Why do some lderly people become so bitter.
By Danty D
@DaintyD (1101)
March 19, 2016 1:11pm CST
Took a week off work to have my nan stay with me. Daily I have taken her out on day trips - ans tending to all of her needs.
It's been physically and emotionally draining. She is so bitter and negative about everything and everyone. Constantly attempting to get others to pitty her.
How does such a cheerful and living person become so negative and agancy. ??
She does not have Alsimers or any other illness she is very strong and healthy!
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
19 Mar 16
It sounds like she has had some misfortune in her life. Most elderly people I know are upbeat and the ones that aren't I really don't want to be around them. It's like when you go to a store if you are greeted with a hello and a smile you feel good but if you are greeted with stares and looks that seem to you like you are not wanted there you don't go back. Sounds like you need to talk with her and ask her why is she so bitter.
@DaintyD (1101)
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19 Mar 16
@marcyz
It's really rediculas now. I caught her in the phone the other day complaining to her friend that she never see's or heard from anyone that she's totally alone me not seen family for months - that she had spend Christmas, Mother's Day be her birthday alone.
The truth is she was here with me for all of them, and each time her friends and other family members came here to visit her, her phone does not stop ringing. Many relatives visit her on a regular basis often staying with her for weeks at a time.
I became so cross I took the dogs for a walk.
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
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19 Mar 16
I guess some can be and some arn't, maybe it's the way she's gone through life.
@kevin1877uk (36988)
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19 Mar 16
@DaintyD Lol I know what you mean there. When I was married my mother-in-law who was much older seeing see didn't have kids until she was 40 was like that too. I hated her staying knowing what it was going to be like.
The all older people aren't like that, My uncle who's in his nineties is totally the opposite.
@DaintyD (1101)
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22 Mar 16
@kevin1877uk
It's normally nice having nan her, but this time was really hard. I do feel sorry for my partner having to hide away in his own house thou
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@DaintyD (1101)
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19 Mar 16
@kevin1877uk
I think it's loosing my gramp and Ant - but she's just nasty to everyone around her now. I took a week off work to relax and decided to invite her to stay with me. It's been so hard in completely warn out. My partner has spent the week in the games room or out because he simply hasn't been able to cope
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@destimona (1910)
• Luxembourg, Luxembourg
21 Mar 16
Lack of attention,lack of love and caring, lack of communication with others are the key source of bitter and negative behaviour of many old people According to me.
@DaintyD (1101)
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22 Mar 16
@destimona
I agree with you for most cases. But not nan - she has visitors pretty much daily, her phone does not stop ringing and she's always out on social activities much as meals exc.
@amadeo (111948)
• United States
19 Mar 16
Not here we are elderly we are not bitter.Maybe she comes from the wrong stock.
No problem here.Do not assume that we are all bitter.she is the problem and do give us a bad name.
We are sweet,lovable and yes we can be grouchy at times but short lived.
