips - ans tending to all of her needs. It's been physically and emotionally draining. She is so bitter and negative about everything and everyone. Constantly attempting to get others to pitty her. How does such a cheerful and living person become so negative and agancy. ?? She does not have Alsimers or any other illness she is very strong and healthy!
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• Pensacola, Florida
19 Mar 16
Its nothing new for elderly people to be bitter. My great grandma lived to be ninety six, and she had been bitter my whole life.
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@DaintyD (1103)
19 Mar 16
My nan was so cheerful, loving, loyal, the last 2/3 years she began to get negative however this week has been a nightmare.
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• Pensacola, Florida
19 Mar 16
@DaintyD How old is she? I think the longer they live, the more of their friends and family that they out live, the more bitter they become. My great grandma outlived just about every single one of her family members and all her friends, she also outlived her husband by ten years and her son by three. Which I'm sure made her more bitter.
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@DaintyD (1103)
19 Mar 16
@lexiconlover I'm also sure it's deaths that Have caused my nans bitterness. She has also outlived many loved ones. But she's now also becoming lonley because no one wants to be around her anymore Catch 22 tbh.
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@jaboUK (53935)
• United Kingdom
19 Mar 16
I don't think you can necessarily blame her age - not all of us that are elderly have a negative attitude - just the opposite.
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@TheHorse (65785)
• Pleasant Hill, California
19 Mar 16
Most of the older folks I know are not bitter.
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@vandana7 (64894)
• India
19 Mar 16
There are few who may have genetic predisposition to be like that...
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@DaintyD (1103)
19 Mar 16
@vandana7 I wasn't awear if this - may have to look into it more.
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@vandana7 (64894)
• India
19 Mar 16
@DaintyD ...I am guessing...do check if blood pressure is ok...if she is getting right medication for her health...I'd suspect high blood pressure and failing to take medication.
@marlina (73884)
• Canada
19 Mar 16
We are not all like that just because we are older you know.
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@DaintyD (1103)
19 Mar 16
@marlina You are right to correct me there - most people do not get like this I am fully awear. I poorly worded that and I apologise. I was talking purely about those who do become bitter and what a shame it is.
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• Pensacola, Florida
19 Mar 16
I didn't mean to imply that everyone who was older was that way, but it does definitely happen often.
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@vandana7 (64894)
• India
19 Mar 16
I think those who are kind of perfectionists tend to develop that tendency.
@Marcyaz (35670)
• United States
19 Mar 16
It sounds like she has had some misfortune in her life. Most elderly people I know are upbeat and the ones that aren't I really don't want to be around them. It's like when you go to a store if you are greeted with a hello and a smile you feel good but if you are greeted with stares and looks that seem to you like you are not wanted there you don't go back. Sounds like you need to talk with her and ask her why is she so bitter.
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@DaintyD (1103)
19 Mar 16
@marcyaz I have attemped to approach her about it several times, I find myself correcting her and asking her not to lie or be cruel intent times a day. But she just attempts to cover up her words.
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@DaintyD (1103)
19 Mar 16
@marcyz It's really rediculas now. I caught her in the phone the other day complaining to her friend that she never see's or heard from anyone that she's totally alone me not seen family for months - that she had spend Christmas, Mother's Day be her birthday alone. The truth is she was here with me for all of them, and each time her friends and other family members came here to visit her, her phone does not stop ringing. Many relatives visit her on a regular basis often staying with her for weeks at a time. I became so cross I took the dogs for a walk.
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@Marcyaz (35670)
• United States
19 Mar 16
@DaintyD It sounds like she is lonely and just wants attention. Or her mind may be starting to go.
@kevin1877uk (36976)
19 Mar 16
I guess some can be and some arn't, maybe it's the way she's gone through life.
@DaintyD (1103)
19 Mar 16
@kevin1877uk I think it's loosing my gramp and Ant - but she's just nasty to everyone around her now. I took a week off work to relax and decided to invite her to stay with me. It's been so hard in completely warn out. My partner has spent the week in the games room or out because he simply hasn't been able to cope
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@kevin1877uk (36976)
19 Mar 16
@DaintyD Lol I know what you mean there. When I was married my mother-in-law who was much older seeing see didn't have kids until she was 40 was like that too. I hated her staying knowing what it was going to be like. The all older people aren't like that, My uncle who's in his nineties is totally the opposite.
@DaintyD (1103)
22 Mar 16
@kevin1877uk It's normally nice having nan her, but this time was really hard. I do feel sorry for my partner having to hide away in his own house thou
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@destimona (1930)
• Luxembourg, Luxembourg
21 Mar 16
Lack of attention,lack of love and caring, lack of communication with others are the key source of bitter and negative behaviour of many old people According to me.
@DaintyD (1103)
22 Mar 16
@destimona I agree with you for most cases. But not nan - she has visitors pretty much daily, her phone does not stop ringing and she's always out on social activities much as meals exc.
@amadeo (65848)
• United States
19 Mar 16
Not here we are elderly we are not bitter.Maybe she comes from the wrong stock. No problem here.Do not assume that we are all bitter.she is the problem and do give us a bad name. We are sweet,lovable and yes we can be grouchy at times but short lived.
@DaintyD (1103)
19 Mar 16
@amado I know not all people are like it, hence asking why 'some become bitter' it's very upsetting to see such a joyful person change do dramatically. I'm concerned about her
@rakski (16052)
• Philippines
30 Mar 16
Most of the elderly aged liked that. Probably it's their defense mechanism so they will loved and taken cared of. It is the time their insecurities got to the top most level since they feel they are useless, worthless and penniless too.